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Tamoxifen 34 *the power of Sauron*

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MaryAnnSingleton · 29/03/2013 18:35

new thread !!!

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thenightisyoung · 01/04/2013 20:34

kk agreed, please don't bow out, I love your posts and all the everyday news (the extent of my lurking is coming out now!)

ginger when I was diagnosed with my second cancer, six months after my first I had acute anxiety and very dark moments. My posts on here were fairly miserable and paranoid and not of the jokey type at all!

AshokanFarewell · 01/04/2013 20:36

ginger I'm really sorry you feel that way. Part of the reason is that a lot of us use humour as a way of coping with the scary/tough moments. If you look back you'll see that people have also posted less cheerful things too. I can't speak for everyone but I try not to dwell on the bad stuff too much as I find it can make it worse whereas coming on here and having a giggle really cheers me up. The support I've had from this thread has been amazing, so please do come back and tell us what's worrying you and we will try and help.

KK please don't go! You're lovely and you provide a lot of support here, your posts always make me smile. It's good to have a range of people at different stages of their cancer journey.

HND what a pain the nurse came late, especially when she said she would be early! And sorry you and DS have had a tough day. Were you able to go out after they had been? Hopefully the fact the other nurse was training means there will be more nurses able to do it and you will be seen more quickly next time! Plus it's good the pump is working.

ned I'm a lot better this evening thanks :) your walk sounds lovely and glad your in laws behaved themselves!

topsyturner · 01/04/2013 20:43

Ginger we most definitely not happy all the time .
We have all sat on this board and sobbed and cried .
As the others have said , it all depends on what stage you are at .
And never feel that you can't come here and say any of your darker thoughts .
I can gaurentee that we have all thought them .

KK keep your arse on this board !
If you try to bow out I shall stalk you to within an inch of your life .

I come to this board to speak to like minded women .
The cancer support is great too , but I would like you all without that Grin

gingeroots · 01/04/2013 20:49

OK everyone ,don't over respond .
It's just my view ,everyone is different .

KK - I'm so sorry that my post seemed to be directed at you . It so wasn't .
Your posts in particular have kept me going.

Gigondas · 01/04/2013 21:06

Glad you are still around ginger.

Spoke to onc tonight who was reassuring. Am going to get some more painkillers and also go back on steroids. Be afraid... Topsy- we are going back to 'nam.

topsyturner · 01/04/2013 21:14

Shit Gigs
Not Roid Rage again ?

Forgive me if I've got you wrong ginger , but are you trying to pick a fight ?
We are too cheerful or too caring ?
Which is it ?

Copthallresident · 01/04/2013 21:23

Ginger I think one problem is that from those darkest moments we have all had, and we wouldn't be here if we hadn't, we have developed coping mechanisms and a black / gallows humour, and an attachment to the boring everyday are two. I certainly could not have coped without them, I remember early on wondering if I could ever be happy again. The weight of a new diagnosis can be overwhelming, and humour the last thing that is appropriate when you might not see your children grow up or face the worst and darkest thoughts about what your future may hold. I am sorry if we have been guilty of insensitivity in that regard. The important thing is we do understand, we have all been there, and you are in those horrible raw first days. Everyone has to find their own way to cope, and humour and a deep attachment to the boring everyday may not be part of it. On the other hand when you feel ready it might.

KK Stick around or we might have to charter a stalker coach to Norfolk

Copthallresident · 01/04/2013 21:26

A stalker coach with steroids on board................

Gigondas · 01/04/2013 21:33

And cheese - I will need cheese if I am on steroids.

HerNextDoorAt21 · 01/04/2013 21:34

Not knowing you very well
ginger I thought you were joking ! I have been in this board for only a short period of time but topsy who
Lives next door has told me many tales of despair from this board, I too have seen some very meaningful
And heartfelt words from the lovely ladies here. I am so guilty of not being around all the time but I
Always know that people are asking for me and looking out for me. I am by nature a jokey person but I am glad that I have a very caring side and maybe helped people through their dark days. I have had a horrendous time on the surgery side of my cancer bit thankfully don't have to have any treatment. The ladies here were there for me every step of the way. Stick around, you'll see what a marvellous clatter of people there are here.

HerNextDoorAt21 · 01/04/2013 21:37

...... And don't forget my lovely pump on the stalker coach !!!

NedSchneebly · 01/04/2013 21:39

Glad you spoke o onc gig and good that you got reassurance. Why more steroids?

KURRI???? COME BAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAACK!

Copthallresident · 01/04/2013 21:40

Oh yes, lots of blood stained seroma to slip up on on the floor, as well as Wine

HerNextDoorAt21 · 01/04/2013 21:42

ash we did manage to go out but the day was a bit of a disaster. DS and 4yo DS wanted yo go in the crèche at ikea but there was a 3 hour wait :( so then we visited BIL and SIL and their cousin who is between them in age only yo find said cousin was out with other family members so my kids were disappointed again. I've hd a tough few days with them and was told today by District nurse that I MUST rest or these wounds will never heal :( oh joy ! Thankfully tomorrow is another day Grin

HerNextDoorAt21 · 01/04/2013 21:42

ash we did manage to go out but the day was a bit of a disaster. DS and 4yo DS wanted yo go in the crèche at ikea but there was a 3 hour wait :( so then we visited BIL and SIL and their cousin who is between them in age only yo find said cousin was out with other family members so my kids were disappointed again. I've hd a tough few days with them and was told today by District nurse that I MUST rest or these wounds will never heal :( oh joy ! Thankfully tomorrow is another day Grin

coorong · 01/04/2013 21:49

I'm thinking A stalker coach a la Priscilla movie - with Guy Pearce atop singing opera in his flip,flop dress - any takers? .......

PenPerson · 01/04/2013 21:55

Can I get on the coach with my wild mood swings, snake like looking flaky skin and scar like I have had my head chopped off ?

topsyturner · 01/04/2013 22:04

Well I'm obviously I complete bitch as Ginger has just pmd me and blocked me at the same time I think ?

Sorry Ladies , I just think this board is too important to have allowed it to be derailed like this .

Like kk I shall take myself off for a while .

Well done Ginger
Masterful work .

gingeroots · 01/04/2013 22:17

Calm down TT .
Yes I PM'd you .
Here is what I said

not picking a fight

Date:
Mon 01-Apr-13 21:55:24

in answer to your question - too cheerful .
No idea where you got the too caring from .

Blocking you ? Derailing a thread ?

jchocchip · 01/04/2013 22:18

Heck everyone! A nice cup of horlicks and a good nights sleep wished to you all. Hopefully things will calm down tomorrow. Sorry I can't come on the stalker coach, I've got to go back to work [busad]
I value this thread, its a place where people understand. I know I have moved on from active treatment and like the fbs and talk nonsense but that doesn't mean that I don't care about you all.

jchocchip · 01/04/2013 22:21

xpost ginger.

topsyturner · 01/04/2013 22:30

Last word on the subject .
Please don't muck about on this thread .
Too many women get help they badly need here .
I am not engaging any more .

topsyturner · 01/04/2013 22:30
coorong · 01/04/2013 22:41

Topsy and KK please don't go - (loads MASSIVE chocolate nabbed from hotel chocolate sale onto the trolley - being pushed by Ewan Mcgregor - -in a kilt and nothing else but a smile)

On a serious note - results in a week, but mindset improved and believe I can al,ost cope with anything - it's the physical stuff that gives me the wobbles

notJenkins · 01/04/2013 22:42

Any space for a name changer on the coach ?