Grrr iPad and Mumsnet between them swallowed my post. It was full of wise words as well, now I'll just have to trot out the usual crap 
Ashokan Sorry about your boyfriend, they can be twunts, men. I know it is hard but it may be the best thing that ever happens to you. I broke up with my uni boyfriend after 11 years when he went off with a girl with a terrible haircut called Nancy, infidelity I could forgive but not the terrible taste.... I was heartbroken but it was the start of the rest of my life and you do have the rest of your life ahead of you, don't let the Cancer bugger distract you from real life. I totally hated being Cancerish, hated people trying to define me by it, the head tilting and the medical profession treating me as a Cancer instead of a person with a life and a personality of my own. I think all you want when going through all the extraordinary things that are happening to you is for things to be normal, it is why we all like the new normal so much. During treatment all I wanted was to do ordinary things and the little normal things like brushing DDs hair in the mornings mattered so much to me, now I am back to being a spoilt old bag who takes it all for granted
ginger We can all tell you that the waiting and uncertainty is the worst bit, once you know what you are up against you can come to terms with it and get on with getting it over with. It is why we have a humungous paranoia box to put our worst fears in, and some of us, well me anyway, have very ample arses to plonk down on the lid and keep all the horrible thoughts from escaping. You are welcome to plonk any in. Don't know much about brushing, presumably they have found some dodgy cells but do not know the extent of it. So that is all you know, you have some dodgy cells and a nodule but they could well be relatively inoffensive? One of our friends had throat cancer, his tonsils were involved but he is all clear now and back to running himself ragged travelling the world with work, I regularly tell him off, after surgery and radiotherapy, no chemo but I well remember talking him through the waiting and paranoia.
KK Sorry about your friend. and pen too. It is sad when people die young and a shock when it happens so suddenly. Strangely my mums lovely friend just died suddenly of a brain haemmorage, she was older but fit as a fiddle. She was quite a character and was on a cruise and on a day trip to Angola. She would have liked to be known for having died with some drama in Angola 
And at least would not have known much about it. We will miss her though, some people leave a big hole in your life.
Hope MASs friends and Gracies lumps are the inoffensive type we like, like most are.
Waves to everyone 
why doesn't mumsnet do a chocolate cake emoticon???
It is horrible weather here, sleety snow. DH just suggested going out tonight but I nearly died of exposure taking goondog to the vets last night (for his regular skit as the vets glove puppet, don't ask, he is mortified by it) so I am sending DH out for nice bread and large slabs of organic meat (we have an artisan butchers as well, oh yes, and a famous fishmonger, it all happens around here when it comes to artisanness ) I suppose he may be some time....
This time I am going to copy before posting, did you hear that mumsnet??