Hello all, sorry to be absent for a few weeks again - work is rubbish at the moment, we are drastically short-staffed and I keep ending up working weekends and evenings just to keep on top of things. Hoping this will get sorted out soon. DD1 has just started GCSE exams, hoping things go well as she has been quite affected by what has gone with DH although the counselling that school arranged seems to have helped a lot. DH's next scans coming up at the beginning of June, so thats now playing on my mind a bit.
There is lots to catch up on, on the thread! Sorry to see this is in part due to new people joining, Hello to Pandem and sorry you have had to join us. Good that you now know what you are dealing with and what the plan is, it is a little easier once you know that. The wedding plans sound amazing! Have you ever been to the steampunk event in Lincoln? I live in the area and have been there when its on - it looks amazing when everyone is walking around the medieval part of the city in all the incredible outfits. Hope you have a really fantastic wedding day.
Lisa yes I would love to do a meetup, as mentioned above I am in Lincoln. Are you plotting us on a map 
I'm happy to travel to wherever seems best for everyone. How are you and DH?
Hellen good to hear your news that things are stable 
Toriana did you work out what to do about time off work for DH?s op? It isn?t always easy to decide and is helpful if work can be flexible about deciding at short notice, don?t know how possible that is for you. I booked a block of time off with DH?s first op, but then found that what I really needed was some days off a week for a period of time for lots of very unpredictable follow-up appointments rather than all in a block. Luckily work was quite flexible about me swapping things around. Hope you get it sorted out.
Lizard and Inaminute Just to add my experience into the discussion on attending appointments or not, for many of DH?s there wasn?t much choice about me at least going to the hospital with him as his operations were on his leg and he wasn?t therefore able to drive for a number of months. DH though has a tendency to either misunderstand or not remember whole chunks of what is said to him at these to a quite startling degree so I get very stressed if he goes to them by himself as I then have no idea whether he is telling me the right information afterwards! We have had some very stressful moments trying to agree how to handle the appointments, it really isn?t easy as we have both have quite different ideas about it, but there are things we both need to get from them. On the whole we have now worked out a way of handling them that works for both of us now, but we have got very cross with one another at times.
Ginger it is always good to hear your perspective on it, and actually If it were the other way around I know I would prefer to hear things alone ? but I also I don't think that would worry DH and I know I would ask all the questions about the practical aspects that need asking that DH doesn?t think about!
MrsS I hope your holiday goes well, can entirely understand what you mean about feeling strange about booking it. We lived day-today for so much of the last year not knowing what would happen next that it feels odd and somehow tempting fate to make plans for too far ahead.
Hello to everyone else too, there are quite a few of us here now, which is 
but also great that there is so much support here.