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Pneumonia-anyone ever had it?

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spacecadet · 04/01/2006 18:32

I became very ill almost overnight with a fever, chills, etc and a hacking cough last thurs, after 24 hours i was feeling worse with an agonising backache, as an ex-nurse i suspected i had pnuemonia but couldnt get an on call gp to come out! eventually one cameon NYD and confirmed it and put me on anti-biotics, i saw my usual gp yesterday who said i def had it and would need to go for a chest x-ray in a week, he told me to go home and rest as much as poss, but i have 4 children, dh only had 3 days off over christmas and went back to work on NYD, so ive been managing on my own, but i feel exhausted, every breath is agony, ive still got a temp etc, has anyone else ever had it? if so , how long was it before you felt better? im not sure why i got it in the first place but i have been very low since losing a baby girl at 23 weeks in oct and picked up several virus;s since then which i found hard to shake off, im guessing that must have lowered my immunity.

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spacecadet · 04/01/2006 23:24

thankyou spidermama and nemo, its def doing the rounds, gp said there had been quite a bit of it in the village.

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milward · 04/01/2006 23:24

spacecadet - sorry to hear your news xxx hope you get better soon xxx happy you're dh has taken some time off work.

biglips · 04/01/2006 23:27

my DP had it nearly 3 yrs ago as he was coughing blood (hes a window cleaner and he was out in the freezing wet weather with a cold and the flat that his mate lent to us was so damp and cold didnt help my dp which he caught pneumonia)... he had antibiotics and was signed off work for 2 weeks (we were living at his sisters warm house for him to recover) but he hadnt been right since and it can take an long time to recover

one of his friend had it too (seperate times) and it took him 2 yrs to recover

MarsLady · 04/01/2006 23:40

spacey... can you email me your addy? lovelymarslady at aol dot com

Spidermama · 04/01/2006 23:40

Good point biglips. It can take longer to recover. I also coughed up blood and was terrified that it was lung cancer ... but it wasn't.
I remember the pain in the lung so well. I couldn;t lie on my side or my back.
Spacecadet, shouldn't you be in hospital? Not easy with four kids I know but you really need to make sure you rest and get the ABs working.

Piffle · 04/01/2006 23:51

First of all Sc I am so sorry for all you have been through in the last few months.
I got rushed into hospital with it 6 yrs ago, was in for 19 daysnearly died, was coughing up blood and the works
It took me months to recover as well like expat.
Needed rest, nourishment and peaceful life.
Stress, smoking etc caused mine
Good luck
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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spacecadet · 05/01/2006 10:15

spidermama, the gp said it was treatable at home and didnt think i needed to go to hospital.

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Spidermama · 05/01/2006 16:31

I hope he's right spacecadet and that you can get the rest you need at home.

saadia · 05/01/2006 17:10

spacecadet my mum got pneumonia while on holiday and had to be hospitalised. The thing that really helped her recovery was eating proper nutritious food, also she was able to get a lot of rest but I know that will be difficult for you. Try to eat lots of fruit/veg and protein to build up your strength. Hope you feel better soon, sounds like a nightmare.

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spacecadet · 05/01/2006 17:33

spoke to soon, dh has chucked awobbly because dd2 threw her dinner on the floor, i ended up having to pick her up and put her to bed, now ds1 is having a tantrum about something and dh is ignoring him.
think ill ring doc tomorrow and demand to be admitted to hospital!
at least i will get some rest..sort of.

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Piffle · 05/01/2006 17:46

you could come and stay with me I'll nurse you
I've just nursed my mum through flu
Seriously, you need rest and removement from stress, you have bene through such an ordeal, you just need to zone out and be really selfish
DH will cope, he has too, you not mending properly will be too an importatn thing to mess with
Ps half joking but I'm in Sth Lincs 30 mins north of peterboro I could come and help if you needed.

Kelly1978 · 05/01/2006 17:48

hospital sounds liek the best palce for you! I had double pnuemonia while pg with my ds. I think I spent abotu a week in bed, I was really out of it and can't remember much about it, but it was bloody painful. I was supposed to go to hospital but I refused to get in the ambulance. I think It took about three weeks before I really felt like myslef again, and a lot longer before my chest really rovered fully. You do NEED rest.

charliecat · 05/01/2006 18:00

Was thinking of you today SC. If dh is really not getting it ask him how much he will have to do if you drop dead with it because you didnt get time to recover as you were too busy picking up after him?
Not that your going to, but to lay it on thick.

PrincessPeaHead · 05/01/2006 21:49

spacey if you were in bed with your bedroom door shut then you wouldn't hear the wobblies (or could pretend not to) and DH could deal with the fall out (he would have to).

you need to take responsibility for your own health too you know, difficult as that is when all this is going on around you.

go to bed, pretend you are in a hospital ward, if you hear dh coming up the stairs to moan about something pretend to be asleep.

you know it makes sense.

PrincessPeaHead · 05/01/2006 21:51

and on rereading your post, tell dh to grow up. he is that adult, it isn't in his remit to throw wobblies because a child chucked their dinner on the floor FGS!

I thought it was the child who had the wobbly on first reading....

you need to be stern with dh. tell him you Don't Want to Know about Anything unless there is blood or someone is unconscious. He is on duty now.

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spacecadet · 05/01/2006 21:56

pph, yes, i know, i got up today, but i havent got dressed and i have done nothing.
dh's dad came round tonight and told me therecwas nothing wrong with me!
he said, you havent got pnueumonia!
dh says hes off to work tomorrow,but i will bite the bullet and ring a friend up to see if she will take ds to school. my dh is a git when it comes to illness, it will serve him right if i drop dead. this is prob one for relationships but since we lost our daughter in oct our marriage has been somewhat shaky.

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mummytosteven · 05/01/2006 22:04

having skim read recent posts I think you bl**dy well should explain to docs that you are getting no rest at home and ask to be admitted to hospital.

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spacecadet · 05/01/2006 22:08

its tempting MTS

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MarsLady · 05/01/2006 22:10

so spacey my angel..... I think you should rethink the food thing.

Really really wish I lived close cos then you couldn't argue!

PrincessPeaHead · 05/01/2006 22:32

oh spacey I'm so sorry he (and his father) are being such gits. I didn't know about your daughter, I'm so sorry.

it is all very well worrying over how your ds is getting to school, but who will look after the other three? I think he is being completely irresponsible. Can't you ask him what the hell his work will think about him leaving his pneumonia-ridden wife at home with no help and 4 kids? I'm sorry, but what is he thinking of? Even if your marriage isn't on top form at the moment, what about basic human kindness?

I'm really angry on your behalf, I'm sorry that that doesn't help you at all.

Maybe get him to read the thread so he knows we all think he is being a tosser.

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spacecadet · 05/01/2006 22:40

being a git must run on the male side of his family pph, i will only have dd2 at home as the elder 2 are at secondary school.
i just asked dh why he is being so horrible and he said " i made a new years resoloution to stop being nice" ??????
mars- yes i get the feeling you can be v persuasive

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Aloha · 05/01/2006 22:42

God, he sounds horrible.

MarsLady · 05/01/2006 22:44

Tell him if he's not careful I'll tell him MY new year's resolution! Grrrrr!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

PrincessPeaHead · 05/01/2006 22:47

oh my god spacecadet, he is worse than I thought possible.

I'm really really sorry.

I may have missed this, but have you got a mother, sister, great friend, anyone at all you can either draft in to take over, or send at least the little one to for a break? Is he going to be a help or an arsehole on the weekend? Is it possible for YOU to leave and be ill at a friend's house and force him to deal with his children that way?

My breath is slightly taken away by his attitude, I can hardly think what to suggest.

charliecat · 06/01/2006 07:27

Your husbands an arse. A total arse. ARRRGGGGGGHHHHHHHHH.
Please try and do as little as possible and maybe keep the we one off school if your going to have to do all the sorting, getting him there.
Ask your bigger ones to muck in if they dont already and get the little ones watching dvds/playing pc/playstation so you can rest.

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