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snoring HELP!!!!!

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Sugarmag · 23/09/2005 07:39

Does anyone know any miracle cures for snoring? DH has always snored and I've put up with it for nearly 10 years now. I'm a very light sleeper so even when the snoring isn't too bad it disturbs me and I've slept with earplugs in for years now. Not sure whether it's suddenly gotten much worse or whether my tolerance for it has just gone but I can not cope with it anymore. He was away for a week and sleep was just heaven - went to sleep at night and woke up the next morning without being disturbed once. Since he's been back I've ended up sleeping elsewhere in the house because I simply can not sleep in the same room with him. Please help because I would really like to be able to share a bed with DH again!

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Sugarmag · 23/09/2005 13:15

bump?

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jackeroo · 23/09/2005 13:23

i'd love to know anything that might help with this too. sympathies to you sugarmag - my DH has become unbearably loud lately, and we often end up in seperate roomes - i don't want to have to do this forever...

compo · 23/09/2005 13:23

does he sleep on his back or side? if my dh is on his back he snores so I roll him over onto his side and then he's fine!

cori · 23/09/2005 13:25

I dont have any advice, but I share your problem DH is a very heavy snorer as well, last night I slept on the couch, and could hear him through a closed door and earplugs.
I ahve heard that there is an operation you can have but it is apparently quite painful and doesnt always work.
Apparently there are also vocal excercises that the snorer can do, as snoring is often associated with a weak palate. I will try to remember the name of the web site and get back to you.

s13 · 23/09/2005 13:26

my dh snored really bad, he went to Dr and did a sleep study. he was told he had bad sleep apnea (stopped breathing over 60 times) now has special machine blowing air up his nose all night. not very sexy, but has stopped snoring completly. if dps are slightly overweight or have thick neck this is quite common, so should be checked out.

MeerkatsUnite · 23/09/2005 13:29

Will your DH see his GP?. Snoring excessively can often be due to underlying medical problems. Your GP would be the best person to see to begin with; you should be referred onto a specialist.

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Sugarmag · 23/09/2005 14:15

Chances of getting him to see his GP are slim to none. He's not overweight (maybe a little softer round the middle than when we met !). Rolling him onto his side used to help but lately it seems to make no difference. I just found these websites British Snoring Association and sleeppro .

I'm going to order some Snore Calm ear plugs for myself in the mean time but might try to find out more about these mouth guard things. they look horrible and personally I wouldn't be able to use one without being sick (brings back all sorts of horrible memories of the orthodontist!) but DH just migghhht be willing...? Has anyone ever tried one?

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donnie · 23/09/2005 14:17

my hubby snores and recently he bought these nose strips from Boots which have helped; they are like plasters and somehow reduce the snoring - your dh could try these?

DaddyCool · 23/09/2005 15:08

see my response to someone else in chat. the snoring thing is fixable. some of the products work but i actually have to get surgery to repair a respatory problem.

babaworshipper · 23/09/2005 15:29

My DH is having some success with a spray from boots,

snoring stuff

It is deff better, if he does snore even on his back it is far more subdued.

tribpot · 23/09/2005 15:39

I would guess your dh doesn't have sleep apnoea if his mood isn't affected by the snoring (unlike yours!) - is he drowsy in the day, depressed or otherwise showing signs of poor sleep? I ask because my dh has all these but I am really struggling to get the GP to take it forward to a sleep clinic (despite this being suggested by a friend of mine who's a respiratory specialist) because he also suffers from a condition called fibromyalgia, which is characterised by poor sleep. He's on a lot of medication which the pain specialist thinks could account for it - were it not for the fact that he was exactly the same before he started on the meds, grrrr.

Anyway, you have my utter sympathies. Dh and I can't sleep in the same room, and when we were away on holiday last week I actually had to get another hotel room because between him and the baby I had been awake since 1 a.m. the night before. It's embarrassing when we stay with friends and I have to creep off and find somewhere else to sleep for a few hours just to get some rest!

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Sugarmag · 23/09/2005 17:07

Wow, I've been so embarrassed about sleeping in separate rooms - I didn't realise that lots of people resort to it. And I agree trib - although he's never been to see anyone about I think it's very unlikely he has sleep apnea - if it weren't for me telling him he would never even know he snored! It doesn't disturb his sleep and he's not sleepy during the day. Just me.

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tribpot · 23/09/2005 17:44

Sugarmag, I can count on the fingers of one hand the number of nights that I have voluntarily spent entirely in dh's company (That is, not including nights in hotels or places where I couldn't get away from him). He was on a combination of painkillers that seemed really effective, but the hospital pharmacist made him come off them because apparently in combination they might make him psychotic. Who cares, that's what I say - his snoring makes me psychotic! That plus 13 week old baby plus being a poor sleeper myself - no wonder I'm at the end of my tether!

cori · 23/09/2005 17:50

My Dh snoring is so bad I dont think those remedies you can buy in boots would work.
We tried the strips once, no difference what so ever. It also doesnt matter if sleeps on his back, stomach or side. Snores the same.
Dh and I often spend part of the night in seperate rooms and I always go to bed before him so I can get to sleep.

alison222 · 23/09/2005 18:15

My brother went to see his doctor and got referred to a sleep clinic as his snoring was so bad. SIL had to sleep in another room, with earplugs. Not great for a marriage. It was a wait of about a year, and he had all sorts of tests and had to video himself sleeping.
It turned out that he had hugely enlarged tonsils causing the problem, and has since had them removed (another year on a list) and now SIL is back in the same room with him again.
Sometimes the snoring is not something that you can easily fix and its worth the hassle of getting referred if it is that bad

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Sugarmag · 25/09/2005 18:05

Well I ordered some super-duper new ear plugs from the British Snoring assocation. They're brill - slept for 2 hours this afternoon without the kids waking me once. Not brilliant enough to drown out DH's snoring unfortunately - spent another night apart.

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tribpot · 25/09/2005 18:09

You may get used to it, Supermag. I have some fancy-pants 'noise cancelling' ear plugs, I guess yours are the same? They don't drown dh out completely but I got used to the white noise, and found it much easier to tune him out with them (ha ha, this was to enable me to sleep in the next room now I come to think about it, not actually in with him). I can't use them now because of having to listen out for the baby

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Sugarmag · 25/09/2005 18:18

Yeah, they kind of do the trick if I'm already asleep before he starts snoring but there's no way I can fall asleep next to him if he's already started. Unfortunately we don't have a guest room so the next most comfortable place to sleep is on the extra bed in dd's room. She loves waking up in the mornign to find me there I'm just worried what nursery/friends etc will think if she starts telling them that mummy is sleeping in her room most nights!

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tribpot · 25/09/2005 21:38

Can you get dh to come to bed after you've nodded off? You can maybe hasten sleep with a bit of valerian, I find this goes best in a glass of wine But it really does help to soothe you off to sleep.

cori · 26/09/2005 09:48

Dh, usually ends up on the couch. My justification for this is, I need the bed because I am pregnant and if go and sleep on the couch it will take me ages to get back to sleep. If DH does he will be asleep in seconds. Has any one ever noticed that heavy snorers usually sleep really heavily and it never takes them long to fall asleep?

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Sugarmag · 27/09/2005 08:15

DH on the couch? I don't think so. Not sure he would do it even if I was pregnant. Meanwhile I've spent another night in my daughter's room.

He says he'll try anything - as long as it doesn't taste bad, smell bad, involve seeing his doctor, disrupt HIS sleep and he doesn't have to be the one to research it or go out and buy it.

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tribpot · 27/09/2005 08:23

How very sympathetic, Sugarmag. Why would sleeping on the couch disturb his sleep? Could you put the mattress from the spare bed downstairs on the floor or similar, then he could sleep on that?

Frankly I think unprovoked snoring is grounds for divorce and/or GBH inflicted by the victim on the perpetrator. Who's with me for a change in the law?!

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Sugarmag · 27/09/2005 08:43

ah no, you see he gets the bed because he's got a REAL job. And because he's a man. And because he just feels like it. Do you know when I'm sick I also sleep elsewhere so I wont' disturb him. And when he's sick....you guessed it. I sleep elsewhere.

this is awful - I sound like one of these horrible put upon wives who's a real pushover and in most things I'm not. But I think this is one battle I just won't win so at the end of the day I do whatever I have to do to get some sleep.

Actually, I'm half hoping dd will start telling her friends/nursry/whoever that mummy is sleeping in her room. This just might embarrass him enough to provoke some form of action!

I'm thinking unprovoked snoring grounds for the victim to go on a massive shopping spree?????

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Sugarmag · 27/09/2005 08:44

BTW - thinking of going out and buying every snoring remedy on the shelves today nad making him try them ALL - maybe all at the same time!

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SleepySuzy · 27/09/2005 09:04

oo,think I might try some of the Snore Calm earplugs for dp!