no smokes on the water

[mummylonglegs]

hey everyone, come and join the quitting smoking team and chuck your fags away!

That's good cb, for you!! And I am pleased that there are ex-smokers like you around to make me feel stupid, cos otherwise I'd just be able to carry on without a care...

But even knowing that it's an addiction doesn't make it easier to break free. I've only not smoked this week because I'm ill, not through the conscious choice of quitting. And I can't seem to get it through my thick skull that I must stop. Have I not reached the turning point? Or am I just thick?

Totally didnt mean to make you feel stupid...sorry
Think it may be, not the turning point...or your body is rejecting the fags but your head isnt...dunno, but I would have smoked through green balls of phelgm coming up...coughing fits...the whole...this shit is killing you malarky. the only time I was smoke free for a week was with a LOT of really concentrated effort.
So...in that sense you are doing really really well.........
You need to get your head to follow...you are here on this thread for a reason, there are a lot of smokers on MN that never check in here and will continue to smoke.
My dp and my mum would give thier arm to be a week away from thier last fag even if they wouldnt admit it.
Right now you are a non smoker.
You arent smoking......
you want to stop?
So why have any more?

P.S I have had a big glass of voddy........so excuse half cut rambling

S'alright, cb, I've had three BIG glasses of Merlot so I'm feeling aggressive, sorry .

Yeah I do want to stop, but I also want to smoke. So where does that leave me? I detest having so;ething that seems to be an enjoyment, taken away from me through something that I can't control (ie life-crippling diseases). What replaces teh reward when dh has gone to bed? Somehow three glases of Merlot doesn't do it quite as well as three glasses of Merot and a Marlboro.

Right, I can get that sentence...I know EXACTLY what you mean, but are you contented with smoking and the shit that comes with it?
Do you sit in an armchair and puff away quite happily knowing what your doing? Happy to share an ashtray with your DS in a few years time?
I wasnt and I had no choice but to stop. i couldnt keep putting myself throught the mental angst that smoking was.
It took me a good couple of years BTW to get my head round that though.

NO, I definitely do not feel comfortable when I smoke. There is a sizeable amount of guilt that goes with EVERY cigarette. But there is also a f it attitude, that I've had for many a year now, that I can't shake. I know it's bad, I know I don't want all the crap that comes with smoking, but hey f it, I'll deal with it another time.

(I shouldn't drink. I swear too much)

What do you make of that then? You always have an answer for everything, cb, how do you do it???

Ermmmmmmmmmm, well your sort of dealing with it by lingering here and putting up with me nagging at you
Dunno there comes a point where you get so fucked off...and me too I really shouldnt drink as I swear 3 times in every sentence....with it that you really have no choice but to stop.
if only so you dont have to wake up every morning thinking about it.
Which I am am ever so relieved to say that I dont. I can get throught the whole of a day now without a thought.
its bliss, and its what i was aiming for that I thought was totally impossible, especially for me.
i am so so so so Thankful that i have got this far. It brings tear to my eyes...the fucking effort, but it really is worth it

I am so fudging jealous of you, I could swear. How oh how did you get there????? It must be nearly a year, no?

(Thank goodness noone else is here to hear me swearing, my dh would not be impressed )

And how do I get there?? I'm going now to bey some cigarettes, btw

Oh feck off you are NOT.
Im going to bed in a sulk then.
I got here by not smoking. I got here by Not having Just One. BTW

Oh and once upon a time..er 10 months ago I was on 4/5 days...thinking My God...how on earth....
I could never not smoke for that long...

I keep having the just one, though. Told you I was b* pants, didn't I...

WHEN???????

Can I ask your advce, cb? You seem quite sensible adn all...

I had a friend (who used to live near you, in Groombridge) who I've known all my life. Our mums went to ante-natal classes together and she was born three weeks after me. We were very close until she moved away (we were about 8), but we kept in touch, saw each other from time to time and she was my maid of honour at my wedding. She very sadly lost her younger sister in a car crash almost two years ago, and she now won't talk to me. I've tried phoning her and writing but I don't get any replies. I understand that she must feel awful, I know I would. But I don't understand why she won't talk to me, and I'm not sure what to do. Should I just leave here alone (which i don't really want to do, she's my oldest friend!), or what?? I'd really appreciate some outside advice, IYKWIM. What do you think?

Well first thought was I wonder if shes moved?

2nd thought is...just send update on you and ds and see if one day she replys. every 6 months or something.
Thats what I have done with 2 folks I have knew since I was little and it sort of works. They are now on my MSN list and so we are never 1000 out of touch, you know?

ta, that's pretty much what I though I'd do, but it's just disheartening when I don't get any replies. I know she's living in London now, and I phone her mobile, in general. It rings once or twice then goes to answer phone, I leave a message and she doesn't reply, so I'm pretty sure she's avoiding me on purpose, just don't know why.

I feel awful this morning.

Ok, got through last night, gin and tonic at pub, followed by 3 glasses of red wine. NO FAGS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

But, really having trouble today, as am feeling better, the sun is shining, and I want a fag, I want to be able to enjoy a fag without feeling guilty, wish I just could go back to over a week ago when I was still smoking. Today is perfect for being outside in the garden having a beer and a fag.....help.......

arrggghhhnhope youve got trough it..today is also a lovely day for fresh fag free air

Hi Sievehead, thats a rotten way to feel, so hugs for you!
I'm 3.5 months along and I still very occasionally feel like that. Try not to dwell on it and start saying to yourself, isn't it great that I can enjoy a beer in the garden, without having to pollute my lungs and everyone elses with those expensive, filthy cigs

Hugs to you, its a naff way to feel!

thanks folks, your encouragement is really helping me. I have just had a tidy up in the garden, - much better way to spend the time, than fagging!!!

That's it-keep as busy as you can-remember when Mummylonglegs was contemplating stopping telling her to do things that she would not normally do to keep her mind off it.

Hope every ones being good on this sat night

I'm always good, cb

Listening to Sieve and EM it makes me realise all over again that the success of quitting doesn't come in those first few awful days of cravings, but in the weeks that follow. The first days are kind of 'exciting' and a challenge, then the tediousness of a fagless existence rears its head. I still suffer from that, from thinking that I'm giving myself a 'treat' if I have a smoke. BUT I do remember, and remind myself, that there does come a time just a few months after fully quitting, in which you just no longer think about it, in fact it makes you feel slightly disgusted.

I know you don't agree with me CB but what MLL says is right re wanting that "treat" and I'm afraid I got through that with the lozenges.If you can stop without,then good for you,but I was one of those people that really needed that treat feeling and the lozenges worked so bloody well in giving me that. Fiona will agree with me, I think.My mum has finally stopped using them-although has changed to patches,(its all in her head-she says that her body can't function without nicotine,stupid cow!)

Anyway,what I'm trying to say that NRT does work for some people who need to feel that they are still getting something special that was the fag!

Yesterday was a bloody nightmare - I wanted a fag almost every minute of the day. Today was a bit better so far, but have been busy chopping trees and wood all day - and now that sacred G and T time has come. I have managed without any NRT so far, but really think I am going to have a puff on that inhalator that you put the nicotine in. What do you think? Or should I continue with the cold turkey? Really am so stressed about this, its so hard. Plus , the drugs the doc gave me to get over my allergy from last weekend are making me hyper too, which really isn't helping.......

MML - do you still smoke then from time to time?

By the way, 8 days fag free now - equals :
56 fags not smoked.

Well done, sieve. Resisting smoking when friend smokers and alcohol are nearby is really hard- you are a genius.

I don't post on here - just being nosy, but can I say well done all of you - and keep going. You can do it - I haven't had a fag for 9 years now and it is so liberating not to be dependent on those smelly little deathsticks any more. Keep going!