She ain't heavy, she's LIGHTER.

[BitterAndTwistedGoreDodger]

Hello, I'm Bitter and I'm a bit porky.

Feel free to join us for healthy eating and chat.

No rules, no clique, just a bunch of posters who are fabulous and talk too much.

uno - yeah yeah

Re Mole - just needed to check no twisted bowel, small tube from stomach stuff. From what he said she's ok which is ace. Now they know its reflux they can continue to treat that.

Fighting urge to kill dp. Mouse - don't know if same in your house but because mole is a baby everyone is all 'ahhhhh baby' in nice tones of voice and then dd1 its all 'stop doing that' 'eat your dinner' etc etc. Everyone does it but I find it hard when he does because he's not her biological father so worry it'll upset her. Just having a bad day I think, not getting much sleep, my 'friend' is pissing me off (as i may have mentioned) and I'm fed up with this cough!!!!!!

Dubs - come cheer me up.

god i love hagen daaz.

500ml but there was only about a fifth of it left. Honest!

Glad to hear there's no twisted bowel, that must be an enormous relief. Sorry you're getting no sleep. It makes the world a more rubbish place.

Hellooooooooooo.

Did you miss me? We didn't fail.

Horrible weather, it's been pissing down all day.

Glad Mole is getting sorted, Brian.

Uno, not keen on icecream, but glad you enjoyed.

Brickie, how is DS?

Mouse, the squeaky mouse gets the grease, kick up a fuss

Hello..

I am enjoying my break.

Brian - it is the same in our house, yes. I worry that if DH disaplines DD, she'll turn around and use the 'you're not my real dad' card. It would crush him from within if she ever did. Mainly because he is more of a father to her than the sperm donor she's sees from time to time could ever be.

But, I never interfere with his decisions. If she back-chats, he deals with it, same as I would and that's how it has to be.

UNO - hope you are feeling better now the scabs have fallen off.

Brickie - your post struck a chord with me. I am Nemo's parent/carer/nurse/SaLT/physio/etc, never mind what I am to DD and DH. Funny, I always come last on the list, 'mums' often do don't they?

This weekend showed me that. I may be all of those things and a wife etc, but I am also me and I think I miss me sometimes.

Does that make sense?

TMI alert - I feel 100% better now that I've got my period I have to say. Like a huge release! But no I NEED ice-cream.

Bugger!!

Glad you didn't fail bitter

Wet here also.

I sometimes like ice cream.. I like plain on Hot Apple Pie.

makes total sense mouse. You have far too many 'jobs' and bottom of that long list is nurturing yourself. But you've got to make it a priority even if only occasionally. If you end up a nervous wreck or have a breakdown then you'll all be fucked so even if only from a practical point of view you need some time to be you xx

Along those lines, I've asked my parents to have Mole tomorrow, I just want to tidy, sew and sleep to try to get rid of this cough. Felt bad asking but I just want some time on my own. (tonight she started crying at 7.20 and is still going now, well she's not crying because dp is rocking her but if he tries to put her down she starts again) :(

glad you're enjoying your time off miitz, well deserved

It's funny Mouse but almost the minute I start to actually come on I can feel the release. I am due on now I think....................................................................................................................................................

Yes, it is easy to get ,lost in 'roles'.

I never had problems really with my 2 DS's. They didn't live with us but somehow I just found a place in their lives that gelled. There are some mistakes I made that I regret but it is tied in to who I had become as a result of early problems related to their Dad and I's relationship.

I have to go to bed though. I am really struggling to fight off a headache and feel sicky.

(( )) to all, xx

mousey, I aimed to strike a chord - I only had the SALT/ASD (autism) stuff to worry about, so less hard grind than I imagine you have. NB DS didn't end up with an autism diagnosis in the end, but I wouldn't exactly be surprised if he does a few years down the line.
I think that motherhood makes you lose the you, the additional needs stuff is kind of a double whammy to that.

brian - I imagined it would be good news from today, but wanted to check so I didn't put my foot in it.

bitter - wooo to no fail Monday - wahoooooooo!

DS was like that Brian.. it is soul destroying. I had to swaddle him and just walk and walk and walk, even late at night. His Dad didn't have much patience and I used to get anxious.

dp has just taken her out in car. not a long term solution but one that will hopefully gain us some sleep tonight x

Brian - you need a break from a crying baby or you will just SNAP! Don't feel bad for asking for help. If anyone lived nearer, you'd all be bloody living here by now!

Mittz - {[{[{{>}}]}]} sleep well.

Thanks Brickie. I feel like I am having to wear many many hats of late but hey, I love a challenge and if it helps Nemo to be where he needs to, I will do what it takes.

I'm looking forward to the Makaton course in January and do bits now with him so it won't be so new for him.

Bitter - I forgot to say YAYAYAYAYYAYAYAYYAY for No Fail Monday!

Where is Dubs? Did she have school today? Have I missed her posts. I have I'm sure, will have a peek.

Brian.

DO WHAT IT TAKES!!!! It's YOU that has to do this night after night after night after fucking night. Not us, not any doctor, not your parents, not the HV..... YOU TWO (but mainly DP)

Give yourselves a break ok? Just get through the night best you can. She's a baby. Once she's old enough to 'bargin with' worry about her routine but for now, get through it.

I do. You just can't treat her the same as DD1 because she's not. And the last thing you need is the whole house up every night.

Damage limitation. Maximised sleep!!!

Don't justify, just do what it takes so you all sleep. xxxx

out of your sight and hearing, so take the chance to take a deep breath, have a fag and a coffee Brian.

mousey - I've got both the sing and sign DVDs if you want me to send them? DS never really clicked with the signing, so I never did that much, thinking about it I have a friend who has done lots of makaton with her kids (2 DS's both on the spectrum), she lives in the nearest big town to you, let me know if you want me to hook you up with her.

OOooo - yes please to DVDs!! Anything that will help. Nemo loves the Something Special Nursery Ryhmes 1 - 4 that they did with the 'Singing Hands'.

I will FB you my address. Thanks Brickie xx

mouse - its dp up every night. i simply refuse Although obviously the crying wakes me up and then him getting up and then him coming back to bed etc. Its a tough life for me

Seriously by the time he gets back from work I'm ready to scream if she's been crying all afternoon.

HV said we had to be 'stricter' and just leave her to cry but I can't do it.

What I'll do tomorrow is get up with her myself as I'll have the day off so then dp can have the night off. He'll think its Christmas. If I throw in a quick blow job he'll probably die from excitement (obviously no bj from me, I'll offer one of yous lots services instead, where's dubs?!)

Brian! Do not let Dubs do your dirty work for you! He's a fecking Godsend I tell you!!!

As I said, balls to the HV. Even if you did controlled crying or whatever, this is more than that sue to reflux. Listen to someone who knows!!

Mole doesn't settle because she has tunmmy ache or trapped wind or is fed up of puking etc........ It's not just routine with her. There is more to it and as a family, or single father in DP's case , you have to do what is best so you all, YES ALL you lazy bint, sleep!

Love you really Brian and I'm just jealous that you have a night nurse on tap!!!

Give her to me for a week Brian, I'll have her sleeping like the proverbial.

Watching the little house.

mouse ,snurk> i am so not telling dp what you said

bitter - and there's a book ive got i think you'd like its up there ^^ let me know x

you even outsource your blow jobs now

Yes please Brian, although I am still waiting for Freakonomics so I won't hold my breath.

Nemo just brought back his entire last feed all over the bedroom floor

Brian, send me your DP please! I need a night off!!

SAF - no worries. xx

Off to replace lost feed. Night lovelies. See you all in the morning for a better day I hope. xxxxx

Saf, will you finish the damn scrabble? We already know you have won again