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Welcome to our thread all about cake cheese and chcolate healthy eating. Well, on a good day!

I'm Mouse, I have the weight of a huge Camenburg to lose but have lost lots already thanks to the support of this thread and the lovely LIGHTer ladies!

No rules, no clique, just us!!

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UNO - You can't have YouKnowWhatYouDidLastSummer, Yuno has claimed that. I will have a think.

Now, what are we going to do about H?

What do you really want to happen? What can he realistically change for good and for the better? Have you tried listing his daily tasks?

I know he is an adult but maybe, just maybe he needs to be reminded what he is expected to do?

I'm off to prep dinner so will come back to you. I just don't think that this will work long term if you end up going back to being his full time carer instead of his wife.

That just isn't an option if you want him as your husband is it? xx

It sure isn't, mousey. Damn that yuno! :o

I won't do this. I want a partner not another child.

I don't mind asking him to do something, but it would be so nice if the assumption was then that he would do it. In a realistic way of course! I don't expect him to never forget things, But this is something else.

Where's the man who was here a month ago?

I know we all have rough patches, but are e good bits only supposed to be a couple of weeks long? :(

I DONT WANT TO BE HIS MUM!!!!

UNO.. loads of Brackets lovey xx

God I can't answer you... because you echo the problems in my marriage, and I couldn't fix that. And my own experience went a bit A over T so I'm a bit wary of what I could say.
I'm sorry because my heart aches for you, but every time I try to type something useful, I get too subjective.
I'll try to order my thoughts to be more constructive, but you have my sympathy..xx

Oh, and I'm a wee bit fat now as well..

You KnowNothingOfCrunchingBones?

Thanks mittz :(. Wish there was an easy answer. Anything you can say will help, honest.

Last year I was "youknowhumanbonescrunch" but I think I want something different. Just not sure what.

Uno - as you recall, I chatted to you on your earlier threads in Relationships, and it is all sounding like a horribly familiar cycle. I wonder if it's a coincidence that this relapse has happened when you have started work.....I can't tell you "leave him", that wouldn't be right - so all I can say is - get as much support as you can in RL, whether it's friends/counselling, MN, whatever.

sorry uno. sounds like square one. have you spelt that out? as in we said this was the last shot and is the best that you can do because if so you know where we're going to end up?

not using lightbox, denying he's showing symptoms, effort only lasted a couple of weeks once feet were back under table... doesn't sound good does it? only you know i'm just so sorry you're going through groundhog day.

and shit yes to what tc is saying - it was when you got a life last time this all started wasn't it?

didn't we call it sabotage?

I'ld also be tempted to have a wee check of his tablets uno to see if he is playing silly buggers again with his ads..

ebay has allegedly been uploading my photo for about half an hour now!

i'm tempted to just keep my beautiful table in the barn for kids to sit on cushions around at garden parties. however the chances of me having a garden party are actually a million to one and my barn is kind of choking.

bitter - want a massive coffee table? you have a very big lounge

to poppy i luve you luve jack smil

Aw you guys are all so lovely. I'm sorry I'm only part time. But only because I'm sorry for me that I'm not chatting to you people more! :o. I am a selfish git.

Tc yes I do remember. You were so kind. I hadn't thought about the work thing, but this isn't quite as extreme as back then. At least not so far.

I'm determined to have this out with him now actually. Right I'll post back in a bit.

Xxx

Was that the baby bitters post there?

Gossip Double..and make it snappy....

Gah! Hello all.

UNO, I so didn't give you the biscuit, DS has a habit of posting when I'm not looking.

And apparently now he can do emoticons.

Sorry if that looked like I was taking the piss.

who's she giving out biscuits to?

x posted. clearly.

Well, he's obviously a nice little chap if he is handing out biscuits..nice one Bitter's little dude

I'd watch it if I were you Mittz - those biscuits are probably stolen!

Had meeting with the teacher. She seems to be taking it seriously.

They are going to have a quiet chat with him every afternoon to see if he had a nice playtime. If the same names keep coming up the other children will be excluded from playtime until they can behave.

but it's already happened so why are the waiting for more to happen before addressing these kids behaviour? sorry

Bitter - sounds like a plan, let's hope it works for you all.

Your DS is lovely. Give him a HUGE non scary hug from Mouse.

Because saf, they are basically taking our word for it. There is no communication between the lunchtime staff and the teaching staff and we couldn't give the names of the kids doing it.

It's not ideal, but I'm happy she took it seriously in that at no point did she suggest it was just a childish game out of hand or 'one of thoose things'. And I made it very clear that if it wasn't stopped I would be requesting another meeting. And that the communication needs to improve.