The LIGHTer, brighter calorie fighters!!

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The title says it all really!!

I'm Mouse, I eat far too much cheese food and need to lose more than I did last week, all thanks to a long weekend away!

So, if you are looking to lose weight, keep off what you've already lost or just want to talk about general bollocks healthy eating etc, this is the thread for you!

what have i done wrong now you buggers?!

BRIAN!!

Two things.

1. Where have you been?
2. have you been hiding because we have NO pics yet?

not got other thread, trying to type on crap bust laptop and around the FUCKING BABY WHO NEVER STOPS CRYING. sorry

She had slept for 3 nights but last night was up 4 times. shes being terrible during the day, all screamy, wont sleep more than 20 mins, terrible nappuies and assuming teething.

someone do me a synopsis you buggers.

and saf - def go for csa if you can, you and your ds deserve the support, even if its only monetary.

as a laugh i asked exh if he could pay half of dds music lesso9ns - £70 a year. He said he'll owe it us and give when he gets a job as a solicitor??!

mouse - sorry about your friend, will send positive thoughts.

saf- re:CSA - as you know I have been in your DS's position. As an adult - my thoughts were - I wish my mum had claimed, as even if my dad hadn't been interested, I felt he should have been forced to take some sort of legal responsibility. As a mother - my thoughts are - do what's best for your emotional welfare. There are arguments either way....

brian- sorry you are having a rotten time with sleep etc.

Fecking Exes huh... mine is middling, sometimes I am pleasantly at his reasonableness, and then I am chewing my arm and biting my tongue at what a monumental TWAT he can be. Bit like our marriage at times. We have a financial arrangement due to a loan but it involves me supporting him quite regularly. Which he forgets. And... ach. I'm not going to complain. He's 'ok'. Could do better but a long way off as bad as some fathers.

Twinkly eyed man is married. The bitch of it is that my morals have actually been torn. Ain't tasted the serpant's apple but by all that is holy I am due a place on God's A team for the bloody determination it has taken me to resist temptation. He's lush. Try to spin it with a positive and just enjoy the having him in my life on whatever level but.... there's a big BUT. All the worse because he appears to be a Thoroughly Decent Chap.
I bloody hope his Mrs appreciates him.. and the fact that I am such a lady and don't take what ain't mine to take..

SaF.... I see both sides.. your reticence to drag everything up and your right to have his support. Talk to CBA? See how much stress can be avoided whilst getting what you and DS are entitled to.

Oh Brian Honey ((( ))) you have my heartfelt sympathy, DS cried relentlessly and it nearly broke me. And my love for him at times

double you should have invested it you'd have about 0.000009p in interest by now!!

total - thank you, it is a pain, especially when we thought we'd cracked the nights... never mind. Today im thinking of selling her she will just not stop cryong each time i leave the room. ah well.

saf - was he a boyfriend? ds's dad? did you expect him to be a prick or is it out of the blue for him? Also csa can never be backdated so if you do feel up to doing it the sooner the better. x

as exh lives with his dad and has no bills/rent/mortgage and actually has a job but can't afford £70 a year (payable in 3 instalments), I am somewhat worried as to his response when the court tell him he owes me £4.5k Ooops...

SAF - so what if you didn't want him? So for a change, the tables were kind of turned. He didn't want to know you if you kept DS. So, how does that make this your fault?

It's as simple as 'mummy and daddy weren't in love so didn't stay together/live together with you' etc.... and take it from there. If he asks you, be honest. And if his father does come out with some sort of bullshit story, you know that DS will be more likely to believe you, if you are always honest with him.

It's really important that he trusts you as you are the one who is always going to be in his life.

Brian - so sorry that you are having issues with DD still. Is it worth another trip to the GP? How is her puking? I will photo copy that article if you like and post it?

Mittz - I used to lust after a married man and he would openly flirt with me. I never acted, I'd just daydream. I used to think 'your wife is so fucking lucky'

Then I found out he'd left his wife for a woman who looked just like me!! Ewww!! Ya weirdo! Fuck the fuckity off!!

Freaked me out that did!!

Physio was ok, says I'm improving!! Yayayayayayayayayayay!! So, more exercises to do. Hopefully, I'll be off crutches in a few months.

Oh bugger HIM SaF.. JUST DO IT!

''my partner and i have discussed this thoroughly and believe the most positive thing is for me to have no contact with this child ''

I was naive when I met Ex and made some mistakes regards his DC's but never would it have crossed my mind to suggest such a horrendous thing. Be as cold and clinical as you can. There is a CSA calculator so if you have even the vaguest idea what he earns you might find yourself in a better position with you and DS. Focus on it being FOR DS is that helps. I am pig headed and think sometimes 'well, Ill manage without your bloody money you tight arse' but in the balance know I am doing the best for DC's.

And whatever my feelings, I am proud of myself for helping to heal the relationship with DS and his Dad where his Dad wanted to write it off. For DS. He will draw his own conclusions as an adult, and does to a certain extent now, but I can acknowledge my own humanity in swallowing my desire sometimes to say 'well fuck you', they are as solid now as I could hope for and I did it for DS.

It sticks in my throat that Ex seems to have forgotten how awful it was and uses my Mental health against me to bemoan the situation he now is in because he thinks because he and DS get on he should 'come home'. It has taken over a year to get DS to understand that HE was not to blame, and when he apologised to his Dad for 'being difficult' his Dad said to say no more about it which just really leaves the blame with DS.

Sorry SaF.... Your Ex is an adult, with another child. Maybe giving DS the gift of believing his Daddy gave a shit about him will compensate you for doing something that in your heart you feel so reluctant to do.

Great post Mittz. You have been through so fucking much but you stay so strong. xx

god they're all a bit crap aren't they

hugs to all with crappy exs.

with my dd i'm trying to answer her questions without saying 'because he doesnt give a shit'. very difficult, she says 'why doesnt he come up more often' original answer was because he cant afford to because he has no job. now she knows he has a job so she says 'but why doesnt he come up now he has a job?'. she's started saying 'does he wabt to spend his money on other things mummy?' arghhh

miitz - is their marriage happy? sorry i dont quite mean it like that but if he were to be split with her (because they were going to split anyway) then it would be ok for you two iyswim, do you know if he feels that way about you at all?

Weirdly Mouse if he had been a flirt it would have probably been the catalyst for me not liking, but he didn't. Not being narcissitic but I get flirted with quite a bit despite not being comfortable with it and he has just been a bloody gentleman (my, I am swearing some today),. I've heard every 'line' under the sun but he is, or has been to me, respectful and courteous. I have suspected at times that the chemistry is mutual but due to an absence of the ability to read these things am not sure if I am not just so gut wrenchingly embarrassed by the situation that I have jumbled everything up in my head.
Ex used to say EVERYONE fancied me so in the end I had no way of trusting my own judgement.

Anyway hey ho!

Glad things are looking up Mouse

I've only eaten a kitkat today

I don't know Brian and have made every effort not to know. Smallish village, they have family links in the village, socialise together, very much 'locals'.

I try to be 'appropriate', and have some reasons to think there are ripples, but in all honesty whilst improving, my head and life are too much of a mess.....

I likey banana bread.. send us a slice ID Gwaaaaaannnnnnnnnnnn

Can you put your Addy on FB for me please?

I am offski

Sending you light for all your shadows xx

Banana bred sounds yum. I could go a piece with a coffee.

I am so fecking tired.....keep nodding. I hope I can stay awake!! I have Nemo here!

Coffee.

Coffee.

Coffee.

What else will help? I feel numb in the head. Argh!!