The first rule about LIGHTer Club..

[BitterAndTwistedChoreDodger]

Is you don't talk about Lighter club

Only Joking - No Rules.

Welcome to our second thread, lots of chat and healthy eating.

I'm Bitter, have about 7lb to lose. Eating Less, Moving more.

Well done Mouse

I think that is a good stance, SAF. DS1 has just started asking why his best mate doesn't live with his Dad (who he sees but doesn't live with, only sporadic contact and the Dad is an arse imo, actually almost everyone's opinion!). It was easy for me explain as my parents and grandparents are divorced so we have done the "Parents falling out of love" thing before.

It is good to be honest and open from the off, well done you.

SAF - I second Double. He will be just fine without him if that's the case. He has you and your unconditional love. Ditto for your 2 Double.

Yes, be honest. I have always been with DD re her dad. He sees her about 6 times a year, at most. I have never stopped the contact. She questions why we split up, why he didn't want to be with her as a baby.

I just tell her we weren't in love and split up before I found out I was expecting her. (Not that he would've changed. He too was a cheating shite). Kids do well with black and white. Honesty. And facts.

God I knew how to pick em.

Anyway, your DS is safe and loved and happy. You are doing a great job. xx

X posted with Lizzy. Snap!!

Great minds n all that

Mothers are brilliant aren't they? Mine can come out with some fantastic lines at times.

I have learned to zone out at such times and channel images of cheese on toast into my mind to help soothe me.

Right, last wash is on - that's 4 as DS has been so bad, DD has done her room, MrM is on his way back from his client meeting, bins are done, drying is on - no line due to thousands of frickin birds - coffee number 2 brewed and 2 WW yogs eaten.

I've even cleaned my teeth.

I am amazing myself!!

Hello all

Saf, I realise it's late to the party but as long as a child has love and stability they will thrive.

Mouse, you are putting me to shame - must put a wash on.

DC are still in their PJ's. They are eating their lunch then I need to get them dressed and get to the shop.

My parents went the other way - they are ridiculously proud of any tiny achievement. It gets embarassing sometimes.Especially as I've never really done anything for them to be legitimately proud of.

SAF fucking hell poppet, you've met my mum haven't you?? And my dad. I remember the classic line 'well you are very difficult to live with' that my dad said when i told him about the rows and violence (!) with my exh no thanks, really thanks

or my mum earlier this week when i said how hard i was finding it with mole being ill all the time and dd1 at home too, 'oh thats what its like with 2, it was the same for all of us'. oh right, thanks, that helped.

they're being very good at the moment, raced over yesterday to help me take mole to vets, nope try again, doctors. Cut my hedges and lawn, then took dd1 back to theirs. Hace offered to have mole over night etc etc.

So, because they are so lovely in terms of time, help, money etc should i just ignore the fact that they insult me at least 5 times every hour? What do you think? This has been driving me crazy for ages.

when i have tried to address it with my mum i get and then 'well i just wont speak then, obviously i wouldnt dare to offend, no,no, dont mind me, i'll just be quiet' sigh.

Ah, that's why my parents are so effusive in their praise - it gets them out of ever offering practical help. {wink]

I have just eaten a packet of monster munch.

There is still no food in the house, bar the ton of fish left over in the freezer from Dukaning. Fish pie for tea, I'll have beans on toast as I don't like it!

Eww! Fish pie.

I'm with you Bitter.

Wholemeal pitta here, with ham salad. Snack-a-jacks and a pint of water (Mttz, I'm drinking lots of water)

Pasta and homemade sauce for dinner. Yum.

Right, I'm off to the shop. DS has asked if he can buy himself some boobies so he can feed the dog with milk from them.

Just to clarify, that's not actually the reason we are going shopping.

Bitter - Hahahahahahahaha! You should get DS to do stand up!

He's funny.

Do you think we will be OK? As parents?

It's not that long ago that I asked my parents for help over something and my Dad pointed out my failings and called me a shit. (said he loved me though) Do so many people come on a site like this because we want to redress the balance?

I got home form work, sat down for lunch and where did 1 1/2 hrs go?

Have skim read.... Mouse you sound perky but sorry DS had a rough night.