crunchy sorry i must have x posted. good luck with the chat.
As you say, its hard but you do need to clear the air.
Xp should have collected the kids at at 4:30. he text and said that he had a driving lesson and so would be collecting them at 5:30.
No is that ok, just that this was what would happen.
So i take the Dc's to town to meet him. he collects them from the train station as he isn't to know where we live. the station is a 40 minute bus ride away.
we wait for over an hour. no sign. I text him, no answer. I ring him and get his answer phone. I text his mum (she runs his lie for him) and she says he was leaving at half 4 after his lesson. she will try and ring him and get back to me. nothing.
At 6:40pm i decide that enough is enough and that i am bringing teh DC home.
DD is crying her eyes out calling for daddy. DS is saying can't we wait for just one more train.
Then he hates me because i am stopping him from seeing his dad. maybe he got the wrong train. maybe he is on the next train. maybe he is just late.
I explain that daddy is very late and that we have given him a very long time to arrive and he still hasn't. That daddy is very naughty to make them wait this long so we will come home and do soething fun instead.
I try very hard not to slag him off to them or in front of them but i wont take the blame for his inadequaces.
DS finally calms down and says that he doesn't want to see daddy anymore. I ask why and he says that he makes them wait all the time and reminds me of at least 3 occasions where he has failed to show or pissed off home because we were 5 minutes late despite being been text to explain that.
Sadly it seems he is getting to a stage where his understanding of how relationships should work is superceding his blind love for his father.
It is both pleasing and devestating all at once.
I really really hate him right now. Xp that is,not ds