Husband doesn't add me to social media
Fauzia · 16/12/2019 22:21
Hi, I wanted to know what everyone thought about this situation. Ever since my husband and I met and then married he has never ever added me to facebook or social media despite my always wanting him to do so. He says he doesn't have anything to hide but feels we should keep our online lives seperate. I wanted to know what your opinion is about this. It makes me feel as though maybe he's ashamed of me..
daffodilrosedaisy · 16/12/2019 22:24
That’s super super weird and the only times I’ve ever heard of that happening (my friends sister) it was because he had a whole extra girlfriend and was leading two separate lives. You’re a partnership and should share everything, including being friends on social media.
TheoneandObi · 16/12/2019 22:24
Honestly? I think that’s weird. Not sure what you can do about it though, except perhaps to make sure he realises that healthy relationships are mirrored in the online world, so ensure he sees that he’s out of step with what what other couples do. I mean even my young adult children are happy for me to be friends and follow them (it’s mutual, they follow back!).
CalleighDoodle · 16/12/2019 22:25
no isnt right.
Ask him to show you his social media accounts from his device.
JustASmallTownCurl · 16/12/2019 22:27
Two of my exes did this. Both frequently spoke inappropriately to other women behind my back and both eventually cheated.
I don't really give a shit about social media (don't think I've logged into Facebook for about six months) and I would never be bothered about the whole "in a relationship with" thing - still wouldn't be.
BUT their determination to keep pages secret from me and their flat refusal to add me despite them using it regularly made it into an issue / a niggling doubt for me. I should have listened to my gut!
TheLittleBrownFox · 16/12/2019 22:30
Oh hell no.
I split up with a boyfriend for a few reasons but the deciding factor was he wouldn't add me to his Facebook. He didn't seem to want to acknowledge I existed to his family and friends (in more ways than that). He showed me his Facebook profile, I don't think he had anything to hide from me, but if your partner isn't proud of and showing you off, then there's something about the way they are thinking that I don't like.
Stupiddriver1 · 16/12/2019 22:37
When dh joined FB I sent him a friend request which he ignored/declined. He said he doesn’t need to be friends with me on fb as we live together and that he only uses it for stuff connected to a hobby.
Which I kind of see. Still annoyed me though, and I blocked him! 😂
Earlgreybee · 16/12/2019 22:39
You’re MARRIED, and he won’t ‘let you’ be Facebook friends?
Set up another fb/Insta/twitter profile without your picture or name and see if you can get added. That’s just odd.
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