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ok this is weird. just googled my dd's name and her name comes up on a website on deviantart. have just had an almighty talk with her but she says it's not her. BUT there are pics on there from our

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piratecat · 31/12/2011 22:28

pc and a profile with reference to things she like including a user name. There is more info too about the inside of our home, and tbh i am rather freaked out.

we were googling for a site to see how popular our names were.

the site Deviant art is one i 'may' have liked or been linked too by my best friend on facebook. DD is totally adamant it's not her.

it's me and her here. noone has access to our home or pc/laptop.

shit.

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TidyDancer · 31/12/2011 22:30

It's not a dodgy site though, is it? One of my artist friends uses it.

Is DD usually trustworthy? Given the circumstances, I would have to assume she wasn't being truthful. :(

Haziedoll · 31/12/2011 22:30

What is deviantart?

EcoLady · 31/12/2011 22:30

It IS her and she's scared to tell you the truth.

cornsilxkski · 31/12/2011 22:33

what is the website about?

ednurse · 31/12/2011 22:35

It probably is here but it's a popular website. especially with teens.

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piratecat · 31/12/2011 22:38

bloody hell, you think so.{sad]

deviant art has all sorts on it. not just deviant stuff.
she used to have a hotmail address, which was used for family abroad to sent emails, which i actually deleted in the summer. I see that that addy is associated to it. she is only 9.

has promised me it wasn't her?? sworn on the cats life. she's a good girl. shit. i really can't believe she's keep up the lie like this. i have said, look its ok if you did it for fun, or you regret it (it's mainly writing about her fave manga cartoons) mummy just needs to know it WAS you and that would make me happier than not knowing or you lying.

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hiddenhome · 31/12/2011 22:39

facebook's probably done it. They seem to do strange things with people's profiles and privacy these days Hmm

BerryLellow · 31/12/2011 22:39

Isn't it just a site for sharing your work?

Naoko · 31/12/2011 22:40

There's nothing wrong with Deviantart though, in and of itself. (for those who don't know it - it's a website for people to share the artwork they make - visual art as well as writing if memory serves, not been there in a while). If you're worried about her viewing inappropriate material (I know some of the stuff on there is 18-rated, nothing actually shocking or 'wrong' but I can appreciate you wouldn't want her looking at some of the racier artwork or erotic writing if she is young), or sharing real life information she shouldn't be putting on the internet, that's a separate issue and a conversation you need to have with her, but depending on her age I'm not sure you need to ban her from it outright.

I wouldn't panic, though. It's not as if she's gone and made a profile on an adult hookup site and put her real name on it or something extremely dodgy like that!

ExcitedElectrons · 31/12/2011 22:40

Deviantart is an artist websites where people draw pictures. It's not dodgy, calm down even if it is her.

Flisspaps · 31/12/2011 22:41

How old is your DD?

scarletforya · 31/12/2011 22:42

But couldn't it just be someone else with the same name as her? Confused

Naoko · 31/12/2011 22:42

Oh, crossposts, I see she is only 9, that is young, although my previous post stands. Actually thinking about it, could that be the issue - that she has accidentally seen some of the 18-rated stuff (it can happen because of the way the site works even if you're not looking for it), knows you won't approve and is maybe disturbed/worried by it, and is scared she'll be in trouble?

Flisspaps · 31/12/2011 22:43

My mistake - I see she's 9.

Really at 9 should she not be using the computer where you can see what she's doing on it at all times?

When I first opened the thread I thought the website was 'deviant tart' - Blush now THAT would be a cause for concern if your child had joined it.

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piratecat · 31/12/2011 22:43

9

calm down?

she's shared her full name, her town, her interests, details of her personal situation with family and has had people talking to her. i can read the comments!!

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BadRoly · 31/12/2011 22:43

Another trying to reassure you that deviantart is ok - my friend's 13yo dd goes on it as she is very into manga and drawing. It's not my thing but she is very good and proud to share her work.

MzPixielated · 31/12/2011 22:45

deviant art is an awesome website about artwork including manga, if anything good on her for having the balls to put her writing/drawing out there. shes expressing her artistic side and remember if u overreact on this she may hide other things from you that you should know about.

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Naoko · 31/12/2011 22:46

Then you need to talk to her about things she should and shouldn't share on the internet, piratecat, and the reasons why you shouldn't put that on the internet. Allow her to understand why you're upset. It being deviantart is a red herring, it could've been any website and deviantart is probably a damned sight less bad than it could be.

And you do need to calm down, I think. You sound very upset, and she'll sense it - if she's worried she's in trouble she'll only keep denying it and you won't be able to have that very necessary conversation with her.

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piratecat · 31/12/2011 22:47

no it's can't be. there are pictures on there from my pc!! of our pets.

it's deffo her, or someone pretending to be her, which is the reason i want to believe.

even if it was thru facebook, as someone suggested, for the pics at least, they wouldn't be able to actually 'type' comments to other members on deviant art would they.

how do i get the truth out of her. honestly she's a great kid, and we have a good relationship. tho, she does have emotional probs to do with her father. Sad

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BadRoly · 31/12/2011 22:49

Ah cross posted! Ok, I would not be happy at all. Have you spoken with her about Internet safety? I have had the discussion with dd1(10) and ds1(8) as they are keen to join various sites - Bin Weevils etc. I think you really need to talk with her calmly about how what she "shares" on the Internet.

I was lucky to attend a CEOP (and another agency I have forgotten) run evening at our local High school aimed at parents. I would recommend seeing if there are going to be any local to you for ling term advice.

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piratecat · 31/12/2011 22:51

i am upset yes. moreso for her fibbing tbh.

there we go, i thought she was on Moshi MOnsters.

i like deviant art!! I paint myself. She has only shared pics of her pets/photos.

She is a fab writer and draws and draws. all of it encouraged. i have absulutely no idea how she would even know about devaint art. The pc is protected. she can't get on my user which would have the ref to devaint art on my face book.
she only has her user for child.
ah, i need to go check her history don't i.

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piratecat · 31/12/2011 22:52

shineon, i just thought she'd tell me. this is the first thing ever we have had an issue over.

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hiddenhome · 31/12/2011 22:55

Get some net nannying software.

I have Kaspersky installed on ds1's laptop which means he can't join things like this and is blocked from sharing personal info. it only costs about £30 odd a year and is well worth it. He can't even get onto fb.

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