Bob That sounds about right! The purpose of sexual reproduction in flowers is to get a genetic mix in the offspring, so that if conditions change, even though the parents may day, one of the offspring may have the characterisitics to survive. Whereas if the offspring are genetically identical to the parents, a change in conditions can wipe out the lot. So courgettes and squashes start by producing male flowers, that way they get their pollen scattered to pollinate flowers of other plants. Then they produce female flowers (with only the occasional male), so that their own flowers are pollinated with pollen from other plants and not by their own pollen. Fine when there's lots of plants around, but makes life difficult when you have only one or two plants. Yes, that bigger squash is looking hopeful, the fact that it's grown along with the fact it's still looking shiny and fresh.
Wrt the F1 question ^thread, surely the bees do the business so you have no idea what they are 'hybridising' with, or what the resultant toms will be? The tomato fruits are part of the parent plant so aren't affected by hybridising, but as you say, the bees will ensure a good mixing of pollen.
The point about the F1 generation is that it's the offspring of two strains of very low variability, so for all intents and purposes the F1 generation can be regarded as uniform. Genetically, you can think of it as one parent having two copies of the A gene and the other having two copies of the B gene, so the offspring all inherit an A from one parent and a B from the other, so are all AB.
If you exclude bees, or the only plants around are your F1 hybrids with their AB genetic makeup, what happens in the F2 generation is that each parent can pass on either their A gene or their B gene. So the resulting offspring can have an A gene from both (AA), and A from one and a B from the other (AB) or a B from both (BB). So about half the plants will have the same AB make-up as the F1 generation, and the rest will be either AA or BB. This is what they mean when they say that the F1 generation doesn't breed true.
Multiply this up by all the different genes, and you can see that the F2 generation can be very mixed indeed. Sorry if someone's said all this already, I ducked out of the thread for a while in the middle and may not have caught up with everything.