That was really a great post Holly! I am focussing forward now -- but with a recent setback, unfortunately.
Most of the wall has been built and the fence posts are in place giving us a sense of the final height. I went and stood on the road side, facing the wall and fence and it isn't as high as I expected it would be. This is to gauge impact from new neighbour's perspective. Also, I can see now that the beech hedging which is already there is already the same height as the 'new' fence height, and we'll put in more plants to thicken it out. On our side it will look like a normal fence height. On the neighbour's it will eventually be a beech hedge.
However, our neighbours in the house diagonally opposite (which already has a massive impact on us) haven't reacted well. This is despite the fact the fence is stepped down in front of their house. The builders came and told us they were out with cameras photographing and videoing the work. I honestly cannot begin to tell you what that did to my anxiety levels. It feels as if everyone is conspiring against us having a normal happy private life. Melodramatic I know, but I just want my life back without stress.
DH went across and spoke to them immediately. Their main concern is a downstairs spare room which I know they don't use because I can see into all the rooms of their house no matter where I am in my own. The fence will be higher than that window, they think. This is because it will be maybe 50cm (max. maybe less) higher with the new ground level at that point, but also because their house is set lower down the slope. I suspect it always was relatively high given their angle of perspective anyway. DH told them we'd be planting hedging to cover the fence, which he said they seemed to accept.
They also said they didn't want to make us anxious
But why would they ostentatiously be taking photos if that was the case? Why do that if you aren't gathering 'evidence' ? The builders weren't impressed about being filmed - apparently called out to them while they were doing it - and I don't think it's polite to film someone else's house without consent either, frankly. It feels like quite an aggressive thing to do.
They also asked DH if we would reduce the height of our leylandii hedging at some point which the previous owner put in to screen their house. This is on an area untouched by what we 'real doing. So I feel as if they're establishing future objections about an issue not even there yet. This is in our garden and is only just above fence height, so not even remotely tall yet ( not even a standard hedge height yet) and there are MASSIVE tall trees behind it. Because we're above them, we'll have to let that leylandii get tall enough so we cant see over it into their home. From their perspective it might look higher, because they are looking back up from a lower perspective. But the hedge will never ever be as high as the trees behind it! Makes me wonder if the next thing will be to ask us to remove those too.
I really don't understand this. The only view we're taking from them, is the view of our house ...! Why would anyone prefer looking into someone's private space rather than greenery and foliage? I have literally seen their daughters getting undressed in their bedrooms! It baffles me that they are not concerned by that? The builders have constantly been saying to us that the neighbours must be relieved we're doing this because it will help them .... but it appears not.
Since we started this I've been paying closer attention to fence and hedge heights around us. I suspect, for example, that our neighbour's back fence is a little like our 'new' fence, in that it is 1.8m tall but on an elevated position near the main road (so having the effect of being higher). If ours is illegal, then so are many others. Our fence is still exactly the same height, but on a new ground level.
All the houses here seem to have fence heights of about 1.8m and a lot of hedges higher than that. I just wonder, if our neighbours decide to take issue, if planning will consider that others in the area have tall hedges and fences or if they will treat us differently.
I didn't sleep last night. Again. aaaaaargh!!!