Shove, that's exactly it. I do feel I'm being forced to do something against my will, and also in a timeframe I'm not entirely comfortable with. (It feels rushed!) I've been trying to remind myself why we bought the house.
We wanted a large garden, and this is about a 1 acre plot wrapped around the house (but only lawn). It is very very unfortunate that ALL the windows face this section of the garden, and that's what we need to deal with. HOWEVER, my DCs will be oblivious to the issues I am struggling with, and they will still have lots of outdoor space to grow up and play in. The house is also near good schools, and an amazing rural community.
If we fail to screen properly however, then I expect I will never be fully happy living here and I don't think I will ever get used to people looking in. So we will move, but take our time, and cross that bridge when we get to it. And try to stay in the area. One thing at a time.
We've been rushed because we needed to grab the topsoil from the development to level our garden. This is currently in a massive pile on our lawn. The landscape guy thinks we've saved about £2000 just there.
The small digger is here today to dig the trench for the retaining wall, the foundations go in on Monday and the wall built before the end of next week. The fence is already down.
The landscaper's advice is to backfill to level the garden, and then, just inside the fence, undulate the ground (on our side) creating three bunds, the positions to correlate with the new houses. Then we'll plant on those. He said that gives even extra height and will be more interesting as well, rather than planting on the flat. It means I sacrifice more lawn area but DH seems pleased with the idea and I'm tired of arguing about it so I'm going with it. I hope I don't regret it.
Planting ... he has suggested clusters of plants concentrated on the bunds - not necessarily a straight line hedge but in principle that's what it will be, a hedge. He will do the planting and install a watering system as well to give them the best chance of establishing.
He is recommending a mixture of Beech, Hornbeam, Thuja, Chamaecyparis, and Laurel (6 of each plants). He suggested with the Chamaecyparis that we chose plants with different colours.
So this is the backbone. He said we should consider this a backdrop, and in front of it on the lower level plant specimen trees or shrubs.
There is a part of me that thinks this approach might create a sense of depth to the border, but, because I can't really envisage it, I'm worried it might look like the type of planting you see around shopping parking areas!!
I need to get an idea of what these plants look like, and then look at suggestions here as well to see if we should swap some up.
But, how does this sound as a starting point. What would you do differently?
Many thanks to everyone for the support so far.