Gosh, I'm getting Courgette Doubt now. Shove, you're (of course) totally right about the emotional effects of a glut. It's like the veg suddenly represent your hard work, and hopes, and dreams. And you can't waste a single one. So if people decline said veg....
I have no worries about having too many tomatoes as they've so versatile, as long as I have the time to do stuff wit them, but maybe I've been a bit toppy with my courgettes. I still expect a large percentage of my plants to die, that's why I over sow I think. But so far, they're all seeming relatively healthy. I only threw 1 tomato plant away as well - not sure what happened to it, it grew well at first but then went a bit floppy. On chucking, its root system turned out to be a bit rubbish - much much less formed than its brethren. Well, still time to do a bit of guerilla courgetting, a la mousmous !
Odd about your runners, Shove. I've grown both those beans happily this year, and I didn't do anything fancy ie no chitting. I just put them in some MPC and watered a bit, and kept them inside in a plastic bag until there were signs of life, then took the bag off and ensured they got lots of light. Did you start them off inside? Maybe the outside ones will pop up now it's getting warmer? My mum's beans ,shoved I the ground a few weeks ago have only just shown their heads.
Oh, bad news on the cucurbit conundrum mink. Could you grow them on a bit more til they ID themselves, before planting? Would anyone on here know a way to tell them apart? BenSquash not yet planted either, but plot people are starting to ask just what is that plastic-covered lump? Can't say that anyone has been that delighted by the reply, though.