Oooff
to lala and Zebra with the pinching of fruit.
It's hard to deal with emotionally, isn't it?
I think the worst thing about it is that you know that someone might be desperate, and if they came up to you and said they were hungry, then you would say 'Yes, help yourself'. But because it's done in a clandestine way, it feels like your space has been violated.
We had a bike stolen from our shed at home, and I really struggled with it. I live in a poor city, and a lot of people are hungry, plus the bike was insured. At the same time, I was freaked out by the idea that someone had come into my space, crowbarred off a lock and ridden off on it. I realise that this is a kind of silly idea of the 'private'/an idealised version of community where people communicate about their needs, but I did struggle not to feel really quite upset for a while. I think I'd feel the same about something like that on my plot.