End of Year 13: Results, Summer and plans for September and onwards

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Noticed the current thread is almost full so thought I better start a new one for discussing results day and our DC’s plans for uni/gap years or anything else!

Joining back in as results approaches.

The meningitis vaccine covered by the NHS is for Men ACYW. DS had both doses of Men B privately at Boots. It’s now given routinely to younger children but our age group weren’t eligible.

Been looking at clearing for plan B and found good selection at Nottingham so far. Most clearing courses with grades seem to be out the day/evening before so will look again on Wednesday.

like others I’m swaying between he’ll be fine but then looking at clearing!

DD has decided she will look at UCAS before going into school as she wants to know if she’s got in before getting results.

Has also said she’d like to go out for brunch afterwards (assuming all OK with exams).

DD told me today that she's a little bit worried about Thursday, and will be up at 8am to get her grades from UCAS. I'll suggest she looks at clearing places Wednesday night in case she needs to take that route.

She doesn't want to do anything to celebrate. I'm not allowed to take her and her boyfriend out after the results are in. It's her way, but I'm sure she'll be persuaded.

I love the fact that she's a chip off the old block. In her anxiety, she's started making lists. I have a long list of all the things she's going to need to take with her that she doesn't yet have. It includes bedsheets, hooks, tin opener amongst other things. She really has thought of everything!

DD hasn’t been out of the pub since she turned 18 a few weeks ago 🙄

Planning a Big Night Out with “everyone” if she’s happy with results. There’s a tradition of everyone from miles around going to this one pub then club on results night so should be a great night, if all goes well anyway.

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My DC turns 18 tomorrow so it's a big week for us. Family celebrations tomorrow and then a big night out with his friend after the results on Thursday. They have not looked at clearing but I had a quick glance - the firm choice isn't in there but the insurance is (which selfishly we would rather they went to as it's a lot closer!!) so should be ok. All the best to all for tomorrow

Are there two meningitis jabs then? I recall DS going to get one (a catch-up one at an NHS clinic that seemed to have been specially set up for his cohort to attend) before he went off to uni, a few years ago. However, I'm convinced DD has had one at school, within the past few years.

DD is getting stroppier by the day. Glad she's going for a sleepover with some of her besties tonight. When she was expecting her GCSE results, we were on holiday until the evening before. So not too much time to be getting angsty about them.

Came to hospital and they have cancelled it indefinitely at the moment. Hope this isn’t the start of bad luck again. I have a job abroad for after so may never get op now. They have known for 2.5 years I have adrenal issue and they tell me on day of surgery when I am in a gown all marked up. And try to blame me saying I missed one appointment in June, I rescheduled it and both teams were aware. Think everyone is just overworked.

Gosh @Penguinsa how frustrating for you!! Are they saying that they can’t do the op because of a condition that you have? If so how could this have slipped through the net? I’d be kicking off!!

I came on to say I’ve noticed that there’s a thread on the Higher Education board for A level results if people hadn’t noticed and wanted to post/follow.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/higher_education/5135235-a-level-results-day-2024?page=4&reply=137503283

Yes it’s because of something I have had around 5 years and a test result from 2022 and despite hundreds of appointments they only noticed last night but wanted to tell me in person. I was very grumpy as this will likely mean I will never get this op and in 2021 they told me 1 year. The test is for stress hormones and in 2022 I had cancer and a son in hospital.

Oh @Penguinsa that is AWFUL. The incompetence just beggars belief 🤦‍♀️

@Penguinsa how incredibly frustrating. Am sure you are fuming.

So sorry to hear your update @Penguinsa . How super frustrating maddening for you.

Oh no, that is appalling @Penguinsa - a total failure of their preassessment systems. And not only damaging to you, but a huge waste of resources too. When you're over the shock I would think this is deserving of a formal complaint, they can't just leave you hanging.
I hope Thursday brings you fabulous news to raise your spirits at least.

That is terrible @Penguinsa , I'd definitely be making feelings known.

Could you get a second opinion @Penguinsa? Wondering whether it was the eagle-eyed anaesthetist who 'clocked' the issue, overlooked by the surgeons and team?

Oh that’s awful @Penguinsa 😞

Thank you, seems a major failure and I have had several ops since this fine with generals but now anaesthetist has raised they said I should have not been allowed previous operations either and its being blocked by endo consultant, surgeon and anaesthetist and its any operation - I asked could they do implants instead and got a no. Its one really marginal test in 2022 which measures stress levels - DS was unable to move, eat, drink etc at the time as well as my cancer treatment and was on steroids for chemo so its really obvious why it would be elevated. But no-one wants to take responsibility until endo sign off and endo just treat everything as non-urgent. And I have been kicked off the list at the moment after 2.5 years, I would go on with a months delay but need at least another month for endo and 3 month recovery and its just not possible for new job to wait that long and its abroad.

That's shocking @Penguinsa. Is it not something you can be re-tested for and then the op done if results are now within tolerance?

Meant to say DS is spending a lot of time at the gym. Think he's getting his nerves out that way! He's getting quieter and quieter at home. Non-communicative is how he goes when stressed. My natural response is the try and jolly along which IS NOT HELPING (note to self!). Must try and just stay silent.

Thanks QueenMabby I can't get out of them what they can do but endo are only offering an appointment 3 weeks away then tests then new wait for op which as 3 month recovery is going to take me out of time for new job abroad. There's clearly something gone very wrong as I was dressed in gown with the lovely DVT stockings and told I would be operated on in 15 mins and whole theatre was for me all day then no its cancelled due to a 2022 blood test. Its quite hard to know who has done that and its ridiculous as that blood test I was super stressed, had been on chemo steroids, didn't sleep all night, was eating and drinking and my result is like a daytime result but I wasn't told not to eat and drink and did tell them. Though the surgeons agreed they are pretty certain there is nothing really wrong but endo won't sign off so they won't and its impossible to get hold of endo. I've asked about alternatives ops but seems to be all ops. Which is weird as I had 2 other ops fine. And they have known about the tumour since 2017 and the bloods since 2022. 🤔And I went in yesterday afternoon and assured all fine.

Oh @Penguinsa how frustrating! So sorry this has happened.

Oh no, that's really rubbish @Penguinsa 😢

Oh @Penguinsa I'm so sorry. I'd be raging.

So sorry to read this development @Penguinsa - that is absolutely shocking & so frustrating for you & your family. I agree that a second opinion is a good idea.

I’m so sorry to hear that @Penguinsa , how utterly frustrating and stressful and inadequate.

News here is that while I’ve been away on holiday and DD was at a festival, DD messaged me yesterday to say she’s booked a train for 10am on Thursday morning to visit her boyfriend for a few nights across the country. When I mentioned that results come out that day, she said she’d forgotten 🙄🤦‍♀️

As DH said, it’s good on one hand that she’s put it out of her mind, but I mean, really.

When I said that we’d planned on taking her out for dinner to celebrate regardless of results but we’d do it another time, she got cross at me “for making her feel guilty”. 🙄

She hadn’t thought we’d do anything on the day because I hadn’t mentioned it, and I hadn’t mentioned it because I didn’t want to make her anxious and was waiting until this evening when I’m back at home.

There followed many more messages from her in ALL CAPS, including how anxious she is about her results. As I’ve said before, she’s autistic so I know to tread carefully but I do so enjoy being wrong no matter what approach I try. Big sigh.