Thread 35 - Covid Cohort from GCSE 2020 'What They Did on Their Summer Holidays'

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This is a thread for supporting all young people post GCSEs 2020, regardless of their educational setting. It is respectfully requested that all are supportive and helpful to each other. If you want to start a debate, e.g state vs private, please don't within this thread. Please also be sensitive when responding to threads about grades. It's all relative!
Some of us have been here since first thread back in yr10, some will be new. Everyone has been friendly and helpful in the past. Everyone is welcome. It is hoped this will continue.
Our DS/DD may continue down various pathways ( employment, apprenticeships, higher ed) We have decided for anyone interested they will find a thread within the Further Ed board.
Possibly a move to Parent of Adult Children Board in future? Post Results?

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Cheers All.

Sorry you're sad @Oblomov22 -2 years is a long time.

Your DS has made me think though about those with GFs/BFs. My DD will have been with her BF 18 months when she goes to uni. He is having a gap year travelling Asia and Oz so they will not be meeting up at all. After that, he is hoping to join the Marines (😱). I do wonder whether staying together is a good thing, or whether your DS maybe has a good idea (albeit not perhaps executed in the best way). I fear she may be held a bit in limbo with a long distance relationship where she is just left on her own, not really wanting to socialise much, waiting for BF to return.

DD has been with bf just under a year. He’s just finished 1 st year at uni. They met last August and we’re doing to just enjoy the summer and go separate ways but decided to give it a go and so far seem to manage. I would rather she went to uni without a bf but not my decision.

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well...I just typed a massive long post to answer everyone and refreshed by accident. Lost the whole lot.

DS has recently got into a relationship, we haven’t met her and it’s only been about 2 months but they are apparently going to make a go of it when they go to uni, all being well they will be about 200 miles apart.
I don’t think it’s a good idea and could spoil their uni experiences trying to see each other instead of making new friends but what do I know

Tiz a tricky one, generally, all those with relationships, leading up to going to Uni.

That's my exact point Seeline: "DS maybe has a good idea - BUT - (albeit not perhaps executed in the best way). "

@Oblomov22 you sound like me...I feel really unhappy at the moment with the dc's. No gf's involved though. Ds1 has returned from his travels, he's bad tempered and disrespectful, him and ds3 hate each other. Ds1 says he's going to punch ds3 before the week is over. I told him to grow up, he's 21 he can't hit a 13 year old. Ds2 is ok. He's not like the other 2. He loves to wind me up. But it's harmless fun to him. Dh has been away at his dd's. He will be just as grumpy when he returns. So I'm not looking forward to that either. I think I might move out.

@Fiddlersgreen my friends dd and bf went off to different universities he's at Cambridge she's in York. They've maintained their relationship. But my friend says they keep going to each other's accommodation for weekends so lots of back and forth. But seems to be working a year on.

@icanbewhatiwant
Let's run away together for the weekend!

No, actually I can't leave, because Dh isn't talking to either ds1 or ds2.

@Oblomov22. Dh never does get on very well with any of his ds's. He doesn't get on with ds1 from a previous marriage. Dd from the first marriage he gets on very well with though.

Sorry to hear there are many tensions within families and so called friends being unnecessarily awkward. I don't understand point scoring off friends at all or anybody else really.

I said to DS last night that he only has ten weeks to hone his cooking skill before he goes and I got "you can't say that". Apparently it makes it all too real and soon. Given his generally laid back demeanour I was quite surprised.

@Benjispruce4 Said mum was highly offended when I suggested there was another route to Law via the GDL. I was told there was no other route and the people who do the GDL don't get jobs! . Not my understand or experience of it at all but I think she felt her dc degree was being put down.

@Oblomov22 Sorry to hear about ds1 and his GF. A lot of men don't seem to have the maturity to end relationships nicely (I do wonder how Simon Cowell has managed it), hopefully he'll learn and be a bit nicer if next time. Hope GF comes to terms with it and moves on once she's away at uni. but it's hard as a parent seeing them being unkind.

@BlueMarigold Unfortunately I can't go into all the details but it's her that's calling & asking all the questions first, I'm just asking the same questions back as it seems the polite thing to do, also her dc has got some very good offers in my opinion though I think my mum friend was hoping for better things for her. It's just annoying everytime I answer her questions e.g where is he applying to, has he received any offers? has he done work experience and where? about DS and then ask her the same about her dc, she responds, Oh I can't remember' e.g so where is X applying to, 'I can't remember. Personally, I don't think these questions are a big deal between parents supporting each other but if you're going to be asking others about their dc then surely you must be prepared to answer questions about yours?

@Shimy if you already know that her DC has some good offers, I can’t think of any reason for her to be secretive. She’s just being nosy for no reason.

Sounds a perfect time for a weekend away on your own - they can't argue with each other if no-one is speaking. They'll have to sort themselves out - leave them to it!

Has anyone got experience of car insurance when they are away? If Dd gets her first choice of Bristol, there's no way her car will go with her. So it's going to be sat on our drive until Christmas not driven. I feel like we're going to be paying for it to sit there because when she comes back at Christmas she's going to need it.
Has anyone else been in this situation?

A quiet good luck to your DS for tomorrow Piggy 🤞

Oh thanks. Well remembered!

Oooh, yes, good luck for driving test Piggy Mumsnet force is behind him!

Well I’ve just had a bit of an emotional moment. Ds had his prom last night, had some friends around beforehand. It was a bit last minute & rushed & I didn’t know all of those who turned up.

Ds has now just told me who one of the girls was - didn’t recognise her all grown up & dressed up the nines. I knew her mother quite well who sadly died a few years ago from cancer. So sad she is not around to see her beautiful daughter.

Sorry to read about all the strife. I thought after the stress of the exams we would get some rest bite from teenage angsts etc. I'm not particularly happy with DD either, she should be having the time of her life and probably is out of the house but not exactly happy Larry when here. She is off again tonight with friends to someone else's holiday house a couple of hours away. All 10 of them plus 3 boyfriends so that will change the dynamics. Only going for until Sunday I think - I'm annoyed because she won't give me the time to discuss anything. I need her to make some decisions so I can make my plans.

@EwwSprouts DD freaked out when I mentioned she had ** weeks holiday before she went to uni earlier this month and just didn't want to talk about it at all. But then the other day she started chatting to me what Master degrees she had found that looked interesting and other careers she could pursue so she hasn't blanked going to uni out entirely, just happy to look into the distance rather than right in front of her. I guess it's only natural as they know a massive change is coming their way.

Good luck to your DS @Piggy .

Good luck Piggy.

Good luck for tomorrow @Piggywaspushed ! How did he get on at Sainsburys?

Not heard yet from them. Guessing a no.

Thanks for good luck. I am not confident because he is still quite tentative but he might be OK.

@Piggywaspushed Fingers crossed for the driving test & hopefully a yes to the job.

@Heifer Yes a few PP have said their DC are having wobbles. I don't think he's changing his mind rather realising the magnitude of the change coming. I guess it's a mild hangover from all the 'home is the only safe place' messages of Covid.