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Thread 31 Covid Cohort - Hopping through Easter and Revision

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OrangeCinnamonCroissant · 07/04/2022 13:15

This is a thread for supporting all young people post GCSEs 2020, regardless of their educational setting. It is respectfully requested that all are supportive and helpful to each other. If you want to start a debate, e.g state vs private, please don't within this thread. Please also be sensitive when responding to threads about grades.

Some of us have been here since first thread back in yr10, some will be new. Everyone has been friendly and helpful in the past. Everyone is welcome. It is hoped this will continue.

Our DS/DD may go down various paths (such as employment, apprenticeships, higher ed) We have decided for anyone interested they will most likely find us within the Further Ed board.

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I've made this one a little bit earlier as things are so busy, at home and on thread, so please feel free to use up previous thread first

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Piggywaspushed · 25/04/2022 19:20

Don't mind me. Just testing.

Oblomov22 · 25/04/2022 19:46

Incredibly VILE.

Zebracat · 25/04/2022 20:17

Sorry to hear that@Oblomov22 . If you asked why, would he be able to tell you? I have found that asking calmly what’s going on can sometimes prompt an honest discussion. When I havent done that, then after weeks, or sometimes days, and sometimes just hours, of ignoring it,I just blow my top. And shout, which mine then used as retrospective justification for their behaviour. Worth a try, perhaps.
Ours got rejected by Cambridge Foundation today. She’s fine, we always told her that they are experts and if they thought she would struggle then she probably would. I think she’s relieved in a way that she can now move on with the process.

Piggywaspushed · 25/04/2022 20:21

Oh , that's a shame but she has amazing irons in her fire!

That sounds stressful oblomov.

Alsoplayspiccolo · 25/04/2022 20:48

Oblomov, I’m with you. Sorry you’re getting the vileness too.
DD hasn’t pushed the button yet - apparently, none of her choices are any good. She can’t say whether she wants to go to uni or not, but won’t discuss getting student finance and DSA in place, in case she does. Of I try to talk about any of it, I’m accused of trying to stress her out and putting more pressure on her.

In other news….GCSE exam number 1 happened today. Verdict: it was good, a lot better than the mock. [phew]

JustHereWithMyPopcorn · 25/04/2022 20:54

I’m sorry to hear that @Oblomov22 DS is up and down, awful for days on end then quiet and then suddenly back to being a vaguely normal child. I have decided to ignore him completely when he is being awful. It’s hard but I do it for my own sanity. It’s not continuous with him thankfully and I’m praying it doesn’t become so.

JustHereWithMyPopcorn · 25/04/2022 20:55

Good luck with the GCSEs @Alsoplayspiccolo it must be a sort of relief to actually have the, underway?

ChristopherTracy · 25/04/2022 20:59

Sorry all for vile dc. It can be so so draining.

crazycrofter · 25/04/2022 21:06

Sorry to hear of the vileness, they’re probably a bit stressed without knowing it - or maybe there’s something else going on.

Ds sent me a joyful text at 5.30 this morning with a screenshot of the calendar from the school website which said today was a training day. He’d thought it was Friday. So he and his friends went out for the day. I happened to look at the calendar at midday and it said the training day is Friday! Whoops! I’ve been too busy to keep track of school dates! It looks like the he

crazycrofter · 25/04/2022 21:16

Sorry to hear of the vileness, they’re probably a bit stressed without knowing it - or maybe there’s something else going on.

Ds sent me a joyful text at 5.30 this morning with a screenshot of the calendar from the school website which said today was a training day. He’d thought it was Friday. So he and his friends went out for the day. I happened to look at the calendar at midday and it said the training day is Friday! Whoops! I’ve been too busy to keep track of school dates! It looks like the he

crazycrofter · 25/04/2022 21:17

Whoops, it’s playing up today isn’t it!

Fonty · 25/04/2022 21:21

Just checking back in! Couldn’t find the thread after the new updates! Glad the move went well @Monkey2001 . Feel your pain re batteries & small electrical appliances. DM could’ve had her own shopping channel with all the various appliances she had!
Sorry about Cambridge zebra. And also about various DC & their behaviour. I’m basically acting like a slave & keeping my mouth zipped….. they won’t know what’s hit them on 26th June!!
Lovely to hear about plans & stuff to buy. DS STILL waiting for Durham & Edinburgh……Feel like we’re still in limbo land & can’t move forward atm.
v little revision seems to be happening here. Unless of course he’s doing an A level in the history of the Grand Prix….. in that case, he’s in for the highest Ax ever achieved.

Alsoplayspiccolo · 25/04/2022 21:26

Yes, a relief and also slightly terrifying, in a “ it’s actually happening - this is it!” kind of way, JustHere - I have to remind myself they’re the real thing, and not to want to just get them over with.
Exam number 2 is on Wednesday, by which time, 2/3rds of 3 subjects (out of 11) will be in the bag.
12.5 days of school left for DS. 😢

Alsoplayspiccolo · 25/04/2022 21:28

Fonty, your DS and mine would get only brilliantly - DS is obsessed with F1, and of course the Grand Prix season is perfectly timed to scupper weekend revision right now 😫

Fonty · 25/04/2022 21:47

Exactly Also! This weekend he watched the prelims (or whatever they’re called), then the speedy lap thing, then the actual race…..Doesn’t help that he also supports Liverpool & they seem to be playing matches every couple of days 😂 I despair!

Fiddlersgreen · 25/04/2022 22:09

Sorry to hear that @Oblomov22 , my DS2 (year11) is pretty vile at the moment too and it is so draining. I go to bed with a headache almost every day.

DS1 failed his driving test today, was a bit of a shock for him and he’d done two mock tests with his instructor and flew threw the second one without even any minors.
Can anyone recommend the best way to book a new test asap? Do I book one and then search for cancellations? I think there was an app or something that was mentioned before?

Fiddlersgreen · 25/04/2022 22:10

DS had also got into F1 this season and will watch any “big” football match as well as his own team so lots of sports watching and less revision at the moment

Monkey2001 · 25/04/2022 22:52

My stress is all MIL related, DS is just his usual self, not sure how much work is happening, but he has asked me to print papers. Meanwhile MIL expects me to go and play scrabble with her every night (I have taken 2 nights off in the last 2 weeks). Tonight I went at 7:00, cooked her dinner and played 2 games of scrabble and she wanted me to justify why I was leaving at 9.15! She doesn't seem to get that we have our own lives to live. It has made DS feel empathy for us, which may explain why he is being so nice! Still waiting for an offer, there will be a tranche of offers by 19th May as that is the deadline for all the universities who have still not sent their offers out, so should know something in 3 weeks, along with the people waiting for Durham and Edinburgh......

JustHereWithMyPopcorn · 25/04/2022 22:58

Keeping my fingers crossed for you @Monkey2001 and anyone else waiting. 🤞🏻🤞🏻

Oblomov22 · 26/04/2022 06:51

Sorry for waiters, Fonty for Durham and Edinburgh. Monkey. Is NCT still waiting? I feel very cross / aggrieved at these Unis, on your behalf!

Fiddler, sorry to hear that. Book again, anywhere, then use app such as : attached, where you can select 3 local preferred sites rather than the John o'groats you've booked. £15, but so worth it.

Laughed at Fonty's Grand Prix A'level.

Yesterday ds1 complained at all these revision classes and extra essays and after school sessions he's having to go to. I said it was just the school covering themselves, providing revision that all children had to do, just incase some children weren't doing it at home. (ie because very poor, no laptops, not having supportive parents). (Or entitled privileged children who for some unknown reason weren't knuckling down to it). The subtly of my comment was Entirely lost on him.

Zebra, your post was spot on.
1)"And shout, which mine then used as retrospective justification for their behaviour. " He does this to me, and it drives me wild. He's so pompous and perfect. He doesn't swear. I trot along giving my absolute all, for months, and he sucks me dry emotionally with all the support I give him in all his accountancy applications, visiting endless universities. And then I start to get cross at things and I verbalise this and say - I find that hurtful. And then it continues and eventually I blow my top, swear. And then all he does is use that as ammunition. And I'm left powerless. Even when I explain - I only did that because you done a,b,c,d it just doesn't cut it, I've lost all the power.

2)I have asked him why. He says he doesn't know. He admits to being very judgemental. He's been making snidey comments about me being lazy, greedy. Dh pulls him up on it, but last night took him out to the garage and told him in no uncertain terms that it stops, now, or else he can piss off and live somewhere else.

Worse still, he doesn't think he's being rude. Now that's a problem. Because if he continues like this he won't last 2 minutes on his PwC work experience. I'm seriously starting to wonder if it's not just selfish 18 year olds which many of us here have, but something a bit deeper/ more worrying - his AS, which we haven't had much problems with in recent years, re/appearing. His lack of empathy, the way his brain works, suddenly looks very similar to what he was like when diagnosed.

Thread 31 Covid Cohort - Hopping through Easter and Revision
GoldenRuby · 26/04/2022 07:14

We are still waiting for St Andrews and Edinburgh here. DD has convinced herself that she won't get offers now - so while she is still in the game it is just easier for her to mentally prepare for a rejection. She is fortunate though as she has an offer for Durham and really likes it, and most of her friends either have been rejected or are still waiting to hear from them.

cariadambyth · 26/04/2022 07:48

Eugh, so sorry to hear of some dc being so unpleasant and difficult, maybe they all have a secret way of communicating and have decided to take it in turns so we all get to experience the joy and different times! We used to laugh about our two having secret conversations when they were babies about which one would keep us up during the night this time.
Not much to report here, trudging along and getting a reasonable amount of revision done along the way. Dd is exhausted and a bit weepy. Most of the worry is about leaving home for university, she seems a very immature not quite 18 year old so I’m hoping RHUL will suit her and, grades permitting, she’ll be happy.

Wheresthebeach · 26/04/2022 08:23

Gosh that sounds tough Oblomov, I hope it gets better. I do think they behave their worse with us esp under pressure and esp now when they are about to fly the nest.

I hope everyone hears soon from Durham and the Scottish Uni's - it just adds so much more stress. They really should change the system so it's faster. I'm not sure who benefits from a deadline in January for the students and the uni's not responding til May. Just painful.

Volterra · 26/04/2022 09:15

So sorry to hear of vile DC, ill health and elderly parent problems. That sums it up really doesn't it, we really are sandwich generation.

Not much happening here . DS has exams and will decide insurance after the results. Dont think he is revising much. I don't care and just want him happy and I'm sure he will be fine wherever and hopefully at some point the GP will get right dose of meds for him. Next blood test July which isn't great as after exams and I would have liked to see them put dose up now as he is clearly not right but he won't contact GP again and it is what it is.

DD is hopefully redoing her final year as been ill for most of it, she's waiting to hear whether it has been approved. Goodness knows where she will be living after lease runs out in the summer.

We have my Aunt really ill in hospital and my lovely ex neighbour too. House hunting is brutal currently so our fall back option now looking pretty attractive. I have hurt myself moving something heavy at my Dad's whilst sorting things so necking painkillers .

singingstones · 26/04/2022 09:52

Oh Volterra you are having a tough time of it lately.
And Oblomov I hope things improve. I'm sure he loves and appreciates you somewhere underneath all the attitude. I honestly think it gets to a point with most older teens where it's better for everyone if they live somewhere else for at least some of the time. Sometimes that coincides with leaving home for uni or whatever, but not always. Hang in there.

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