Happy New Year! Another name changer here.
Ds1 doing well but I don't understand the system so it is frustrating. He is predicted A*/A in all A levels, his report said all okay not needed for a parents' evening, they only want you in if your child is a cause for concern.
Then Ds texted me from school saying are we free on parents' evening as one of his teachers wants to see us. Turns out that doing the expected homework, the additional study stuff to prepare for each lesson and completing all work in class isn't enough but that is more than a lot of children do. Basically the teacher said he doesn't show me his commitment in class. Which basically comes down to the fact that he is introvert and doesn't put his hand up enough. Grrrr. I have been having this argument for years. From primary school throughout secondary school.
He then started waffling on and I realise he doesn't know my child at all. So I told him a few things including that he was introvert. He was really surprised, so even though my son completes the work in class, shows he understands it, because he doesn't put his hand up to show the rest of the class he understands it then he is seen as not giving it his all. I don't think they realise how hard it is for him just to go to sixth form. 95% of his class are strangers to him. He hates large groups.
I think a lot of people who aren't introverts think that it means shy, it doesn't and I believe that this teacher thinks that too which is why he was surprised. I am an introvert but a lot of people wouldn't know that. I need time alone to recharge, I get overwhelmed in big groups.
Luckily in his sixth form there is a quiet study area where you can't talk so Ds1 can go there in his free periods just to get some quiet time when he needs a break.
Anyone else got an introvert?