Class of 18. No need for new school shoes

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A thread for those of us whose kids left school/sixth form/college a year ago. Friendly chat :)

Oh gosh Marmite. Good luck with the operation.

There was a thread on here a few years ago by a woman who reversed her diabetes through diet. It was very interesting.

DH has type 2 but takes tablets.

marmite
Sorry to hear about the health challenges; as if you haven't already been through enough.

Oh Marmite you've had so much to deal with already, life is so unfair sometimes.
Hopefully this will be the end of it and you can enjoy Christmas and beyond worry free.

We're on half term next week and I mentioned to DD today that I might pop down for an afternoon to visit.
She replied that she's extremely busy and will have to let me know
I think she was hoping for less contact time this term and has ended up with even more.
I'm still going to go though - and I'd like to see her refuse a free lunch!

Good luck marmite. My mum has diabetes brought on by steroids, she manages it without too much trouble.

Marmite
Hope everything goes well with the op and managing the diabetes. You have such a positive attitude which, I am sure, will stand you in good stead over the coming weeks.
ds has a cold and is feeling very sorry for himself. Everything seems to be going well in his shared house and they are cooking together which saves time and money. The weather is still pretty dismal (lots of rain) and he says the house is cold - apparently he has to put his jogging trousers on in the morning! Am not sure where he got the idea that he could sit around all day in autumn in his boxer shorts and not feel a bit chilly!

DDs troubled housemate has been taken home by her mum. I’m so relieved as she was starting to cause serious concerns. I kept asking them to involve her parents as you hear so often parents saying ‘If only we’d known’.

The rest of them have cooked a Sunday roast. Happy Days.

That's a relief Ursula. Let's hope housemate's mum can sort her out.

I'm glad to hear that the girl has got some family support.

DS is trying (attending lectures, has started new job, visits friends in their flat) but I suspect he is a bit lonely, and not really moving on from the relationship that ended just before he left. They message each other daily which doesn't help.

Poor DD is still struggling with her break up. She has made some nice friends at university, and socialises with them during the day, but on weekday evenings they don't go out or go to bed early. It is then that she feels lonely. I have had her in tears on the phone a couple of times now.

She likes her flatmates, but half go out without her and the other half stay in their rooms in the evening. It's tough being the parents of a fresher who is feeling sad.

Sorry to hear about DC feeling lonely and sad. It's so difficult to try and help them feel better from a distance.
Letting them know that they're not alone, and that many others will be feeling the same as them might help.

I think my DD1 would have struggled last year if she hadn't joined a club very early on which kept her busy and gave her an instant group to belong to.
There will be new clubs and societies starting up all the time - they really are a good way to meet kindred spirits.

It's still early days for them.
The recent break ups obviously aren't helping, it must be very hard.
My DD2 has ended things this week with her boyfriend of 2 and a half years. Im heartbroken for her, but part of me is relieved it's happened this side of Christmas to give her chance to get over things before her Alevel exams and the whole uni thing.

Relationships are so hard :(

Marmite very best wishes for the operation today ( I think it is today?)
Gin it is just miserable, but she will get through it, that is if they both definitely want to break up. Maybe she doesn't want to after all.

Ds1 seems fine. His working practices and sleep patterns are not really to my liking as an interfering mum but he seems chipper and this is the main thing. He came back twice for the London Film Festival and talked animatedly about all the films he watched including a version of Henry IV?? It is some comfort to me that he knew enough about Shakespeare to understand some of the context/genre, which he certainly wouldn't have pre A levels.
He went back with no warm clothes in September, but it was only in October that I was able to persuade him to finally clear his room of the warmer items cashmere hoodies, and his fleecy bedspread.
No sign of any relationship yet, I think he is just at the stage of learning to make friends and enjoying socialising. Which school did not seem to offer sadly.

marmite hope all goes smoothly with your procedure and recovery.

DS says he is feeling OK in himself, but is already struggling a bit with attendance and workload. The volume of required reading and level of assignments has stepped up quite a lot since first year.

Marmite - sending positive vibes ( am such a cool mum!) for your op and recovery.

I think it's tomorrow :)

I hope it goes well Marmite.

Nettleskeins and bronzegate,
Have been there hoping a DS copes with course demands. Is nice though, when you see them culturally and socially improving. My DS is navigating the workplace now - another new challenge!

Hope you are okay marmite.

Hi All. Thanks for the good wishes. Luckily I was first on the list so I am all symmetrical and home resting. Just got to wait to get biopsy results on the 28th but as mammogram was clear I am really hoping for good news!! The hospital was in code black lock down yesterday so I am really grateful that was lifted today. As an elective surgery I probably would have been cancelled.

I am sorry to hear about the loneliness. My DD's flatmates were rubbish last year. She hardly saw them. Luckily because she is musical she joined lots of choirs etc so they were her social life. I would really encourage doing appropriate societies as a way of making friends.

Lovely to hear your update Marmite
I hope everything is clear.

It turned out that everyone DD had contacted was also feeling sad, lonely and bored. They got together yesterday and decided that next time they felt like this they would be sad and lonely together. DD went out with a group for lunch today.

She has joined one society and is going to join another. She has also booked a ticket for the winter ball.

Really pleased to hear that Gin! What a relief for you and her. Glad she took the first step. That will improve her confidence when making new friends!

So glad hospital were efficient marmite. A relief for you! My dad has had an operation put off 5 times recently, all for good reason in a way but so frustrating. It seems depts are too busy to talk to eachother in stretched NHS. Hope you don't find that marmite

That's a relief Marmite :) Good to hear you are at home.

Sundowne I must say I have had excellent care both from my surgeon/breast care nurse and oncology department.

Unfortunately I can't always say the same for my Dad who had a lot of hospital stays before his death in December. I found that truly frustrating but he had a lot of complicated medical conditions I suppose.

Very glad to hear all went well marmite, hope you're resting lots and being looked after at home.
DD has had her first late night dance class of the new term this evening, the first since moving out of the city centre, so her first experience of cycling the 4 miles there and back alone in the dark.
She was absolutely fine of course, it's me that's anxious about it (and will be at this time every week until I know she's back safely!)

Marmite lovely to hear from you, thank you for taking the time to let us know how it went. Best wishes for a relaxing recovery.

I did a chemistry degree, lots of time in lectures and the lab and no free time worth speaking of. DS is monumentally bored because he has a couple of busy days (one with an eight am start, one with a 6.30pm lecture) and then a couple of days of practically nothing. I've suggested joining a gym, volunteering, mentoring (which is a paid gig) or looking for a part time job but he'd rather do nothing and complain about it. Hiis life, his choice but I'm rapidly reaching the stage of my choice being not wanting to hear about it any more.

Great news Marmite that all went well!