Haudin I saw lots of family members of all ages recently at an event, I realised that there is no limit to the dipping in and out of family support, whatever age your child is, or whatever age you as a "child" are. I think it ebbs and flows, sometimes they really really need us to worry about them, and at other times, we can possibly be confident in their "independence". But it is always changing.
This morning, after a lovely day spent with ds yesterday and Sunday, I can see how the independence has made him more communicative and able to ask for help. So this morning I found myself ringing him at 9.00am to remind him to get up for the first 10am lecture of the term. He asked me if I wouldn't mind doing this, as he says otherwise he has a tendency to just switch the alarm off, and what he needs is a person to talk him "awake". So far, this alarm call has not been requested the whole of last term, or once in the holidays (angry] but once he realised that sometimes it is backfiring, not to ask for help. And he desperately wants to make a success of his sleep patterns and work this term. His work is at a B-/C+ level so I think he is aware that he could do bettter on the organisation/concentration front. So I was glad to help in that small department of "alarm call mum".
He was so sociable yesterday at the family gathering. It is so lovely to see him with this new level of gentle/affable confidence.