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maypole1 · 03/12/2011 19:21

just had to ask several of my friends to remove pictures of my fc

Aibu

I myself have been contacted in the past by a birth parent and the message I got was no fun.

I tightened up my page but was a little taken back to see fc on other people pages I don't myself put pictures of my fc and very rarely of my own children

Aibu to ask others to take the pictures down

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LucyFarinelli · 03/12/2011 19:46

YADNBU. Your children and FC are your personal business and friends should always ask before they put pics with you DC's or FC's on FB. Especially if there could be repercussions or a possible risk to your FC's. If they (your friends) dont understand this, then you may need to close your account. Hope you get things sorted.

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maypole1 · 03/12/2011 20:41

Thanks

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NatashaBee · 03/12/2011 20:56

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bonnieslilsister · 03/12/2011 20:59

Not much point closing your account if your friends are putting photos on their page! It is almost worth keeping your page open so you don't miss anything like this.

YANBU to ask them to take the pics down.

SquidgyBrain · 03/12/2011 21:04

I use a false name on FB, started as a joke but have found great benefit to it as my current LO's mum has asked if I use it and when I said yes she said, I looked for you and couldn't find you!.....

Anyway, that is a little OT, but I use a false name and I also give my LO nicknames so I never use there name if I am referring the, for example there was an outside school event today, and I put up that my youngest DS and I decided to stay home as it was too cold for Squirm, I have posted a couple of pics but never any that you could identify him in, as is he is faced away from the camera.

Anyway I guess what I am saying is I would never identify or put identifying pictures of him on FB (or anywhere else online) and I would expect my friends to do the same. I am sure that it has just not been something they have thought about, and if you just ask them to remove them.

I also wouldn't put up pictures of anyone else's children up without checking first tho - I guess some people are more thoughtful about these things than others tho

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maypole1 · 03/12/2011 21:05

NatashaBee mine do but when your at a function and people are taking pictures especially if their friends of friends apart from asking them to take the pictures off I am not sure what else i can do

Apart from stopping fc coming to events

These days people put everything on face book
Ah I guess Facebook is just something else to worry about know

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3brokentoes · 03/12/2011 22:25

None of my foster children have ever been allowed to have their photos taken in school. Social Services will take a very dim view of foster children having their photos broadcast on facebook! Maypole how did you allow other people to take pics of your foster child??

ChooChooWowWow · 04/12/2011 16:10

I think it's very hard if not impossible to stop people taking pictures at a social event. My fc took part in a local parade recently. The next day out of hundreds of people it was their picture plastered all over the local papers.

Our LA forbids any pictures of fc on FB. I would ask your friends to remove them and explain the situation.

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maypole1 · 04/12/2011 17:05

3brokentoes we were at a hollween party with about 100 adults and children their was no way I could tell who was taking a picture of whom even some of the children have phones with cameras it it to be fair very difficult to stop people taking pictures.
Especially if the fc themselves is not refusing

I didn't allow it if I saw someone trying to take a picture I would of politely asked them not to

I have asked the people to take down the pictures as yet no luck the problem is their not direct friends and because they don't foster they don't see the issue.

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scarlet5tyger · 05/12/2011 14:12

I don't put pics on Facebook but agree it's hard to stop others taking pics of your FC at social gatherings - they might just be in the background of a picture of your friend's own children - I can sort of see why they wouldn't understand why they can't put their own picture of their own child up just because the back of your FC's head happens to be on the picture. Saying that, my friend's have all been good about it (so far!)

It annoys me though that I take so much care, then see that Birth parents have somehow managed to get the printed photos I've given them onto their own Facebook pages! (I know, I know, I should just avoid their facebook pages)

parachutesarefab · 13/12/2011 14:34

If you've explained the situation, and they haven't taken down the pictures, could you ask your SW to get in touch? Most parents wouldn't welcome being contacted by a SW. Or could you contact facebook to have the photos removed - you are only supposed to post a picture if you have the permission of everyone in it?

We've been told not to let anyone take a picture of FC - and if they do we have to ask them to delete it. Everyone has been understanding so far, but it does rather draw attention to FC (even if I include my kids in the request, and be as subtle as I can).

Out of interest, does anyone know what the situation is when FC is old enough to have own fb account, and can post pictures of themself? And what about their friends?

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