Hiya ,Oh dear ,just had the week from hell ,the sweet 9yr old whos been with us on a permanent placement since last september,suddenly turned into hell girl lol .
She refused to be near me constantly rejecting any hugs etc,after being such an affectionate child ,she has destroyed some of her well loved possesions (including her laptop provided by ss),destroyed several items of her clothing ,she bullied our lovely old dog who she usually loves to bits ,my grandchildren have also been on the recieving end of her temper (only verbally) we couldnt get her to wash and shower,and she usually takes pride in her appearance.
It really seemed as though she was pushing the boundaries to extreme to see how far she could go . we took the tv out of her room ,explaining to her she could have it back when we were sure she would not destroy it ,this didnt seem to bother her one bit .OH and myself had a long chat with fd monday morning ,told her we loved her and we were not giving up on her .
She looked so happy and relieved to hear this ,as if she was expecting us to say" we,ve had enough of you ".
We think this could be the answer ,she is probably waiting for us to give up on her ,which has happened in previous placements.
She is back to her sweet self this week and seems really happy and settled again .No doubt this will happen again and we will be more prepared for it ,we didnt decide to foster for an easy ride and to be honest this is the worst week we,ve had so can,t complain at all .
Bye for now Caz x :)