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Do you ever get fed up with the moving thing........

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VanillaPumpkin · 22/01/2008 18:37

I am feeling crap. We might have a posting back to an area we want and I still burst into tears when dh told me. I wonder if I will ever be happy. We didn't want to be here but I have worked really hard to make the most of it and be part of the local community etc and have a good bunch of friends. I LOVE the nursery that dd1 went to and dd2 is going to and really like the school that dd1 has just started. The thought of moving again is making me miserable even though we sort of asked for it...
It is hard work though and although the children are still v young (2.5 and nearly 5) and I know will settle OK (hopefully) I know we will just get sorted and settled and have to move again....
I want to live somewhere where I can watch my friends children grow up with mine, not move around all the time. But by the same token I am desperate to be closer to my family and this will bring this. I truly should not be complaining and I am sure I will be excited when it sinks in and I get organised but my initial feeling is . I really really really know how lucky I am, honestly when I have my rational head on, but right now I am having a moan as I feel sad. Just humour me and say 'there there', please .

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Scootergrrrl · 22/01/2008 18:43

There there. It's always sad to move - we'll be on our seventh in the summer - especially if you've built a lovely life for yourself.
Moving is an upheaval, even if it's to a posting you want. DH always has to pat me the first couple of weeks in a new posting when I've weeping and wailing cos it's nowehere near as nice as the place we've left. Then we move again and the same ritual occurs...
Try and keep smiling

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VanillaPumpkin · 22/01/2008 18:58

Lol Scootergrrrl, you are so right I know. Poor DH thought I would be really pleased and didn't know what to say when I left the room and started sobbing in the kitchen. Gah! I have worked hard to settle here, and nearly all my friends are civvies. When we have moved before it has felt like the right time as our friends have been military and so have left or due to leave IYKWIM. This time I had the bright idea of wanting a 'normal' village life and so although I have my RAF friends here the majority all live here and won't be moving....Now that bright idea seems stupid.
Anyway I will do some research. It is the school thing that gets me down. I have hated dd1 starting (in Jan) even though I love the school and her friends etc and now I have to uproot her etc etc. It was exciting to move when it was just us...now the children are older I am being stupid....
Anyway I should not be complaining. At least my DH is here in this country with us.

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Cam · 22/01/2008 19:03

I'm an RAF brat and we moved umpteen times during my childhood. I once went to a school for one month when we were on standby to go to Singapore to join my father

We were 4 children and our education didn't suffer at all, children are far more adaptable than adults !

McDreamy · 22/01/2008 19:08

We're fed up of it in the McDreamy household. We are due home fro Cyprus in the summer and we are currently house hunting to stop this 2 year moving.

School is one issue for me but also friends, both ours and my children's. I will be really upset to leave here, we've had a great time but hopefully it will be our last move!

Like you Vanilla I want to be closer to friends and family and be able to watch both my and my friends children grow up.

Chin up girl xxx

Scootergrrrl · 22/01/2008 19:11

Where are you heading to Vanilla? Is it a big camp with plenty of facilities?

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VanillaPumpkin · 22/01/2008 19:14

Thank you Cam. That is reassuring.
McDreamy - (It is me Skyler who was in Cyprus 2 years ago). We wanted this slot when we left Cyprus. It was available but they chose to give it to someone else and give DH his only negative choice . I want to but a house and wanted to get back to where my parents are and hoped for only this one more move. I think it is the fact we will have at least 2 more moves as well. DH would have gone unaccompanied on a last tour if our second to last was where we wanted to settle IYSWIM..... Blooming children complicating everything. My whole attitude has changed having them .

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McDreamy · 22/01/2008 19:19

HI Skyler - didn't recognise your new name (great name btw). So where are you off to? And where do you want to be?

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VanillaPumpkin · 22/01/2008 19:23

I had better not say until it is definate, but it is actually an Army garrison and I am a RAF bod. We had lots of Army friends in Cyprus though so I know you don't have three heads or anything , but because it is Army I don't know that much about it compared with RAF camps IYSWIM. I will email the lovely Hive tonight....
Thank you. I am feeling better just hearing from you. It is always the initial shock of here we go again that I hate. And I know that is the life yadah yadah yadah.
I did this to poor DH when we got our posting back here . I went off on one saying I wouldn't go with him and ten minutes later I was finding positives about it all. It is not fair on DH but at least I start to look for the positives hey? I didn't mean it at all when I said that. Aren't I unfair.

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Cam · 22/01/2008 19:24

Vanilla you know the Army's Barmy and the Navy's Crazy

McDreamy · 22/01/2008 19:26

No not unfair, it's hard! I am really looking forward to coming home but really not looking forward to leaving here. I know how you feel, we all do , that's what we're all here for!!

Email the HIVE that is a really good idea. Log on to to upmystreet.com or somewhere similar and find out about the local area. I am hoping to move bakc to Wiltshire so if you're going to be nearby..........you never know.....maybe a military mumsnet meetup?

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VanillaPumpkin · 22/01/2008 19:33

Cam - Lol.
McDreamy - I sobbed as the plane took off.....so many memories!! And the move you are going to do was tough. We were homeless for 2 weeks and slept in eight different places in those two weeks....and wait until you see the rubbish you put in storage .
Sadly no where near Wiltshire, or I would have loved the meet up. (Do you know a CP? She has 3 children all school age now. Her DH is the Sqn Ldr Nurse at TPMH. He is into windsurfing. She is WONDERFUL, slim long curly brown hair. Officers patch. They have been in Cyprus for 5years??? They move back this summer. Anyway she is fab.)

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shoshe · 22/01/2008 19:34

I must be a bit odd, cos I've always loved the moving.

Including the years with my Dad being RAF (we were in Singapore as well, 4 times!)

Moving into this house was my 32nd home! And within the next few months will be doing it again

DH is due out in Sept 09, but will be going MPGS till April 2012, then we will move back to Scotland, and supposedly our final move.

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VanillaPumpkin · 22/01/2008 19:34

Oh and thanks for the UpMyStreet recommendation. Good site. When I have a clue where the housing is I will get onto that......

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McDreamy · 22/01/2008 19:35

I know her REALLY well. She is so lovely. I used to be a nurse with her husband who is also lovely. Small world!!

shoshe · 22/01/2008 19:37

McDreamy if you get Wilts, want a meet up. I'm in Dorset

McDreamy · 22/01/2008 19:39

OOh yes!! I'm going to feel abit like Billynomates after being out here! Should be back at the beg of the summer holidays!

shoshe · 22/01/2008 19:50

Will have to arrange something, will see what time I have off, as i dont think you want myself and 7 mindees descending on you , although we may be able to find a park for a picnic .

email me at [email protected].

McDreamy · 22/01/2008 19:52

Sounds lovely. Will be in touch! Wow 7 mindees!

shoshe · 22/01/2008 19:54

Yep 7, you will recognise me I look like this nowadays although the hair is greyer

McDreamy · 22/01/2008 19:55

lol

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VanillaPumpkin · 22/01/2008 20:06

Shoshe - xposted before. It is good to have a positive, but will you ever settle .
McDreamy - Tell CP that CC who has L and H and is friends with another CP who is in Gloucester with G and W misses her and Cyrpus life. She will think you are mad! I believe she is computer illiterate so I don't think I am outing myself lol. Actually she has probably done LOADS of courses since J started school and is a whizz now. Her J is the same age as my dd1. She did me a wonderful breakfast on my last day in Cyprus and threw great 'present' parties where you take a secret gift and swap them. You have probably been to one. Hilarious.
This moving around does give you the opportunity to meet some amazing people actually doesn't it. I have special people from all my postings, esp Cyprus.

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McDreamy · 22/01/2008 20:09

I will, I am assuming she will understand I have indeed been to one of her present swapping party so did we ever meet or did you leave before I arrived?

McDreamy · 22/01/2008 20:10

Her J is in the same class as my DD!

shoshe · 22/01/2008 20:10

I somehow doubt it VP, we were going to go to SA to live, but have now decided against it, but DS and DDIL are going to Canada on a job exchange for 9 months, if they like it they may well stay, so you never know we may follow

benandalex · 22/01/2008 20:12

i love the moving the unknown we are leaving cyprus on sunday and going to wiltshire and i cant wait got our quarter address carpets cleaned today and moe into hotel tonight i ccant wai to be back in uk again have suprisingly missed it but the main this is i will be alot closer to my family still a ferry journey or 1 hour plane journey but so much more accessabile