DH has just gone to Iraq, (second Op tour in 2007) we're in Herford, and as my dcs are 3, 2 and 4 months, I went home for the first 3 weeks, and just before we were due to get on the ferry back, my mother (who had promised me she would come with me to help) announced she wasn't coming....... Am very proud of myself for coping with 3 tiny children on an overnight ferry and the long drive at both ends, but would quite like to throttle darling mummy!!!!! My stepfather said 'you have to make allowances for her.....' [hmmmmmm]