I would like you're honest opinions on this, it's a bit of a mixed thread to be honest.

[AmIBeingPetty]

Not sure where to post this, so decide here would be a good start.

After 3 incidents that happened over the weekend, I am deciding whether to stay with DH or not. I HAVE changed my name as the details are so unique they would out me in a second if anyone knows me.

Other things are going on in my life which are quite major and I feel they could be clouding my judgement, so, until things on that level calm down (a month on one level, longer on the other), I am taking things with DH day to day and not making any rash decisions, he understands he was in the wrong and acknowledges why I am thinking like this. And for the time being until I know what I want to happen there will be no bedroom action.

I have decided today to cook a nice meal for us tonight, bearing in mind my dh is a very fussy eater, what do you think of the following:

Breaded garlic mushrooms for starter

Southern fried chicken with fresh salad and home made french dressing along with fresh crusty bread

Followed by syrup sponge and custard.

I have got a nice expensive rose wine that is ideal with salads and desserts etc too, that is chilling in the freezer.

I've got a comedy film to watch, going to light candles and curl up and watch this.

Is this ok? Am I making a big enough effort?

purpleduck most people just call me OMDB

Am wondering whether the op is a dinner lady in disguise? Either that or her DP's fussy eating habits stem from years of cafateria food at boarding achool?

Was it you who had the 3 major incidents and you are trying to make up for it? That is how i read it. You are now wondering because of what you did last weekend you are not sure whether to stay?

Is it steamed syrup sponge?

maybe the subliminal message is in the garlic , southern fried chicken and frence dressing
just reinforcing the bedroom ban!!!!

Is the syrup sponge coming out of a tin or are you making it from scratch?

OMDB...oh...missed the obvious one - the boarding school scenario would explain the custard.

Is it birds ready made custard?

AIBP - if we're confused he's sure as hell going to be.

Who's in the wrong here - him or you?

Feed him what you like but make sure you talk about the problems because that's the only way whatever mess you're in will get fixed.

What exactly are you making an effort for if you are determined to withold sex though?

Exactly! He's going to think he's getting some - she will withhold - it seems a bit manipulative

If I cooked my DH a 3 course meal he'd def think he was in there. That's his idea of foreplay.

v.v. mixed messages.

IMO your just serve up a large glass of good red wine each (no more) and get the the root of the matter.

Then you can shag / leave (delete as appropriate)

yes purpleduck, very manipulative. She goes to all the 'effort' of opening tins of sponge and heating custard and then he gets stroppy when he doesn't get his way and she plays the martyr

Just drink the wine and talk about the problems, forget the KFC.

LOL at KFC

OMG, it is a Meal Deal isn't it?!!!

of course, it could be Chicken Cottage?

either way, it just doesn't cut the mustard I'm afraid.

I was hoping I'd come back to find a clarification but nope, still makes no sense.

curious bump

It would take me hours to contemplate noshing anyone after noshing that lot...so what happened?