AIBU to expect DH and DS to not eat from the homemade Buffett?

[mumknowsbest47]

Surely I cannot be the only person that feels physically sick at the thought of other people’s homemade sandwiches, pies etc at a party!! Its no joke it literally makes me want to heave. But the problem is that I expect DH and DS to not eat it either. That too makes me feel sick. We are going to be going to a party soon, step son and partner. She is not very clean, cat hairs etc. I will be really annoyed if DH and DS eat anything. AIBU??

Do you eat in restaurants ? Do you know that the food there is actually cooked by human beings , it doesn't just magically appear on your plate ? Geeze Louise, this has to be a wind up. Either that or you need some serious counselling.

Don’t impose your irrational views and behaviours on this on your family.

Really - there is no difference at all to eating out at all (in fact in some ways its probably better eating homemade stuff)

If real you need serious help as YABVVVU

step son and partner. She is not very clean, cat hairs etc why only she? Why not your step son too?

Do they eat your homemade food?

I think once your anxiety starts to impinge on the lives of your family it is a string clue to seek help. Never mind about whether you are the only one who feels like this about party food, You won’t be the only one who has ever turned up at your GP to talk about this kind of anxiety.

Good luck OP.

Don’t impose your neuroses on other people, particularly your children or they’ll grow up and perpetuate the cycle. Also, I don’t know if you’re the same about restaurant/cafe food, but if you are, you should speak to your GP about getting help. It must limit your life.

Do you only ever eat things you’ve made in your kitchen? Otherwise everything is ‘handmade’ isn’t it? You have bigger issues than your husband and son eating a cat hair or two.

My mother was like you throughout my childhood, it took me bloody years to undo the work she did. I was 19 before I discovered that salad did not need to taste of Milton. YABU, get help or keep your fears to yourself.

YABU,

i sort of get you op, my dcs have an elderly relative who hosts a xmas get together for family, she lays out all the food in the morning and people go in the afternoon, but she chainsmokes indoors and the laid out food includes chicken drumsticks etc
I’ve to,d the dc if we ever go, steer well away from any chicken products and stick to sarnies and crisps etc

One can be a bit OTT though and I think expecting you’re dp and dc not to eat anything isn’t over the top, some crisp sounds and non meat sandwich’s are not going to kill anyone and it seems up to them if they want to eat there knowing their hygiene practices aren’t great.

I lived next to a cafe and it was obligatory for the chefs to leave the back door open for flies to get in, and to chain smoke. The cooking smells brought rats into the garden and the whole place was vile.

HTH.

I really do suggest you get some help. Fair enough to be concerned about hygiene but this goes way overboard.

So you never eat out, anywhere,ever?

Oh dear, you are obviously quite unwell, please get some help before you spoil your DS's enjoyment of social events forever too.

Of course YABU.
You can choose to eat (or not eat) whatever you want. You can not impose your neurosis on to other people.
Are you getting help?

How do manage to kiss people? To sit on a loo seat? Think about it, there are many situations where you are exposed to other peoples germs. The very air we breathe has been inside other people's bodies as has much of the water we drink!

I love homemade food. My friend isn't always the cleanest and has a cat but she is a great cook and i would never pass up a chance to eat her food. I have never been ill yet. I think the majority of people are happy to eat from a home made buffet. Surely the food has to be better than shop bought stuff? I sent homemade cake in to my DHs office yesterday. Apparently it was all eaten by his colleagues in a flash.

You really cannot pass your food neuroses on to others. Please seek help for this.

You have a problem. It's within your head, not in anybody else's sandwiches.

Seek help. Don't be the person who makes their child's life weird and miserable because of your own peculiarities.

You're expecting to police your DH and DS's food because of your issues?
YABVVVVVU, sorry.

I agree that you are allowing your own anxiety/neurosis to impact on others. It’s time to get some help. See your GP ASAP.

Just reading through all the replies - I know I said that OP is being very unreasonable as she is but is there any need for "unhinged" etc comments?
Anxiety's real and it's shite if you suffer from it.
OP, you're entitled to not want to eat the buffet, that's your call, but please try not to worry about what your ds and your dh are doing re eating buffets.
That's the kind of stuff children can pick up on and cause them to worry too.

I thought this thread was going to be about your own homemade buffet, and your question was AIBU to expect them not to eat from it, because there would be none left for the guests?

You need professional help for your anxiety over this.

And yes, how come it's only "she" who is a scuzzer? And not her husband?

You do realise the cells in our bodies are 90% bacteria?

And babies once they are born are awash with bacteria?

That without bacteria we don't develop strong immunity?

That we as a species survived for 1000s of years without any neurosis like yours?

That most bacteria is our friend and only a few are harmful; the only scary, sickening thing about this thread is your domineering and dogmatic and quite frankly disturbing train of thought.

Definitely you need to get help op. You'll feel better for it.

What makes your food so much more hygienic for DH and DS to eat that you think other people do not do?

Would you not eat food prepared by your DH then either? And I hope you never eat out at a restaurant