AIBU to expect DH and DS to not eat from the homemade Buffett?

[mumknowsbest47]

Surely I cannot be the only person that feels physically sick at the thought of other people’s homemade sandwiches, pies etc at a party!! Its no joke it literally makes me want to heave. But the problem is that I expect DH and DS to not eat it either. That too makes me feel sick. We are going to be going to a party soon, step son and partner. She is not very clean, cat hairs etc. I will be really annoyed if DH and DS eat anything. AIBU??

Yes you are

Is she really not clean though? You do sound a bit OTT. I love a good buffet and the home made ones are the best.

Are you serious? In restaurants everything is made by someone.

You sound terribly anxious. I think other people's decisions around what they eat are theirs to be made. So no, I don't think you're being reasonable; but I do acknowledge your anxiety around food you haven't fully controlled the preparation of.

Have you thought about how you might best deal with this, now you have a family who have their own social lives? My DS is at university and god only knows what he eats. I don't have anxiety around it, so I can shrug. You don't sound so lucky.

Ridiculous.

Yabu obviously. How could you think you’re not?

Why do you expect them to abide by your rule on this?

Very unreasonable I'm afraid

Do you have OCD?

You can't expect other people to act in accordance with your personal paranoia

You really are quite peculiar.

If you don't want to eat it that's fine but I don't really think you can't tell other people what to do. You do sound overly anxious about it but it's your choice. We all have things we don't like I suppose.

Bloody hell, don’t spoil other people’s lives with your peculiarities.

That’s pretty rude and unsociable. If you children are old enough to understand the situation ie know it’s a party with homemade food and they want to eat it you should let them.

Your attitude is very odd. Have you sought help or do you just expect your family to go a long with your, um, issues.

Meh. No escaping cat hair here. We have a very clean kitchen, but I bet we still manage to ingest cat hair every day.

But...everything somewhere is handmade or been touched by someone else?
Do you only ever eat food prepared in your own home?

You sound completely unhinged

You sound mad! Unless she actually makes cat hair sandwiches

If you think she, her home and her food are so awful why would you accept ah invitation to her party?

Eat what you want to, or not, but dictating what other people do isn’t on.

Unreasonable and rude.

You don't have to eat it. You can't insist others don't. You have an immune system for a reason. They will be fine.

Reverse, surely. No one can actually imagine that food items sold in restaurants and shops are produced by magic and without being touched by anyone, and expect all family members to go along with her weird fantasy?

Of course you are being unreasonable, as well as judgemental and more worryingly paranoid.

Do you think it ok for other people to eat your food?

I am sort of with you what is worse is the cake sales. Always steered my children to the shop bought cakes.

Even if they eat it you do know that they won't die because of it don't you. You're being very selfish if you expect them not to eat it because you don't like it.

I do believe this is real, but only because I've seen so many MN threads about people who throw out home made Christmas gifts and the like.

It's very eating disordered and/or OCD behaviour, and controlling. Do you have other issues? At minimum, let them eat - but in the longer term, can you get some support for this? It's very life limiting.

I had a son who felt as you do for 3 years between the age of 5-8. I got him professional help and he is much better now.

I suggest you do the same. The way you feel is not normal. You are trying to push your anxiety on your husband and son. It is your problem to deal with, not theirs.