Tell the truth, when you are in a supermarket, do you check out other people's trollies, and feel slightly smug????

[scotchick]

I do! I can't help it! I'm all judgemental, but at least silently so. If I see sunny delight and a 6 pack of 2l coca cola, I can't help but feel superior!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

i always get behind old people buying tons of spirits! people buy tons of the same things if they own a cafe or have a mobile sandwich van.

i dont take a lot of notice, unless its something that really stands out, like 50 pizzas, 50 bags of chips, 50 bottles of coke etc(obviously having a few people round) as im so stressed and harrassed

I dread to think what people think of mine. We buy in the most random combinations, especially when we're at OH's appartment! One time we got about 24 AA batteries (they were on offer & you know how many toys use up!), 2 bottles of champagne & ice cream amongst more sensible items like bread!

no I worry about what people think of mine. I am a sucker for food and spend small mortgages on things like 'orkney crab' or teeny tiny little scallops for 8 billion pounds a pop. I think people must look at my trolley and laugh their heads off.

Me too bosscat, I think other people must think "posh twunt" when they see my "taste the ponciness" yoghurts and organic weetabix and free range everything. But I tell myself it's a good thing to spend loads on food, like the italians.

Meanwhile I do gawp like a fish at people buying multipacks of cheapo crisps and gallons of coke. Or loads of scary diet foods, low-fat butter and the like. Now that's what I call crap.

oh yes - and then feel slightly embarasssed looking at my own to see such wonderful combinations as

Organic Yoghurts, Mince and Bacon along with lots of fresh fruit and veg...........and.............

Morrisons Bettabuy (VAlue) Tinned tomatoes LOL.

Nowt wrong with value tinned tomatoes!

really?? So I'm not getting quiet dirty looks from behind me as they spot the value toms????

Value toms just need a pinch of sugar, IME. And, sometimes a squirt of Tom K.

oh phew - so I can go back to smuggly putting my 95% healthy (pefectly budgetted) food through the till while casting 'eyes' over the expensive cr*p going through the one next to me.

It always amazes me to see people spending 80 or 90 (or even more) £'s in a shop - full of ready meals and cr*p when I'm spending £50-60 on food that I can cook wholesome meals with..............

And when we were skint last year I think we ate the healthiest food of our lives! (although lots of value and 'non' free range stuff it was still proper meals with lots of veg and pulses!

Serious question moondog (carrying on from current thread in SN)

do they cover serious eating problems in your course?

(they should if they don't imo).

Yes they do.
The mechanics of eating and drinking of course (dysphagia) has been a standard aspect for ages,but more and more interest in and consideration of the psychological aspects.

(As an aside,one of the most lasting things we were taught was how it is to be fed or watered by someone else.We had to do it to each other,also adding things like blindfolds and earplugs to simulate sensory issues. Absolutely terrifying and a very sobering experience.)

I have spent a massive amount of time dealing with children with serious eating issues, very similar to those you describe your ds as having..

There is one child I know who eats nothing but cheap chocolate and weird little rice krispie cakes.
We all agree that his communication issues are more pressing than his dietary ones,so his PECS book is full of tiny scanned pictures of all his favourite food.

His mother is also unable to shop in bulk as he will eat everything she buys so on top of her problematic life,she has to go to the supermarket every damned day.

I would hope that in the future we can address his appalling diet.One doesn't need to be a dietician to know that this food is not doing him any good.

I also feel very strongly (going purely on what I experience) that neurologically speaking,a lot of kids with SN are even more sensitive to the chemicals and additives in food than NT ones.

Would also add that obviously people with children with SN who are battling to get thier kids to eat anything are of course not included in my (or shouldn't wonder,anyone else's) psychotic ramblings about only dining on organic chappattis hand milled by virgins on the shores of the Ganges.

sometimes I feel smug but other times when it is top up shopping and I have no fruit or veg in the trolley I am ashamed! I sometimes hide the chocolate and sweeties (usually for me BTW) at the bottom!

I don't usually look but quite a few years ago I went to a Japanese supermarket/shopping centre just outside of London. I had a good look in basket of the Japanese woman in front of me at the checkout.

And was most put out that she had white bread, butter, eggs, yoghurts etc in there.

moondog - that last part has to be in the running for quote of the week! lol!

no - shop online a lot and I hate shopping so if I am in the supermarket I go round like a scud and get out.

Couldn't give two hoots what anyone else is buying.

Yes agree aboout chemicals in food. DS1 didn't eat anything except gluten free bread, gluten free pizzas, and buckwheat pancakes for many years (except gf biscuits of course) but was always extra nutterish when he accidentally got hold of sweetners or something (hence one reason my children have to have very high temps before they get given calpol/nurofen).

From living with/observing this sort of thing I do think sensory issues are huge. And also associations. Bad association with food (eats something same time as loud noise outside for example) and that food is off the list. Few of those occurences and you're down to a handful of foods.

No, I don't.

I DO judge women who shout "I'm gonna fucking kick you so hard" to their children though. And "Get some shitroll, you wanker, it's on special" to their partners, both of which I've heard in the supermarket.

But the trolley thing - I can't be arsed. I'm interested in what's in my trolley and that's it. If other people choose to feed their children shit for no good reason, so be it.

when those who look in people baskets and trollies to see what people are buying, do you stop and think of posibly their dietry needs? dh, in end stage heart failure, was told by the dietician that he desperatly needed to get weight on before his LVAD op, and to fill up on protein (hospital foods remember) and forgo the low calorie fruit and veg. he had lost over 25% of his body weight i na matter of months. some of you have seen the skinny pictures.

this went on for around 6months, then his weight stabalise (we were supplementing his diet with cooked chicken, potato snacks, nuts, bread, calorie ladded ready mixed milkshakes, cheeses as well as build up soups and shakes), my shopping trolly was full of crap, high calorie foods for months, in just an attempt to get his body to maintain a healthy weight. he was weighed daily, as he was also gaining fluid weight, and fluid needed to be kept down as it puts pressure on the heart and other organs.

then he stabalsied. but then it al lwent wrong again, and the crap high calorie food, laden with fats, cream etc started again.

it seems so wrong to be giving a heart patient food full of fat. but it had to be done. now he is stable, we are trying to keep his weight down and not put on too much.

now we are on weekly weigh ins and temp checks.

ROFL @ "shitroll"

You know you've got it bad when you even turn up your nose at what is on offer in the organic award winning cafe on a leafy farm in the verdant Vale of Clwyd.

Yup,me yesterday.

i will admit to being totally gobsmacked at the lady who had filled her trolly with dairylea lunchables, bruschetta thingys, some reduced cheese and bottle water. there was enough cheese and crackers in that trolly for her and dd to have one for lunch and dinner everyday for a week.

what I dislike is bumping into acquaintances in the supermarket and having them make sarky comments about the amount of organic stuff in my trolley - inverted judging.

I judge massively myself of course, esp people who buy bernard matthews products for their children and no fruit or veg.

Shopping for DH's mountaineering trips is a bit embarassing - bars of chocolate, tins of stew, ready cooked rice in pouches, pepperami, Ready-Brek etc and no veg (perhaps a few apples). But I enjoy looking at what other people are buying, though even in Waitrose, people don't seem to buy much of the upmarket ultra-fashionable stuff (at least not out in the sticks).