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Invited to a vegan wedding

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frazzledrocks · 05/04/2006 21:52

I'm a carnivore but they aren't catering for me. I've got to eat vegan food.

When they came to my wedding, I gave them a vegan menu in the day and evening and they had vegan favours on the table.

This is a serious question - why aren't they catering for my chosen diet? I'm not going to make a fuss about it with them, but I think it's bloody rude!

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tillykins · 07/04/2006 22:03

Perhaps they see it as a way to show their 80 guests that vegan food can be tasty?
Its not as if there is any midway I suppose, but i think they could have given guests a choice between two meals -one vegan, one not - and asked you to let them know in advance

Will there be a buffet in the evening? Will that be vegan?

thewomanwhothoughtshewasahat · 07/04/2006 22:11

I really don't understand your logic. in what way do you "need" to eat meat? (on that particular day). In what way is it enforcing a choice of diet? there is a massive difference between omitting something a person would normally eat from a meal (ie not providing an ominvore with meat) and including something a person would normally not eat. (presenting a vegan meat). It's totally different.

hunkermunker · 07/04/2006 22:14

This is a pisstake, right?

thewomanwhothoughtshewasahat · 07/04/2006 22:15

that's what I thought at first but I don;t think it is. btw are skittles gelatine free?

spidermama · 07/04/2006 22:16

It's their day. They hate meat. They're paying for it. Do you really think they should have to shell out for something they think is morally wrong and spend their wedding day having to smell dead cooked flesh?

Wise up!

lockets · 07/04/2006 22:16

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Gillian76 · 07/04/2006 22:17

was wondering the same about the skittles!

spidermama · 07/04/2006 22:24

To think, these people regard you as their friend! They've even invited you to their wedding. If only they knew.

SorenLorensen · 07/04/2006 22:30

\link{http://www.veggieboards.com/boards/showthread.php?t=16283\Better not tell them about the Skittles either, frazzledrocks}

lockets · 07/04/2006 22:30

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CarlyP · 07/04/2006 22:31

although i think this is funny, i can see ger point, in the fact that you cater for someone elses tastes and beliefs, but they dont cater for yours. fair enough, although id go and not bother about what i was eating, i can see why this would iritate

Skribble · 07/04/2006 22:36

I think the main difference is that your normal diet can include vegan foods, but a vegans normal diet means cetain foods are no nos.

I see your point about soy milk and othe r foods you wouldn't normaly eat.

I worked at an event where the client was a vegi and refused to pay for meat for even the staff meals. It didn't bother me and I enjoyed trying the different meals, but a lot of the staff ended up eating egg and chips for a fortnight because they didn't fancy the vegi meals, I think that says more about them than the client TBH.

NannyL · 07/04/2006 23:09

I agree theres more to life to worry about.... ok you may eat meat... BUT you also eat (i assume) fruit / vegetables nuts etc...

these people probably HATE the idea of all the cruelty that DOES go on in the animal industry so probably dont want their wedding to contribute to the inhumane farming industry, as im sure its against all their beliefs

Although i have no plans to get married (yet) i can garentee on the day i will not have any battery animals (or their products (ie eggs) or unbritish pork or any non organic dairy products at all consumed by ANYONE

It will be my day and my guest will eat by my principles or go hungry!!!!

mojomummy · 07/04/2006 23:38

If you are good friends with them, I think you should respect their wishes/views.

If not, don't go to the wedding.

Personally, I think it's a great idea & why shouldn't they have their wedding day exactly as they want ?!

spidermama · 07/04/2006 23:47

I totally agree mojomummy.

What's more I'd be really upset if my so-called friends felt this way about my choices on my wedding day. It's not like they're forcing you to go against your principles. I would far rather people with this sort of axe to grind stay away from my special day if it were me. What if they weren't providing coca cola but it happened to be your favourite drink. Would you moan then?

Open yourself up to a new experience for one day. You might learn something.

expatinscotland · 07/04/2006 23:50

K, let's change it then, since we're all about respecting peoples' choices for a wedding.

How about 'I've been invited to a childfree wedding'?

puff · 08/04/2006 00:04

I think the food will be great - a friend of mine had all vegetarian at her wedding a few years ago - very very very yummy.

We used to stay with vegan friends regularly and I still cook some of the recipes they taught me cos they are yum too

Is this thread a wind up anyway?

suzywong · 08/04/2006 01:22

SPRAY@ taking in your own KFC bucket, that's very funny

threebob · 08/04/2006 06:57

I fed all the kids at ds's 2nd birthday with his special allergy free food. One of the mothers moaned that her children were made to suffer the indignity of no hundreds and thousands for one meal, and that he didn't have a proper cake.

Needless to say this woman and her revolting offspring were not invited to his 3rd birthday, or indeed my house for any reason.

Ds went to a birthday party today, took some of his own food, ate what he could and nobody was offended.

Caligula · 08/04/2006 07:06

pmsl at the leather jackets.

OK I now get your point about soya milk in the coffee. Yuk. Isn't this more about you feeling injured because you made an attempt to cater for them but they haven't made the slightest attempt to cater for you as regards peripherals like milk for the tea/ coffee?

I guess if you really want to end the meal with a hot drink in which you would generally have cows milk (although chances are there'll be althernatives like herbal tea), you could just take a pint with one of those ice-packs so it doesn't go off.

lockets · 08/04/2006 08:00

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edam · 08/04/2006 08:32

Nice idea Lockets. But if they have strong beliefs about the dairy industry they may be uncomfortable with that.

Tinker · 08/04/2006 08:34

I've been to a vegan wedding. Yummiest food I've had at a wedding.

lockets · 08/04/2006 08:37

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zippitippitoes · 08/04/2006 08:38

I would be tempted to think that the food would be better than usual because of the effort required to produce vegan food..most weddings I've been to the food has been diabolical mass catering slop even when the venue has been lovely and photogenic