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DreamySleepyBonfireNighty · 05/11/2012 20:57

Happy Bonfire Night!

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TeeElfOnTeeShelf · 05/12/2012 14:17

FUCK!

My childminder just quit as of after the holidays.

Ah well, I wasn't horribly happy with her anyway.

But still...what a pain in the ass...

StateofConfusion · 05/12/2012 16:33

Hope your ok now brian there's some bloody awful drivers out there, me and dp were talking about how despite the snow and wet here people were driving faster and worse than usual, madness.

Best of luck shaky if you have to go, but imo your signed off so you shouldn't have to deal with bitch face.

Oh shit tee what a nightmare, I do hope it can turn into a positive and you can get a much nicer one who's more supportive when littletee is ready to toilet train x

Well I'm officially back in the 21st century, internets back on

BrianCoxIsAChristmasPud · 05/12/2012 18:21

shaky you don't have to go if you don't feel up to it.

If you decide you can go in, you are allowed to take either a colleague, union rep or friend in with you. I know this because I have been there and my mum came along to support me. If it is too short notice for the union rep, you can arrange a more convenient time.

You are signed off sick, your boss has no right to pressure you like this - do not let her walk all over you

Update on the name Ex sent a light hearted message, checking I was ok after this morning's incident, and used my name of choice to refer to the boy! He did it with a wink, but I will press him on the matter on Friday at the next scan.

Update on Grandad he is up and walking and seems fine, should be home tomorrow, am very relieved.

Tee utter nightmare, same happened to me with a CM that I wasn't happy with but DD seemed to like. I actually had to give that CM a dressing down (so to speak) over her handling of the situation - she told my (then) 6 yo DD that she had another baby to mind so couldn't look after her, then TEXT Angry me with a convoluted story about it all being too hard and she was thinking of quitting. I know DD is delightful for CM's / school / anybody but me, so it wasnt her behaviour, it was the fact that the CM had a chance at more money - which is fine, but don't effing lie about it! Left me in a right mess and the search for another CM was not easy, but ultimately I found a brilliant woman who will more than likely CM for baby when I go back to work.

TeeElfOnTeeShelf · 05/12/2012 18:27

Sorry, I meant shaky not bonkey earlier. Finger confusion!

StateofConfusion · 05/12/2012 20:21

Glad your Grandads doing well brian and that your making head way with the name --im so fecking jealous you can use it --

This may sound strange but I just need to say it, I've realised I'm happy, it seems such a long time since I've sat back and thought about my life and right now I seem so far away from all the bad things our family went through in 2010/11 ending with me having a nervous breakdown, I just feel like its done now. So my children can be total sods, and dp spends time on the twat bench, and were skint most of the time, but really life is good, we get by, we laugh and have a good supportive family and I'm happy. And I feel a bit emotional about it. Feel free to give me a slap.

TeeElfOnTeeShelf · 05/12/2012 21:01

No slap from me State. I'm exactly where you are.

I have no work coming in, my child minder quit, my fibro won't stop flaring and my bad leg is killing me.

But I am so happy with my life, I cry with it on occasion.

Feels good, eh?

DreamyDreaminOfAWhiteChristmas · 05/12/2012 21:17

I'm sorry to put a downer on things guys, but Colin died. You know Colin? Yeah, he died. Xmas Sad

That thread has cracked me up!

TeeElfOnTeeShelf · 05/12/2012 21:22

That thread is hysterical dreamy

ShakySingsMerryXmasEveryone · 05/12/2012 21:30

Poor Colin Sad

StateofConfusion · 05/12/2012 22:07

It does tee I feel a bit strange Grin we can be strange together. Btw I choked on my juice at your tweety pie status, your ds is hilarious, and the way you wrote it.

Who's Colin? I don't venture out of the puddle and my pregnancy thread much these days.

ShakySingsMerryXmasEveryone · 05/12/2012 22:52

state I know exactly what you mean.

I have everything that I have ever wanted in life. A lovely partner, gorgeous son, fantastic job that I am more than good at. I really have never been happier. This is why the clinical depression is such a bitch, I have no right to feel like this. There is no reason in my life for me to be suffering this depression which reinforces to me that it is a chemical illness. I just want it to go away.

ShakySingsMerryXmasEveryone · 05/12/2012 23:02

Seriously, am I really allowed to say that I am not up to having a meeting with my boss?

I sat down tonight with a note book and wrote down my feeling and then justified it with the reasons for my feelings. I now know that I am NOT being unreasonable, but I will find the strength to be assertive yet cordial in our meeting.

At the moment there is no plan in place for my return to work, she will just have to wait. I feel that actually meeting with her will be better for me in the long run because I will have got it out of the way. I have had an awful week avoiding phone calls etc, I think I need to tackle this head on...

ShakySingsMerryXmasEveryone · 05/12/2012 23:04

I cannot bear this constant anxiety, it feels like I am doing my driving test tomorrow, ALL of the time Sad

ShakySingsMerryXmasEveryone · 05/12/2012 23:07
StateofConfusion · 06/12/2012 00:08

shaky lovely I've been there, in my teens and once I had the big two, hence the much bigger age gap between dd and dc3. Its bloody rotten and confusing, but it does get better.

If you feel up to meeting your boss, have someone go with you and go, if you don't, don't, your signed off and that's that.

snowtunesgirl · 06/12/2012 00:33

Shitting hell. I just figured out what I have! It's bloody hand, food and mouth, not flipping scabies.

Shaky, if you're signed off, you're signed off. Work cannot make you do anything and if what they're doing is making you feel worse, I believe that's illegal?

TeeElfOnTeeShelf · 06/12/2012 06:14

shaky I take pills twice a day and will for the rest of my life due to depression, anxiety and agoraphobia. I'm still happy with my life. My brain is just wired wrong. That includes the fibro, BTW, which is also a mis-wired brain disease.

Take care of you first. And do what you need to do to get better.

Well, shoot snowy! At least you figured it out, though.

State No one knows who Colin is...

StateofConfusion · 06/12/2012 09:01

Ah ok mumsnets clear as mud as usual then Grin

Bloody hell snow atleast you can get the right treatment now.

snowtunesgirl · 06/12/2012 09:13

Nought I can do about it except neck down painkillers and wait for it to clear up. The marks on my fingertips are like little crescent shapes and I've got these horrible blistery type ones on my feet. I look like I have the plague.

BrianCoxIsAChristmasPud · 06/12/2012 09:39

Shaky

Just found this on t'web

Can the employer make contact during sick leave?

Some employees feel harassed by their employer when they are on sick leave because they are in contact so often. Others, however, complain that they feel abandoned because their employer never gets in touch.

There are no hard and fast rules, but employers need to use tact and common sense if someone is off sick. Likewise, trade union advisors need to be alert to the fact that an employer may well be harassing an employee if he or she is ringing every day asking when the person is going to return to work.


Have the Union contacted you yet? Do you have a copy of your contract and/or the sick-leave rules? Rep should know this, so really you do need them to speak to you.

Personally, I believe you are right to stop contact at this point. You have been in contact with your employer and have only stopped contact this last week because she has been harassing you and making your situation worse.

For your own peace of mind go and see her if you must - but please take somebody with you for support.

If you do not feel up to seeing her, you email her (this is still contact) to say she is causing you undue stress and anxiety, you feel she is harassing you and you will be in touch when you feel able to (cc her manager in to the email). This will give you a chance to speak to your union rep.

I'm no expert, I am just saying what I would do and having been through similar but handled so very differently, I was not put under pressure. I do not think the NHS would allow you to feel harassed, were correct procedure being followed - I think this is solely on your manager's shoulders, she is incompetent and dangerous.

Im now late for work lol, so before I get sacked and come here cryign about it I best get off!

Take care

xxx

StateofConfusion · 06/12/2012 10:27

Oh snow hope it passes soon.

SantaKissedBonkeyMollocks · 06/12/2012 17:50

Quick.one.from.me....

My internet is down so im bugged atm. Phone is crock!
Have been to the docs today and have anti sickness feeling tablet things to hopefully help . Have lost 3lbs in 3 days Shock because i can't eat :(

Shaky Mario arrived! Ds loves him! I am going to have to kidnap home back to go on the cake because ds doesn't want him.to get cakey !Hmm Grin

Hope you are all well! I hope to be back asap! RL is boring Wink

SantaKissedBonkeyMollocks · 06/12/2012 17:50

Quick.one.from.me....

My internet is down so im bugged atm. Phone is crock!
Have been to the docs today and have anti sickness feeling tablet things to hopefully help . Have lost 3lbs in 3 days Shock because i can't eat :(

Shaky Mario arrived! Ds loves him! I am going to have to kidnap home back to go on the cake because ds doesn't want him.to get cakey !Hmm Grin

Hope you are all well! I hope to be back asap! RL is boring Wink

SantaKissedBonkeyMollocks · 06/12/2012 17:51

Argh bastard phone for typos and double posts! Angry

TeeElfOnTeeShelf · 06/12/2012 19:52

And now LittleTee is saying he doesn't want to go to CM's house tomorrow after school. Of course he can't tell me why. Being a parent is too fucking hard.

bonkey I hope you feel better soon.

You too, snow.

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