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I've realised I don't really like mn much anymore...

107 replies

Pheebe · 11/01/2009 20:36

Mainly I think I'm tired of the sycophantic 'in crowd' who think they're all qualified to psychoanalyse other posters and close ranks if anyone not in the 'in-crowd' dares to offer an inconvenient truth or even just tries to join a conversation.

I realise I often say what should probably be left unspoken. I often post what people apparently don't want to hear, but I always post from the heart with the intention of offering genuine advice meant to help. Well almost always, occassional pmt-driven strop excepted...

What do I get - ignored or flamed, then if someone from the in-crowd says essentially the same, they get applauded for their valuable contribution just like being at school really.

I realise this is a reflection of how low I'm feeling in RL at the moment but where I used to take comfort from posting and reading posts on mn, now I just find so much of it pathetic brown nosing between the 'in-crowd'.

Not sure if I feel better or not, but there you are, its out in the open. Not really so much of a flounce as a weary dragging of toes...

OP posts:
fuckitgoblin · 11/01/2009 22:41

Oh there are cleeeeeks everywhere.
One goes, another one takes it's place.
There are plenty of cleeks on here still.
People are kiddin themselfs if they think there arent.
Such is life
Sink or swim and all that jazz.
Dont leave pheebe
Not least because I like your name

RiaParkinson · 11/01/2009 22:42

cliques are unpleasant...they feel unpleasant

I would NOT be proud to be named as a member of any clique - shudder

Monkeytrousers · 11/01/2009 22:42

Well I wasn't aware of them, but maybe cos I just don't notice those kind of things anyway in RL.

But also, there's always a bot of backbiting and bitching in groups. It's just ebbs and tides - it;s life. I locve my best froend but sometimes she pisses me off too. If were a bog group of grown up women - and have commited to long term friendships - we have to negotiate human weakness within that. Or am I wrong?

Monkeytrousers · 11/01/2009 22:43

bit and big

gotta problem with 'i's tonight

Tortington · 11/01/2009 22:44

Yes MT you are Right. Sensible people, one would hope, operate like that - in a sensible grown up way.

others start a secret group

harleyd · 11/01/2009 22:44

i like it much better on here lately

daftpunk · 11/01/2009 22:45

fuckitgoblin...wow what a name?

daftpunk · 11/01/2009 22:46

monkeytrousers...are you pissed?

Maclaren · 11/01/2009 22:50

I know how you feel I have felt the same over the last few weeks so much so that last week I cancelled my membership (lasted a week) (blush)

RiaParkinson · 11/01/2009 22:52

quote from wiki

'Cliques are often associated with children and teenagers in a classroom setting. Schools are a prime place where peer network exist and can easily be accentuated through the differentiation of various cliques, and through the processes of inclusion and exclusion that characterize a clique.[3]'

fuckitgoblin · 11/01/2009 22:52

do you like it daftpunk?
the best of the rest are whats left after the gates of mouldieland closed

daftpunk · 11/01/2009 22:58

i love it fuckit!

(now... who the fuck were you?)

harleyd · 11/01/2009 22:58

hi tm

KewcumbersRoastingOnAnOpenFire · 11/01/2009 23:13

I'm in a posse. Which is kind of aclique but nicer. I know the west lonodn group personally and count some of them as my closest friends now. But I don;t think we really act like a clique on MN and we (I hope) are always welcoming to newbies joining in the area.

I also feel like I know the adoption group better than otehr posters just because it tends to bethesame posters who slowly get to know each other over time.

Otehr than that I can never remember from one thread to the next who said what so I'd be rubbish at being part of a clique.

It is sometimes possible to feel like you're being ignored but I think you do have to get a grip and realise that not every post can be acknowledged and in the rare threads that the OP tries to - they read very oddly and don;tflwowell at all.

having said that - is it very sad of me to get a warm glow everytime anyone says "I agree with Kewcumber"?

(Note to self, must stop roasting on a open fire...)

Monkeytrousers · 11/01/2009 23:54

just tipsy dp

harleyd · 11/01/2009 23:55
Monkeytrousers · 12/01/2009 09:20

lol Harley. I was on the coffee by then!

Monkeytrousers · 12/01/2009 09:21

Custy

harleyd · 12/01/2009 11:23

coffee..very rock n roll
i too was living dangerously, on the lemsip

Monkeytrousers · 12/01/2009 14:16

Max strength?

BBBee · 12/01/2009 18:54

oh - i am a 10/10er but i am not a clique - we welcome all and all are welcome.

i do not discriminate on main boards either

(worries that 10/10 is going m0uldie..)

SuperBunny · 12/01/2009 19:02

DS is being particularly shouty today. I asked him nicely if he'd go back in his room since it is still 'rest time' and he yelled, "No, don't say that to me EVER again? It's not fine and I don't like it. NEVER EVER say that to me. Okay?"

SuperBunny · 12/01/2009 19:04

Ah, you see, now I posted on the wrong thread

I meant to say:

10/10 is not a clique - lots of people come and go. It is just a thread for people who want to eat more fruit & veg. Anyone is welcome.

And, as you can see, we talk about things other than F&V

ForeverOptimistic · 12/01/2009 19:05

I like it more now. I joined in 2005. MN now seems to have got the "feel good" factor that it had back then.

BBBee · 12/01/2009 20:18

lolololol super bunny!