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I've realised I don't really like mn much anymore...

107 replies

Pheebe · 11/01/2009 20:36

Mainly I think I'm tired of the sycophantic 'in crowd' who think they're all qualified to psychoanalyse other posters and close ranks if anyone not in the 'in-crowd' dares to offer an inconvenient truth or even just tries to join a conversation.

I realise I often say what should probably be left unspoken. I often post what people apparently don't want to hear, but I always post from the heart with the intention of offering genuine advice meant to help. Well almost always, occassional pmt-driven strop excepted...

What do I get - ignored or flamed, then if someone from the in-crowd says essentially the same, they get applauded for their valuable contribution just like being at school really.

I realise this is a reflection of how low I'm feeling in RL at the moment but where I used to take comfort from posting and reading posts on mn, now I just find so much of it pathetic brown nosing between the 'in-crowd'.

Not sure if I feel better or not, but there you are, its out in the open. Not really so much of a flounce as a weary dragging of toes...

OP posts:
RiaParkinson · 11/01/2009 21:54

should not have said top 20

mn does not want to start that old girls thing

slaps own wrist

RipMacWinkle · 11/01/2009 21:54

Is that it? Devour a whole lemon drizzle cake?

If only I'd have known. I could have been in this 'incrowd' aaaggggggeeesss ago

MrsArchieTheInventor · 11/01/2009 21:57

A couple of years ago I thought there were undercurrents of cliques that were unpleasant to those who weren't part of them. It was obvious that mn-ers knew each other in real life and chatted on messenger etc, but when it carried on in threads that were genuinely asking for help it was downright irritating and just like being in the schoolyard again. For example, someone would start a thread like 'my baby won't stop crying and I'm at breaking point' and someone would type a response and someone else would completely disregard the original post and carry on a conversation with the second poster, which was highly, highly irritating. I know it's a public forum and a messageboard at the end of the day, but sometimes it was like 'get a room, you two/three/four', and it felt like anyone who said as much were flamed by the clique.

I've started rambling on mn again after a break and hopefully it's not as bad as it was, and if it is I'll just stick my tuppenceworth in and sod the cliques. We're all in the same boat at the end of the day, just wanting to do the best by our kids in a demanding job that has no induction period or holiday pay.

Bluestocking · 11/01/2009 21:57

Are we allowed to discuss the Mldes anwhere other than the hermetically sealed Moldie thread? I think it's loads better on here since that gang left. They reminded me of the Lipstick Brigade at my secondary school.

RiaParkinson · 11/01/2009 22:00

mrs archie have you name changed

daftpunk · 11/01/2009 22:01

i've started to notice people i'd never noticed before... it's like the walls come down.

RiaParkinson · 11/01/2009 22:02

yes daftpunk i agree but wonder if there is just a mass exodus from old names....

shabster · 11/01/2009 22:02

Bluestocking x

Quattrocento · 11/01/2009 22:03

Pheebe - I don't think we've met but I'm sorry you are feeling like this. I don't think there is an in-crowd and if there is, I'm certainly not in it.

Stay and talk to me.

RipMacWinkle · 11/01/2009 22:03

MrsArchie - you're so right. I hate that. You feel like you're intruding on a personal chat thread when trying to find out what happened to OP.

Hopefully things are getting better. But it will always be the case that people meet or know each other in RL so I guess, to a certain degree, it will continue.

By the way, LOL at the holiday pay/induction. So true, so true.

MrsArchieTheInventor · 11/01/2009 22:04

Apart from one name change for either halloween or christmas when I first joined (which was more trouble than it was worth) nope.

daftpunk · 11/01/2009 22:07

what do you mean ria? moldies are all still here under new identities?....possible.

Bluestocking · 11/01/2009 22:13

Pheebe, your problem acquaintance sounds a bit of a nut, I am sure your DH is right. Perhaps she's just threatened by the idea of a new mum joining the group and the possibility that her place in the pecking order might change?

Monkeytrousers · 11/01/2009 22:14

Cliques are just people who get on. Why shouldn't mn have them. There are plenty of threads on here where I take a look and think, 'fuck that! Not my thing'. I don;t feel excluded though!

daftpunk · 11/01/2009 22:19

fair enough.

MrsArchieTheInventor · 11/01/2009 22:21

There's nowt wrong with cliques, it's more when you read a thread title and think you might have something constructive to contribute and find that the 98 posts are between three people having a love-in with no reference to the original post, which has long since been forgotten anyway.

Tortington · 11/01/2009 22:22

for me there is an unpleasantness to a clique that i don't associate with a group.

there were definate cliques that didn't belong to a particular group.

so i would say the scuttlers - are a group just like 10/10 and the barrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

However, i don't see cliques at the moment and find this thread rather surprising.

princessmel · 11/01/2009 22:25

agree with custardo re the groups/cliques thing

BlueSapphire77 · 11/01/2009 22:26

Wouldn't worry about being ignored or getting a round of applause.
If someone has posted asking for help, and you have bothered to reply, that is reward in itself..IMHO
Thats the point of the board..to offer or ask for help or advice.
Sod the in or out crowd lol

Heated · 11/01/2009 22:27

Yes MrsArchie, they should get a room.

But agree MN much less cliquey and friendly of late...until the next full mooooooooon

daftpunk · 11/01/2009 22:28

the posters on the scuttle thread & the 10/10 thread are some of the nicest people on mn...(and i was made very welcome in the bar one night on my way back to RL.)

agree with you custardo.

MoreSpamThanGlam · 11/01/2009 22:35

DaftPunk - How VERY dare you?

Im famous (in my house....)

MoreSpamThanGlam · 11/01/2009 22:35

DaftPunk - How VERY dare you?

Im famous (in my house....)

BlackEyedDogstar · 11/01/2009 22:35

Oh I'm always ignored too Pheebe

What can you do? I would say that the Moldie thing has freshened the place up nicely, and I bet people are reading your stuff even if you don't get a name check.

daftpunk · 11/01/2009 22:38

MSTG;..you're at it again..posting twice just to get noticed!