I've realised I don't really like mn much anymore...

[Pheebe]

Mainly I think I'm tired of the sycophantic 'in crowd' who think they're all qualified to psychoanalyse other posters and close ranks if anyone not in the 'in-crowd' dares to offer an inconvenient truth or even just tries to join a conversation.

I realise I often say what should probably be left unspoken. I often post what people apparently don't want to hear, but I always post from the heart with the intention of offering genuine advice meant to help. Well almost always, occassional pmt-driven strop excepted...

What do I get - ignored or flamed, then if someone from the in-crowd says essentially the same, they get applauded for their valuable contribution just like being at school really.

I realise this is a reflection of how low I'm feeling in RL at the moment but where I used to take comfort from posting and reading posts on mn, now I just find so much of it pathetic brown nosing between the 'in-crowd'.

Not sure if I feel better or not, but there you are, its out in the open. Not really so much of a flounce as a weary dragging of toes...

if there ever was an in crowd i definitely wasnt in it and i don't give a bollocks

there was a time when in rl it was all i used to worry about, and then i had a really bad experience at the hands of a bunch of cliquey women and realised its an ugly life for ugly people

what i am trying to say is that the less you let this woman bother you the more likely you are to find the goodness in other people

she sounds like a bitch. if you were giving someone else advice would you tell them to try and make a friend out of her? probably not. so stop worrying x

good

flounce denied!

Oh don't go, I'm always ignored, so what?
I just come on for a distraction from RL.
Have a break, and come back all refreshed.

Doh
Was chatting with DH and took too long.
You're staying anyway

TADAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks wilkos, thats DH's take on it too. He reckons just ignore her ignorance, carry on being nice to everyone and she'll make herself look small...

Problem is I've come off worst against passive aggressive bullies like her before and this now involves (or could involve) my kids so I shall riiissseee above...

Having had my flounce rejected and having considered my options I have decided to take a short break and return refreshed shortly...see y'all...in the morning I suspect

MSTG - I did I did now DH wants me...yay someone in RL loves meeeeeeeee
night night all, and seriously, thanks xx

We don't know each other at all I don't think (though I do recognise your name) but just wanted to chip in: please don't go for these reasons. Bugger the 'in-crowd' (if there is such a thing). If you still feel there are things you can get/give from MN don't go! It would be a real shame if people feel 'bullied' (not quite right word but can't think of another atm) out of MN just because they aren't part of a (perceived) in-crowd.

You keep on posting, and hope things pick up in RL too.

'I don't want to belong to any club that will accept me as a member', Groucho Marx

Keep your chin up and keep posting but remember that sometimes words look worse when they're written down than when they're said in person. What seems like an innocuous sentence to you could seem like the opposite to someone who is caught at the wrong moment. I've only been on mn for a few days after a year or so's break so I don't recall any inflammatory posts. All that I would say is that you're entitled to your opinion and as a public forum you are perfectly entitled to express it. Just bear in mind that out of thousands or so mumsnetters there will be thousands or so different opinions, each one as valid as the next.

p.s. what was the embarrasing thing you wanted to ask about oral sex?

see you tomorrow pheebe

(who is that spam woman?? ... i've never heard of her.)

Having a break can help. I used to get really hung up on this kind of stuff too. I had a break and came back with the view to not taking it too seriously or too much to heart.

Always remember that if you're becoming upset by the 'experience' of mn, then perhaps it's just not worth it.

There are a lot of people on here who do give good advice and can be a line to hold onto when you need it. One minute you think everyone on here is against you for a fly away comment you made, and the next they can be holding your hand through a crisis and offering a kind of support that can be hard to find elsewhere. Like Lulu said, it can be the 'tone' thing. Can be hard to interpret a persons meaning through a computer screen.

I'm sure if you're feeling down and want to talk about it, people would try and help as best they could though.

Define an 'inconvenient truth'?

if you get ignored just start a new thread

i will still never get this

if you do not like it just go

dont announce

sorry but what's the betting you don't go?

Oh, just you wait Ria. You'll eat your words!

I'd love to know who's in the top 20...

Anyone fancy coming up with their take on the top 20...?

lol Monkeytrousers

The ones that do this generally stay!

Is there an in crowd? I get the impression that some people know each other in real life but isn't there a fairly shifting population? I don't think you should let MN get to you. If it is, then I'd inclined to say that it's occupying too important a role in your life.

can i be in the 'in crowd'?

Dragon - is there some kind of initiation to get into the "in crowd", like a US-sorority thingmajig?

your guess is as good as mine rip

I think you have to eat an entire Lemon Drizzle Cake in one sitting.

I agree that there is much less of an incrowd since mouldies.

MN is fab. Some people just dont seem to get it though.

This used to bother me (posts being ignored and the same thing said by a "regular" and applauded), in fact it still happens. For some reason it doesn't bother me any more, so all I can say is - stick with it

I've done this before. Sometimes you just want to be talked out of something. Perfectly normal in my book