No-one will notice but announcing my flounce is the only way to stick to it

[BumbleFeck]

This place gives amazing support everyday but none for me

Over the last few months, I've started threads asking for advice/support/help and had nothing. Mostly the threads go completely unanswered, rarely they might get a couple (at most) replies but nothing else.

It's not helping me being ignored here as well as in RL.

I've NC'd for this as I can't actually bear any pity from anybody should they choose to look for my unanswered threads.

So with no malice, just grinding sadness, I'm off

The house is in my name only. We aren't married so I insisted on that to give me some protection never thinking I would need any.

I do need to figure out a plan/time scale. I think he needs to be involved in that though because ultimately, he is the one that has to go

I feel a bit like a deflated balloon today for getting it all out. Thank you all so so much for listening and not just telling me to suck it up. It feels like forever since anyone has understood how miserable I am

Its hard Bumble but so worth it. I was in your position 25 years ago. If there was a manchild competition my ex would've won from the comfort of his chair! We split when DS was 3. I have never looked back. Its incredibly freeing and I loved being alone with my son.

It's so much easier to see what's happening from outside a relationship. I've seen friends go through what you have and I must say I'm so proud of the way they have moved on and made a happy life for them and their kids. It was like suddenly all the energy they put into 'keeping the peace' and 'making things work' was put to good use being a brilliant mum. Most have taken up a hobby or sport too and I see their old selves once again - optimistic, engaging, planning.

You'll get there. No one is saying leave him forever, but I think he needs to be away from you while you look after yourself (you've been through so much) and consider what YOU want next.

Sorry to have missed your posts bumble. I don't go onto the relationship board much any more. Are you happy with getting rid of him and will he leave quietly?

Talk to him Bumble he needs to know how unhappy you are, and that you want him to leave, like j said earlier he cannot be happy in this relationship, he just can't be arsed to change it.

Tell him he has a month to sort out alternative accommodation, do it love, it won't get any easier.

Glad you're feeling a bit better :)

Doing nothing is ok too. Take your time to think about how to handle today and tomorrow.

One day at a time.

Well that's his birthday over with, DS picked him a couple of nice things and actually sat and wrote the card himself, even if he did address it to instead of 'daddy'. But for a child that hates writing, it's a damn good bit of effort.

Try and have a chat with him. Surely he isn't happy with the situation?

How are you feeling today Bumble?