Leaving/flouncing not worth crying over words on a screen

[InNeedOfBrandyButter]

Probably my own fault for over reacting but leaving because of some really offensive posters.

Just like to say good bye to my favourite posters and the ones who have been so lovely to me.

Sole source, sp, af, usual, worra, rubyfakenails, bridezilla, and many many many more. Even Scottish mummy who made me laugh all the time. Shcro your lovely to.

[MulledPinot]

Take no notice, SDTG

[InNeedOfBrandyButter]

Why are you a social worker? Are you trained to see what constitutes abusive and scaring ds? Do you know me and my ds personally to have a better judgement on what his reactions to whatever could be like?

mock how funny, thinking about it I remember at school having a argument with a girl who's holiday was hotter, 3000 degrees

[SarahStratton]

Sorry, I've read the whole thread, I've not posted on it, but I do think that maybe it would be a good idea if you stepped back and thought calmly about what has been said. You've had some excellent advice, a lot of kindness shown to you, and a fair few posters have patiently tried to explain why they disagree with you.

I don't see anything said on that thread that would be cause to flounce though. It seems rather an overreaction to me.

[SDTGisAChristmassyWolefGenius]

InNeed - on a recent thread, a number of mumsnetters posted about their mums saying similar things to them, when they were little, how scary they found it, and how it affected them for years and years. I honestly don't think you want to affect your child like that - hence my comments.

[AlienRefucksLooksLikeSnow]

Inneed I've always found you quite funny on threads, and generally light hearted. I think you're having a bad day on MN, it happens,I would give it a rest for a bit too.

I know you don't want to talk about that thread on here, but it's a bit difficult when we've had to read it to see why you flounced, and I do see why, but honestly think you're taking this all too heart too much. Have to agree with the 'going to a home' comment not being good though>>>>>>>>>>>

[InNeedOfBrandyButter]

I have not affected my ds and I'm not justifying or explaining my parenting to you or anybody else who wants to play wannabe social worker/therapist.

[MulledPinot]

The shrill-o-meter is going to explode, you know.

[InNeedOfBrandyButter]

I don't feel light hearted about that thread, not sure why everyone feels they can pile on (not counting you alien you haven't been rude to me by stating your opinion) and say I'm abusive and all the snide remarks like "I wonder why" blabla. I really do need a break I have over reacted and took it all to heart. Cannot believe I have let random internet strangers upset me so much.

[amillionyears]

Children seem to lie most around the age of 4 or 5.
So teachers should be quite used to that happening.

It is end of term for parents, children and teachers, so everyone can feel quite fraught at this time of year.

op, I imagine the teacher will have forgotten the incident by the begining of next term. And hopefully she will talk to you nicely in the New Year.

[amillionyears]

fwiw, I dont think your ds will be remotely scarred. Doubt he will remember much at all at his age. I certainly dont.

[SarahStratton]

Nobody is playing wannabe anything. You are overreacting again. This is a chat forum, when you post you invite comments and opinions, whether you like it or nit some of them are going to be disagreeing with you. If you can't cope with that, a chat forum is not the place for you.

And FWIW, my parents said something similar to me, and it affected me hugely and still does. Posters pulling you up on that did so quite rightly imo.

[InNeedOfBrandyButter]

It was not people disagreeing with me that is my problem...

And your own personal experience of being threatened was not the same conversation I had with my ds.

[BOFingSanta]

Fuck off with your well-meaning advice, BeataNox (just saving OP some typing there)

[SuePurblyFeltYourPresents]

I'd be more sympathetic at you being upset at what 'randoms' have said to you, if you hadn't just told someone to fuck off and called them a sanctimonious cow. I imagine that could be upsetting too.

And lots of people disagreeing with you is not 'piling on', it could just be that, I dunno, lots of people disagree with you.

[JustFabulous]

Children don't need lots of words and long speeches to believe something.

What you said about ending up in a home was enough in itself for your child to now worry.

It would be a terrible world if people didn't speak up when someone says or does something that is harmful to a child.

[amillionyears]

The op is feeling fraught.
Best if posters lay off her.

[TheFallenMadonna]

I think you need to hide this thread too now!!

Look, the only reasons to engage in a long thread (or two..) where the majority of posters disagree with you is a) because you find listening to an alternative viewpoint useful, or b) you like a bit of a bunfight.

As neither of those seems to be the case, disengage.

[judefawley]

I read your other thread and sorry, but I was at the Tracy Beaker comment.

I think a break is a good thing, and I say that as a fan of MN.

[amillionyears]

Yes I know, I am going to get flamed.

[HullyEastergully]

I haven't read anything let alone the thread

but does it really matter?

does it?

[SuePurblyFeltYourPresents]

RTFT Hully. Or off you fuck.

[Pagwatch]

Does it?