Leaving/flouncing not worth crying over words on a screen

[InNeedOfBrandyButter]

Probably my own fault for over reacting but leaving because of some really offensive posters.

Just like to say good bye to my favourite posters and the ones who have been so lovely to me.

Sole source, sp, af, usual, worra, rubyfakenails, bridezilla, and many many many more. Even Scottish mummy who made me laugh all the time. Shcro your lovely to.

[VicarInaTutuDrankSantasSherry]

yeah but panto its christmas and everything!

and there is a flouncers corner. so people can announce a flounce. ive done it before now. it feels quite melodramatic! its like walking out at work on a bad day! if only i could do that

peace and love. tis the season to be jolly and all that.

brandy see you on friday. i will be drunk.

[BOFingSanta]

I've just skimmed it- I thought there was plenty of kindness and patience on there actually, especially from LRD. But you were obviously feeling very defensive and replied quite snippily to some posters- at times when you feel got at and can't see the positives, hiding the thread and, yes, a break can be a good idea.

[InNeedOfBrandyButter]

Il bring along my lidls bailys least if we die we'l be drunk

[Pantofino]

Sorry - I don't keep a list of threads I post on.. I just saw that I posted that I would not imagine a scenario where I let my 5/6 yo go to the chip shop unaccompanied on your thread. if this is the post where you perceive I am criticising you or your parenting, then fair enough. I stand by my view and don't consider that I have been doing anything stalky.

[AnyFuckerForAMincePie]

I will bring my Ballycastle

[BrianCoxIsAChristmasPud]

Just had another look at the thread, nothing to add other than am LOLing at Solesources amazing impression of a police siren - neenawneenaw

I have no idea why that made me laugh so much but it did (not even alcohol to blame!)

[Pantofino]

Amberleaf, if I posted anything elsewhere, please feel free to let me know

[steppemum]

Brandy - I have just read the other thread - you really did get flamed didn't you?
I hate it when threads get so personal, I usually duck out, as I think people forget that a real person, often upset, is behind the words on screen.

Once or twice I have been tempted to start a thread when I am really upset about something, and in the end I don't because I just don't want to hear the negative comments, I want support and that isn't always what you get. When you get it its great when you don't you feel worse.

Sorry you got flamed when you were already upset. Hide the thread and start again.
I like your posts, come back and entertain us when you are feeling better

[KeemaNaanAndCurryOn]

I always thought that Flouncers Corner was for people to have a snit and be begged to stay, rather than actual flouncing.

[AnyFuckerForAMincePie]

come baaaaaaaaaaack, keema < sob >

[LoopsInHoops]

Well, I just read your thread and have to echo what MerryLindor said above, perhaps have a wee think about why people were disagreeing with you, without taking any insults to heart.

And, sorry to say it on this thread, but please think about why it is harmful to threaten your kids with 'putting them in a home'. My mum used to do this, then when I was put into care, you can imagine how I felt it was my fault. Food for thought.

[MulledPinot]

Don't leave, please

[MulledPinot]

Read that thread now. V odd. I didn't see any piling in, or nasty comments tbh. Just robust difference of opinion. Hey ho - still, no need to leave.

[InNeedOfBrandyButter]

Well loops maybe if you had read the thread properly you would have seen I did not threaten him with a home, I explained the consequences of telling the teacher stories about naughty things. If you had any further questions about that you could of asked on that thread.

Someone saying you are abusive to your dc is slightly hard not to take to heart. Again anything you want to say about that thread please say on that thread.

I don't even know why I'm here, still upsetting me need to go get a life ffs

[MulledPinot]

Having a break from MN is great - I think most people do it, tbh. When things get a bit heated, or you feel a bit sensitive - a break is what you need. Honestly, don't let this sort of thing upset you - it's just opinions, and as they are via a computer screen, they obviously aren't relevant to your personally as no-one could possibly know how you parent or what you choose to do. I'm annoyingly oversensitive but that's why I take breaks.

Don't let this spoil the run up to Christmas. S'not worth it

[CatchingMockingbirds]

What thread , I've looked but can't see anything?

brandy I sometimes have to take some time out of mumsnet, but instead of leaving completely I stick about the SN threads and I keep AIBU hidden and don't go there if I'm having an off day. If you take a lot from certain parts of mumsnet then you shouldn't let anyone chase you away from that, hide chat/AIBU and stick around 'safe' places for a while until you feel like you can let certain comments pass without hurting you.

[SDTGisAChristmassyWolefGenius]

InNeedOfBrandyButter - I have read the thread and I know you didn't directly threaten your ds with being put in a Home - but you did tell him that if he told lies, that could happen - and I don't think he is old enough to be able to tell the difference. He won't have understood the nuances - he will simply have heard that he might be taken away from his mummy. Other mumsnetters have posted about their parents saying similar things, and the huge damage that it caused them.

Fwiw, I think the initial responses to your teacher whinge thread were pretty reasonable - pointing out why the teacher has a responsibility to check up on stories like this when they hear them, and trying to explain why it is better for the teacher to ask a question that a mother might (as you did) find offensive, rather than ignoring a potential Child Protection red flag. The responses did get more heated when you seemed to take no notice of what was being said.

[SDTGisAChristmassyWolefGenius]

This is the thread that I think has upset InNeed.

[InNeedOfBrandyButter]

How are you able to decide what my ds, who you don't know, can or cannot tell the difference over a comment not the full transcript and over a computer screen?

And again in the first few posts I got told to look at it from a grown ups point of view and more, when one of the main points of my post was being treated different due to age. Anyway am fed up of explaining and justifying myself to computer ganstas, detectives and social workers.

[SuePurblyFeltYourPresents]

I think most posters, SDTG included, are quite capable of working out that saying 'you will be put in a home if you do/say that' is going to be upsetting for a child, even without the 'full transcript'.

From the way you're reacting, I'd say you'd be well off to take a break. It's obviously not working for you.

[MulledPinot]

If he's in Year 1, then I would imagine posters are using their experience of their own children at that age and gaging if their own kids would have understand the nuance you are trying to get across.

I have three sons and none of mine would have got it, FWIW.

Sometimes you need to stop and wonder if you're actually in the wrong, rather than attacking and accusing those that are trying to help you figure it out.

Parenting is hard - none of us have the answers, but equally if you don't listen, you won't learn.

[MulledPinot]

xpost, Sue. Sorry to basically repeat what you said.

[TheNebulousBoojum]

Yup, that's the thread that caused the kerfuffle.

[InNeedOfBrandyButter]

I did not say you will be put in a home if you do/say that

Am very confused why all these posters keep posting on my goodbye thread instead of the other thread where it's meant to be. Maybe you need to read the guidelines on carrying threads over.