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Im going, ive been flamed and I dont know how to delete the thread

83 replies

namechange100 · 21/08/2011 20:02

Like it says above.

I normally lurk

Cant believe how nasty some people are when you clearly feel embaressed enough and feel utterly stupid.

Should never have posted the truth, as it was used to tear strips off me and my big fat mistake.

Shame as there was some nice posters.

OP posts:
AnyFuleKno · 21/08/2011 23:14

Don't even worry about it. Its not even tomorrow's chip paper. It's just some pixels on a screen

MrsRhettButler · 21/08/2011 23:17

I read the thread up to a certain point and I thought you were sooooo reasonable to come back and ADMIT that ywbu! NO ONE does that!

Just name change and stick around, you know you wanna Wink

Honeydragon · 21/08/2011 23:24

utterly weapons grade batshit

bellaisinHawaii · 21/08/2011 23:48

If you have had a flaming, you have become a proper mumsnetter Grin

Don't take it to heart.

Just name change and move on.

Btw, I read the thread earlier, at least you came back to apologise.

BoscoIsMyLover · 22/08/2011 00:42

I was on that thread, I said one thing and you were soooo defensive, after that I just kept going to wind you up !

Fact is, we have all had a flaming, I've had the arse burnt off me as I'm sure a million people here have. You were being unreasonable on that thread, fair enough you came back to apologise but you started acting like a petulant kid when people started telling you that the installer deserved more than an apology. (And yes I mean people it wasn't just me!)

AIBU is a minefield, if you wanted a slightly gentler response, Chat was probably your best option. Either way mn'ers are a feisty bunch, they tell it like it is and most of the time that's great. But the flaming comes with the territory when you post in AIBU.

So don't flounce (or do-whatever!) Because you don't like what's said. You did get sound advice from others. I don't know if this is your first DC but if it is, I can think of no better place for advice, straight talking and a shoulder to cry on if you need it. You only have to look at some of the blanket threads or relationships, bereavement etc to see what truly wonderful people are on here ( I don't include myself I'm a right wagon [wunk] )

So come on, put your peticoats down, de-hoike your bosom, namechange and stay...(And please excuse the spelling- baby brain! Jk)

LeBJOF · 22/08/2011 00:44

I hope she's still here- Bosco, I know you burned her arse good and proper, but what you've just said is so true.

BoscoIsMyLover · 22/08/2011 00:53

Well if she is here and is reading this she might send a little PM just to let me know she has namechanged safely ( even if its just to call me a cunt!)

GothAnneGeddes · 22/08/2011 01:58

"I was on that thread, I said one thing and you were soooo defensive, after that I just kept going to wind you up !"

Why? State your case, disagree, whatever, but wind up merchants are bloody tedious. I also loathe the "we're such bad girls on AIBU" attitude. Goodness me, we're a bunch of mothers on an internet forum, not cohorts of Dorothy Parker.

OP, I can only imagine, but as others have said, Name Change and Carry On.

TheSecondComing · 22/08/2011 09:12

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 22/08/2011 09:20

Namechange100 - I think it took guts to come back to the ring thread and say the ring had been found. And even though you could have worded the OP more tactfully, you did say that posting it, and the advice you got did make you look again, in places you mightn't have thought to - leading to the ring being found, which was a good thing all round.

Also - and I think it bears repeating, Namechange100 is (or at least, was) the lady's actual nickname - she hadn't namechanged to post that thread.

Namechange - change your nickname and come back - there is so much more that is good about mumsnet. I hope you are OK.

twinklytroll · 22/08/2011 11:30

I admired you for coming back to face the music and admitting the truth, I best most of the people giving you a hard time on that thread would never have admitted to the truth in the end.

As for posting to wind people up, just odd unpleasant behaviour.

BoscoIsMyLover · 22/08/2011 12:12

Ok Goth Twinkly Secondcoming I believe only two of the three read the original thread no?

If you did, you would have seen my first reply was pretty mild. All I said was the installer deserved more than an apology imo. The OP then pounced on that and referred to me three times in one post and advised me to wind my neck in. It was then that I wound her up by telling her to go and shite. Maybe I didnt word my post up there ^ properly but hey, it was an improperly inflammatory worded OP which got her flamed (BY EVERYONE NOT JUST ME!) in the first place...

If you care to read more than the one sentence in my last post, you will see that I told her how great this place is, how she should stay, namechange and let me know she is ok if she can...Selective reading eh?

And no its not "big girl attitude" ffs I rarely post and it ususally in S&B!!! Yet I am not a "troll" nor is my behaviour "trollish" Secondcoming and I resent the fact that you say so...You know I could probably link a million threads between the lot of ye where ye gave people one hell of a roasting and argued for the sake of arguing but as it isnt in the spirit of MN I shan't...I still wonder why everyone is on my case though...I was not the worst on that thread!!

So as I said, chin up OP and come back in another guise if you must but dont forget, most(!) of MN and the people who post are great!

twinklytroll · 22/08/2011 12:15

I read the original thread, but did not post on it as I had nothing to say that had not been said.

I based my post on the fact that you said that you posted to wind someone up, just struck me as a very odd thing to do and perhaps an even odder thing to admit to, especially to the person you were trying to wind up.

I agree with the rest of your post though.

BoscoIsMyLover · 22/08/2011 12:23

I think now YOU are arguing for the sake of arguing eh Grin
(Thats a joke btw thats me arguing for the sake of arguing but accusing you of arguing for the sake of arguing-geddit? Just thought I would clarify for the next person who comes to flame me!)

Glad you agree with the rest of the post though.

VelvetSnow · 22/08/2011 12:29

Oh look, Bosco is at it again.... Grin

BoscoIsMyLover · 22/08/2011 12:32

Dammit Velvet !

LoveBeingAtHomeOnMyOwn · 22/08/2011 12:46

Op hope you have namechanged, would have been very easy not to have come back to admit it had been found.

The only problem with a thread like this one is it kinda makes deleting the first one pointless.

Honeydragon · 22/08/2011 13:16

Bosco

I thought it was a good thing you came on and admitted you were winding the op up, she may not have realised this. Truthfully when I saw your posts I was a bit "whoah" because I have seen you around on S&B and normally you manage forthright without the twatishness, so I put it down to a bad day or maybe personal experience.

But can I just say it's bad form to start talking about a deleted thread like this, the op has gone so you're giving a one sided view of the thread that others can't form their opinion on. But they can comment on how to react to being flamed.

Truthfully if I had been the op and this was the first time I'd crossed paths with you I'd be avoiding threads with you on on account of you coming across a bit like what STG said.

But I'm a lover not a fighter man, lets leave it be and not scare off any more members.*

  • Well except for the ones who come on and say MN is shit and needs tickers and cuddles they are FAIR GAME!
BoscoIsMyLover · 22/08/2011 13:27

Honey you may have me confused with someone else...I have posted on S&B like twice looking for advice, normally I lurk, so I have never given a forthright view on S&B so I doubt I am the one you refer to..

But I will say this...I did not start this thread, nor did I say anything inflammatory bar "go and shite" on the other one. That is all I said that could be construed as argumentative. And that was in response to the negative comments the OP made to me. I think you are jumping on a bandwagon here and I dont like it. I would like one person to link me to my "twatish" behaviour on that thread. I seem to have been picked out of a line of people who called the OP all manner of names.

I came to this thread that the OP started and I told her to stay. Others have alluded to the previous thread. NOT ME... I resent the fact that I am made out to be the one who made the OP leave.

Honeydragon · 22/08/2011 13:33

I'm sure I've read posts by you , I probably am confused then your name seems familiar. Bosco what bandwagon. You've admitted you deliberately wanted to wind some up. Read Aibu guidelines. Then decide if that's ok. You are alluding to a thread, and you won't leave it be, just like before. If more than one person disagrees with you it makes a majority not a bandwagon.

BoscoIsMyLover · 22/08/2011 13:39

No no posts by me dear. I can link you to each, non offensive, find me a nicepair of shoes, thread I have ever started...

You are on a bandwagon, admit it, dont, I really dont care....

I know what I said on that thread and this, really thats all that matters....

Hope you are ok OP.... after all, ths thread should be about that..Hope you namechanged.

TTFN

VelvetSnow · 22/08/2011 13:39

Quite often when an OP 'zones' in on one comment, they reply to that comment - then everything else on the thread is bypassed and for the OP and the respondant the various other posters seem to disappear. IYSWIM

I was on the thread, was also horrified at the poor sky man getting the blame and also witnessed the post wherein OP named Bosco in bold on 3 separate occasions.

The OP chose Bosco to argue with IMHO, because many things had been said previous to Bosco actually posting and the OP took no issue with anyone else...anything after that unfotunately was pretty much lost because the OP was only really looking for Boscos response.....

Hope that makes sense and is not inflammatory, I've tried to say it as I see it.

FWIW OP, namechange and come back - pretty much everyone here is saying that (including Bosco)

redlac6 · 22/08/2011 13:41

I did read the original thread and the OP did seem to single out Bosco

BoscoIsMyLover · 22/08/2011 13:42

Cheers velvet Ill never win but cheers all the same...

BoscoIsMyLover · 22/08/2011 13:42