Louise Thompson and surrogacy

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Louise Thompson had, by all accounts, a very traumatic experience during childbirth where she nearly died.

She has now decided to use surrogacy for a second baby. She is using a private IVF clinic in London and posting a lot about how hard she is finding the egg retrieval process.

I really don’t understand how she can, in good faith, do this. She is all too aware of the risks that a healthy woman can face. Yet she is choosing to buy another woman’s body, and expose her to potentially life long health consequences. I’m disgusted

Oh my god Georgia?

There's a vast unregulated/ grey market that is essentially trafficking women from Thailand and east Asia there.

Other thread has links too

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/feminism/5473722-another-contemptuous-use-of-women-forced-surrogacy?utm_campaign=thread&utmmedium=appshare,

Original article (trigger warning)

https://pulitzercenter.org/stories/they-answered-ad-surrogates-and-found-themselves-nightmare

I agree with all the criticisms of paid surrogacy and as an adoptive parent, I believe there is going to be a huge rise in the number of children born with trauma from being taken from their 'birth' mother and because its surrogacy not adoption, people are not going to be equipped to deal with it.

However, I do wonder if it is different when a loving sister/mother/friend offers to carry a baby for someone, if that person is in their life and speaking to the foetus every day so the voice is familiar and then they are involved with the child from birth.

Is that different to paid surrogacy? I feel it is, but obviously we do not know if the consequences would be the same in the eyes of the child.

@MattDillonsEyebrows the vast majority of adults know the women who gave birth to them. Most children grow up with their birth mother. If not, there is probably some trauma involved, but in cases of adoption you can usually make a safe conclusion that children were adopted for a very good reason and for their own safety and wellbeing.

surrogacy, for any reason, means the adults have made a clear decision to bring a child into this world, to knowingly and willingly remove it from the woman who gives birth to the baby.

that child will grow up with this trauma ( there is a lot of factual evidence that removing a baby from their birth mother has long term and harmful trauma). This trauma being willingly inflicted by the people that raise them. It is too sad beyond words.
I have direct experience of the adoption process.

Surrogacy is utterly grim and the way this couple are talking about it is one of the worst examples I’ve seen 😟

It absolutely should be banned and regarded in the same way as trafficking. There needs to be a paradigm shift around the ‘right’ to become a parent - the current prevailing attitude in the developed world is that anyone with enough money should be able to have a child if they want one, and any obstacles in the way should be overcome, no matter how medically difficult or morally dubious. Infertility can be utterly devastating, but we need to find ways to accept it as an unfortunate part of life.

Putting the risk onto other women is twisted.

There was a rather jaw dropping Thought For The Day on the Today programme last week from a gay Sikh speaker who'd just become a father to a baby girl via a surrogate. He even went so far as to say his childs mother was performing an act of "seva" or service in the name of God to help others