Micro Acts of Feminism

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Hello

I heard somewhere about eg assuming a Dr is a woman so when someone says "the Dr will be along in a minute" you say "great I'll see her soon then".

Is there a book or a website or something that has more ideas like this?

Thanks

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On a similar thread a few years ago the OP explained one of her micro acts of feminism was to swap around salutations on letters so rather than Mr and Mrs Jones it would say Mrs and Mr Jones or Miss Smith and Mr Jones in that order.

A few posters said she was being petty and pointless but I could relate to it actually. I bought my first flat alone ,(my deposit, my mortgage), partner moved in later and when we got married I added him to the deeds and the Land Registry put his name before mine and I felt inexplicably angry about that. Same when I book or holidays - my credit card, my email and hey presto, my husband is automatically made "lead passenger" due to his sacred penis ownership.

I remember when learning French at primary school being taught plurals - ils and elles - but that if you had 99 women and one man in a room then you'd refer to the group as "ils". I was horrified at this implication that men were worth so much more than women. This was in the '60s. I really hope things have changed.

It is because people are reluctant to expose women's chests to give effective chest compressions and also applying defibrillator pads basically requires bra to be taken off.

that's when I make my car kiss the bumper of the car in front of me. And smile as the man seethes in anger.

Whenever a man tries to cut me off etc I'm game to play chicken with him, esp when he's driving a $$$$ car-my car is old and not worth much they ALWAYS chicken out at the last second and I enjoy watching their scowling faces behind me. I usually make an effort to keep him trapped behind me for as long as possible.

It's the little things in life that make it nice.

No. This is veryobviously a response to the ‘default male’ syndrome whereby without thinking people are still quite likely to say ‘great, I’ll see him soon’. And no one then retorts ‘how do you know the doctor is a man’?

When asked to do the teas at church, say can't but why not ask Fred or Bert? The astonished looks on the faces!

Haha, love this one! 😁

Why is standing up for yourself not very nice.

And would you have said that to a poster you thought was male?

I think it kind of proves the point.

I often read things about consumer law where consumers are apparently always "he" so I make a point of saying "he or she" or they. I know some people don't like they used as a singular unisex pronoun but it's useful in this context.

I don't think my kids even knew it was possible to be something like a male scientist when they were little, as all the books I read them had female characters in traditionally male roles. I also changed things like fire man to fire fighter and pointed out the sexism. Ds1 is rather good now at gasping and getting annoyed if something is sexist now. I also make a point to tell my boys they are beautiful, as that is normally reserved for girls, when boys are more likely to have someone telling them they are clever.

Out of interest, when was this? I remember someone saying this on a thread a while ago and I checked the deeds of my house (which DH and I brought together) and my name is first. Same as on all the bills I set up, his name is first on the ones he set up.

I'm loving playing patriarchy chicken at the moment.... I always win pushing a massive pram 😆

Testerical even!

We married in 2000 so would have changed the deeds at some point between them and when we sold it in 2004. Though my name was always first on the mortgage docs, I think because I'm the higher earner.

Glad to hear yours has you first!

Ahh, we brought in 2020 so maybe they've moved with the times (or maybe whoever input the data was doing their own microfeminism)!

I joined the National Trust once. Then my DP wanted to join so I made my membership into a joint one at the next renewal of subscription, twodifferent surnames and guess what? - they insist on only writing to him. I don't exist as far as their advertising and renewal requests are concerned. We are no longer members, but not just because of this.

When I’m leading a church service I always say Heavenly Mother/Mother God in all the prayers as the default is always Father God.

everyone comments on this 😊

Is being seen as a nice person very important to you? Perhaps examine that.

No. But unnecessary conflict doesn't serve any purpose. Men don't hold doors for us because they are promoting in "the patriarchy", they are simply being polite.

The idea that a woman holding a door open for a man, sends some sort of feminist signal, is frankly bizarre.

The men who are just holding a door to be polite won’t be in the least put out by a woman holding the door for them. Its only when a man is taken aback or annoyed by a woman doing things sort of thing where there’s a disruption of his assumed status going on.

What century do you think it is?

There are no men anywhere that would.get annoyed about a woman holding a door open for them 🙄

It's not the holding of the door, it's when they insist you go first as 'ladies first.' I bloody hate it and if I'm holding a door i always say 'no you go first', many are fine with it but every so often you get a man who is irritated by a woman holding a door for him.

I think some people are not understanding what a 'mirco' act is, it's not some bold statement or conflict, it's a little very day change or challenge to outdated gender norms.

There certainly shouldn’t be, and yet some women clearly find that they still exist.🤷‍♀️

I'm not sure they're "annoyed" exactly, but they do this thing like correcting a child where they grab the door and wait, so unless you make a stand and refuse to go through, then you find yourself dashing through quickly and trying to make yourself as small as possible to avoid rubbing up against them.

I think it a very important quality to be kind, man or woman.

this thread is madness - it’s just a list of knobby things to do that serve no purpose at all.

DD works in a bookshop she only ever refers to Ted Hughes as Sylvia Plath's Husband. Which I adore.

I've spent the last few years subtly training the only female in our director team to not volunteer to arrange gifts, meals out etc for other members of the Board. And getting her to push back with her daughter's school on having the naughty boys sit next to her DD so she can show them how to behave. She's not responsible for their behaviour