Micro Acts of Feminism

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Hello

I heard somewhere about eg assuming a Dr is a woman so when someone says "the Dr will be along in a minute" you say "great I'll see her soon then".

Is there a book or a website or something that has more ideas like this?

Thanks

Ooh I did that at work 🙈 The recipient was not impressed despite him using that word regularly about women 😡

I told my misogynistic dad he was being hysterical - ooof that didn’t go down well with him 🤣

Mine is more confrontational but I’ve actively stopped moving for men on pavements etc (unless they’re moving too). In shops I found they would just walk straight towards you as you were browsing, because they wanted to get to whatever you were looking at and assumed you would move. But I stand completely still until I’ve made a selection and they look like tits almost walking into me only to have to do a 180.

When anyone says “what is WRONG with people?.”
in relation to anything in the news, I always correct to “what is WRONG with MEN” - as is always a male perpetrator

I've done the unknown sex animal as default female for a long time and the kids now tell me how great I am at parking so I don't have to say it myself. When I was a brownie leader I banned the use of "guys" and the girls could only call each other Brownies, girls, gang, etc. And we always stopped for the red stopper and waited for the green walker.

We had a clinical notice recently summarising an audit of Tranexamic Acid use in major trauma (used to stabilise clots), and the big focus of the results was that it was disproportinatly women, and more so older women, who were missing out (not being given it when clinically indicated). I thought 'wow' somebody in the auditing team is a feminist!! I hope this is just the start and there will be more attention paid to misogyny in health care in the future.

I have had a few chuckles out of elderly women when i've encouraged them to go through to hospital for bloods when they have a normal ECG and 'vague' but concerning symptoms, and I point out that medical textbooks and symptoms list are frequently misogynistic and written by men for men.

Hence the e.g,

My former job was a bit of a boys’ club. I used to say things like, ‘I saw some of the male football’ or ‘he’s a man doctor’. 🤣

I did the Enid Blyton thing too! With a bit of on the hoof name swapping, Anne and Fanny were real go-getters in my readings 😁

I do that to my dad - I say ‘I saw the doctor today, he was a bloke, not that it matters, but he was very good’ because my dad always does the opposite! Always has to mention if someone is a woman!

This! So annoying!

Yes yes yes! I'm unmarried and it's Ms. A huge assumption is, due to my age that I'm a Mrs as well. I shall forever be a Ms, married or not!

Loads of examples that illustrate how ingrained sexism is.

If you hear about a man getting married, ask him if he will be keeping his name or changing it.

Likewise if you hear that a male colleague is about to become a father, start making assumptions about him going part time or requesting flexible working, especially if he talks about how 'we' are pregnant.

We should all talk about how high tickets prices are for the men’s World Cup…

I also never volunteer for the wifework at work - making tea or taking minutes at meetings. It’s lead to some tense stand offs!

I never slow down/flash (I know you’re not supposed to do that!?) to let men out onto the main road when I’m driving on it (assuming close enough to see who is driving). I almost always let women out, and I spend a lot of time on one very very congested main road.
I like to insist that men (especially the creepy ones) go upstairs first, with me following.
Sometimes at lunch (canteen) I will comment on men’s food, ‘someone’s got a sweet tooth then’, etc.

I let a man in yesterday and the man behind him tried to shove in to. Aggressively, and got very very close and honked. I’d rather have had an accident that let the entitled piece of shit in. He was so angry as well that I didn’t just roll over and allow his shit to work.

This is all so interesting. I feel like I've spent the last year cutting out all misogynistsand removing myself from any misogynistic environments, but if I do come across any in the future I will try and use some of these. There was an angry male comment recently on a gym WhatsApp about the gym having a women only spa session once a week, and I told them that if women ever make them feel uncomfortable they could ask for their own men's only session.

If a man is bitchy I call it that. Once you realise that only women being called bitchy is just sexism you start noticing male bitchiness a lot more.

When writing out my Christmas cards to a female/male couple, I always write the woman’s name first. Same for the address e.g To Jane and Mike Smith…even if I know the male better.

I also sign all joint cards from me and DH using my name first.

I despise receiving letters addressed to Mr and Mrs Tim Cagney. My name is not Tim!!!

im coming to the end of my career & Im sick to death of men shouting over me, men interrupting me, men repeating what i sat.

Repeating- I say thanks for repeating my point for emphasis
Shouting over - at a' meeting half stand up &reoeat mans name very quietly...Mark, Mark, Mark ithen finish my point
Interrupting - throw my arms up behind my head & say repeat name

many other variations oc these. Im having such fun

Useful tips for patriarchy chicken (I use these a few times a week):

1. Never ever make eye contact. Always look beyond the man heading in your path. It almost always means he will move first.
2. Always brace for impact just in case (1) fails. I have only had this a few times but I didn't even flinch and kept walking. Insulted dickhead was left whinging in my wake.

I don't assume girls want 'girly presents and boys want 'boy' presents. If I don't know what a child wants for a birthday present I'll go neutral. I once got a little girl a remote control car, she loved it.

My DCs play with a complete range of toys.

I very much play chicken with men on pavements. It's doubly fun as i'm a double crutch user, so if they don't move for me, they make themselves look like a proper rude bastard, lol.

When I turn up to work in random offices
asking men what time their kids finish school

It deflates them for the whole day
and makes my real work easier

If I pass a mixed sex couple on a path, I smile at the woman and not the man. I stopped smiling at men when I realised I there was absolutely no need for me to be "polite".

I’m one of two girls and I love this. Toys are gender neutral. We had a train set and a meccano (sp?) and cars as well as dollies and tea sets. My nephew wanted a toy kitchen from Santa last year and was upset when his grandfather said they were ‘for girls.’
Obviously, Santa brought the kitchen and grandad was told to wise up!