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Fixed showers - a feminist issue

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trytopullyoursocksup · 30/03/2023 08:18

Another poster said on the swimming thread -
"but women are condemned to get thrush unless they can get home in ten min to wash the pool yuck out of their vulva."

I know showering in a cozzie makes it worse but seriously I cannot believe this is the first time I have seen / heard another woman mention this.

I hate fixed overhead showers.

In many cultures it is normal to have a bidet or other means of delivering running water near the toilet.

In our culture (british) I am old enough to remember when baths were standard and showers were "modern". now showers are standard and when they are fixed overhead only (in a hotel or in a house) and there is no bath (you can actually wash under the tap in a bath if the taps are on the long side, you can squat with your knees apart and get a decent wash) - I never feel clean.

I am prone to thrush, UTIs and various forms of dermatitis when I am run down and being scrupulously clean at all times really helps with this.

Who decided that overhead showers are enough and how can we be unembarrassed enough to do something about it?

OP posts:
myveryownelectrickitten · 30/03/2023 12:48

ShirleyPhallus · 30/03/2023 12:30

No. A skid mark doesn’t have anywhere near the level of bacteria as actual faeces coming from someone who is incontinent.

With great kindness — but I don’t think you really understand the issue. There are degrees of incontinence as with everything else. I’m presuming you’re pretty young or have very little experience of such things. The OP is writing specifically about susceptibility to thrush - should women who experience that also not swim? What about anyone with a disability or poor mobility? Would you never use a pool which offers hoisted swim classes and hydrotherapy for severely disabled people? You think toddlers in the pool never poo in their swim nappies? Do you think they drain and refill the entire pool each time that happens? 😂 Come on now.

MissLucyEyelesbarrow · 30/03/2023 12:52

myveryownelectrickitten · 30/03/2023 12:20

There are other fungal infections that aren’t candida that affect the skin of the groin/vulva - tinea, for one, which also affects men and is often passed on in gym settings and is often tested similarly to Candida. And a whole range of different candidas are around, not just c. albicans. It doesn’t sound like you know an awful lot about this - it’s well worth reading up on in more detail.

I’n pretty shocked at how stigmatising and denigrating many of the responses are in this thread. Seems even more obvious to me that this is a feminist issue if there is such a response which is basically along the lines of “ugh dirty older women shouldn’t use any public facilities”. I would surmise that you’d get far more fecal bacteria in a swimming pool from men, young men and young kids who don’t bother to wipe properly (ever seen a teenage boy’s skidmarked pants?) — than older women who would like to shower their vulva or perineum before or after swimming to keep comfortable and clean. But the visceral reaction to this is very telling.

The medical term for thrush is Candidiasis, i.e. disease caused by Candida. If is the infection is caused by another fungus, of which there are many, then it isn't Candidiasis. I did not say that Candida albicans causes all thrush; I said that Candida causes all thrush.

Tinea infections are caused by a group of other fungi, called dermatophytes. They cause tinea, not thrush.

One thing I have noticed on MN is that enthusiasm for telling other people that they are ignorant on a subject is an invariable sign the poster of having obtained their own knowledge from 5 minutes on Google.

If anyone is genuinely interested in learning more about fungal infections, I recommend this website for all things dermatological.

Introduction to fungal infections | DermNet

Introduction to fungal infections, Introduction to mycoses. Authoritative facts from DermNet New Zealand.

https://dermnetnz.org/topics/introduction-to-fungal-infections

myveryownelectrickitten · 30/03/2023 12:53

Looks like you’re the one getting your info from ten minutes on Google, @MissLucyEyelesbarrow — or you wouldn’t be posting inaccurate info in the first place.

MissLucyEyelesbarrow · 30/03/2023 12:54

myveryownelectrickitten · 30/03/2023 12:53

Looks like you’re the one getting your info from ten minutes on Google, @MissLucyEyelesbarrow — or you wouldn’t be posting inaccurate info in the first place.

I will leave it to other readers to draw their own conclusions.

ColonelSpondleClagnut · 30/03/2023 13:02

Without getting too embroiled in the washing debate, OP and others have you had a look in the disabled/accessible changing area? Sometimes these are a whole wet room and can sometimes have a handheld shower.
If you are unable or have difficulty accessing the fixed shower then this space is also for you. 🙂

Spanky123 · 30/03/2023 13:03

Is this a serious post?!?!?! Wowsers the Internet had gone wild

ShirleyPhallus · 30/03/2023 13:15

myveryownelectrickitten · 30/03/2023 12:48

With great kindness — but I don’t think you really understand the issue. There are degrees of incontinence as with everything else. I’m presuming you’re pretty young or have very little experience of such things. The OP is writing specifically about susceptibility to thrush - should women who experience that also not swim? What about anyone with a disability or poor mobility? Would you never use a pool which offers hoisted swim classes and hydrotherapy for severely disabled people? You think toddlers in the pool never poo in their swim nappies? Do you think they drain and refill the entire pool each time that happens? 😂 Come on now.

You’re making up a load of nonsense that I never said.

people who are faecally incontinent should not be using public swimming pools.

myveryownelectrickitten · 30/03/2023 13:53

ShirleyPhallus · 30/03/2023 13:15

You’re making up a load of nonsense that I never said.

people who are faecally incontinent should not be using public swimming pools.

So that includes small children and babies, many disabled people, many people with Crohns and IBS, people with stomas, and lots of older people who have some degree of urge incontinence — I think you need to educate yourself a bit more. Incontinence varies from temporary stomach bugs, flatulence and occasional small amounts of leakage, all the way to complete incontinence. This spectrum affects many many more people than you would think - some estimates put it between 10 and 30 percent of the population. Why do you think you’re not meant to use a public pool for 72 hours after having diarrhoea?

In any case I don’t see anyone banning babies and toddlers from public pools — after a “poo incident” in a pool (regular with babies and toddlers, as anyone who’s done baby swimming knows), they largely just fish the more solid pieces out with a sieve and then whack the chemicals up for a few hours.

The OP was basically only saying she prefers handheld showers as she’s prone to thrush, and there are loads of women who suffer from that, or have various other reasons why they might prefer a handheld shower. (Ever been to a public bathroom or pool in a Muslim country, for example?) Yet so many on the thread just acting like this is something weird and out there rather than just a normal part of life for many, many people!

steppemum · 30/03/2023 14:10

back to showers....

I think at public places they pretty much have ot be fixed.

But at home I really don't want a fixed shower, I like the showers where there is a smaller hand held shower as well by the taps. The French seem to be good at these.

But I would like to say that I think rainfall showers are a make invention and they are an abomination.

Anyone with hair of any length (and while I don't stereotype, more women have long hair than men) know that it is impossible to rinse shampoo effectively out of a rainfall shower.
Who even likes those huge shower heads with low pressure rain?

(shudders)

steppemum · 30/03/2023 14:17

typo - rainfall showers are a MALE invention

trytopullyoursocksup · 30/03/2023 14:33

In the OP:

"when they are fixed overhead only (in a hotel or in a house) and there is no bath [...] - I never feel clean."

I agree, I don't expect poolside showers to be for proper washing. (It would be nice if they could be, but I see why they can't.)

It's houses and hotels that bother me. And the ubiquity of this. I have quite short hair but I also understand why they don't work well for long thick hair either, that must be very annoying.

I am absolutely blown away - and highly amused - by the posters who think I don't know how to wash myself for own personal health and comfort. That is hilarious. Believe me, I am 51, I've had time to experiment. I know what's good for me.

Someone linked to a site that says don't use soaps; do use emollients; use lots of fresh water for rinsing. I am not actually that niche after all, because it's the lots of fresh water that is an issue.
Curvy women (I mean curvy, not necessarily big - the shape, not the size) create a kind of "rain shadow" with their bellies and buttocks such that it is quite tricky to be washed from overhead. It's not weird. If you don't have sensitive skin, it might not matter. If you do, it does.

I think this is new (ish, to me) and I notice that lots of other cultures have solutions (various methods of bringing water to the undercarriage).

I think it's embarrassing to talk about and that's why we haven't adopted these additional solutions along with overhead showers. And I think man-centricness has something to do with it.

What do I mean, it's embarrassing to talk about? What, you mean people will jump to the conclusion that you don't know how to wash, or that you are so severely fecally incontinent that you should probably not go to shared sports facilities? hmmmm who could imagine that raising a concern like this would cause a response like that?

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Trekkingaway · 30/03/2023 14:42

00100001 · 30/03/2023 08:26

Fixed overhead showers are about hygiene, robustness and vandalism.

If you put a domestic style shower hose in with the public within days it will be broken, twisted, shower head removed, someone will have rubbed it on their genitals, had a "special massage" etc.


The public are disgusting and vandals.

Ugh, now I feel queasy about hotel showers.

ComtesseDeSpair · 30/03/2023 14:48

steppemum · 30/03/2023 14:17

typo - rainfall showers are a MALE invention

On the basis that I think most of the men I know, even those most interested in their personal grooming, would happily stand under a hosepipe to wash, I’m not convinced that overhead rainfall showers are man-centric. I suspect they’re so prevalent because they originated in fancy spas with plunge pools and relaxation areas where the intention was to create a rain effect and with huge walk-in showers where they’re pretty effective; spa-goers loved it so upmarket hotels bought into the craze; and then people – but actually mostly women – who visit spas wanted to bring that sense of luxury into their homes, where they work far less well.

saraclara · 30/03/2023 14:51

How can this be a feminist issue when bum guns etc are most prevalent in cultures that have the worst records for misogyny?

Also I don't understand. If you've spent an hour with your vulva submerged in chlorinated water, why do you think that it's the few minutes after you get out that are going to cause you to have thrush?

Trekkingaway · 30/03/2023 14:53

Don't rainfall showers usually have a "normal" attachment too?

I agree they're more interior design statement than they are practical and I doubt it's men who have brought that about.

00100001 · 30/03/2023 15:43

Trekkingaway · 30/03/2023 14:42

Ugh, now I feel queasy about hotel showers.

Sorry 😐

Dontcampanymore · 30/03/2023 15:48

I hate fixed showers op and I agree with all the difficulties you describe.

Was particularly difficult when going camping as the showers are ALWAYS fixed and camping is particularly grime-inducing so the only solution was "bend down, touch yer toes and spread yer cheeks" (sorry to be so blunt). Either that or a hand stand in the showers.

Codlingmoths · 30/03/2023 15:51

myveryownelectrickitten · 30/03/2023 10:22

Surely the entire point is that if you just use only water to clean - as those of us with sensitive bits down there often do - you need a handheld shower?

No-one is affecting douching or aiming a high pressure water jet at it. I’m assuming all those who don’t think it’s an issue don’t have (a) overly reactive or sensitive vulva skin (b) any tags/skin issues/damage from birth injuries (c) a tendency to get thrush, eczema, piles or UTIs, all problems that require a bit more careful showering with plain water down there?

Just because you don’t think it’s an issue, and don’t think it’s feminist issue, doesn’t mean that some women don’t have this problem. Try having for example a complex 2b or 3 (or even 4th degree) tear, episiotomy and repair and having residual scars/skin issues/need to clean skin folds and scars very well with plain water on a permanent basis afterwards, and then see whether you don’t think it’s a problem. Jesus.

I guess I don’t think this is an issue, I wash thoroughly down there with my hands with a fixed shower. I have everything you mention- had a 3b tear which had a long recovery, obviously never quite the same down there, am uti prone, my entire life I cannot have sex without a glass of cranberry juice afterwards or 100% of the time I will get a uti. So it must be quite niche an issue.

ZeroFuchsGiven · 30/03/2023 15:52

myveryownelectrickitten · 30/03/2023 10:40

How do you get water from an overhead shower head to clean your perineum without basically turning upside down??!?!

I have only read up to this point no further BUT the thought of being in swimming pool showers and washing my hair and face knowing you could have been in there before me with the shower head pretty much up your fanjo makes me feel a bit queasy tbh!

#YesToOverheadFixedShowers

WomensRightsAre · 30/03/2023 15:57

That’s fine if this issue isn’t one that affects you personally- but it does affect other people.
It’s not therefore ‘not an issue’ is it Hmm

saraclara · 30/03/2023 15:58

What I'm getting from this thread is that there are still a lot of women who are uncomfortable touching their bits.

I have never once used a hand held shower to point out up towards my nether regions. I just use my hands..and I assumed that everyone else did too. The things you learn on mumsnet...

Trekkingaway · 30/03/2023 16:00

How do you get water from an overhead shower head to clean your perineum without basically turning upside down??!?!

I don't know how otherd do it, but I soap with my hands, allow the water running down my front and back to rinse most of it, then cup a hand "underneath" to catch water to rinse the last of it.

There, does that help? 😆

blebbleb · 30/03/2023 16:10

@Trekkingaway I do the same! I didn't think it was such a struggle for most women to use an overhead shower

TheYearOfSmallThings · 30/03/2023 16:55

I think this is probably the more pressing feminist issue tbh: the social and cultural conditioning which means so many women go to inconvenient pains and lengths to keep their bodies covered in the shower and changing room when it would be easier and more efficient to shower naked

I'm not sure you would be so keen to do that at my local pool, where the showers are open, mixed, and also on view from the pool.

myveryownelectrickitten · 30/03/2023 17:00

ZeroFuchsGiven · 30/03/2023 15:52

I have only read up to this point no further BUT the thought of being in swimming pool showers and washing my hair and face knowing you could have been in there before me with the shower head pretty much up your fanjo makes me feel a bit queasy tbh!

#YesToOverheadFixedShowers

Are you daft? You don’t put it up your vulva 🤷‍♀️

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