If you’re a ‘Ms’ and have a daughter…

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Did you register her as a Ms or Miss?

I’m a Ms and have a new baby DD. On principle I’d like to register her as a Ms, to avoid the patriarchal trappings of Miss/ Mrs. But is that weird for a child? I noticed that if she had been born a boy, there would only be one option for ‘Mr’.

I didn't remember you register your baby with a title and can't remember what i did then. But since, i always put DD down as Ms. for her savings account etc.

I don’t have a massive problem with Miss for a girl under 18 but would have used Ms for DD if I’d thought about it more at the time, as it’s a PITA to change these things (I still have savings accounts etc from childhood that say “Miss” when I’ve been Ms for decades)

You only register their name, not a title.

I don’t think you pick- but under 18 is a Miss to me

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You don't get to decide their title. Just name.

A title is a courtesy, not an official thing. You can call her The Right Reverend as long as you have no intention to defraud.

Register for what?
Children are miss or master to be phased into ms or Mr during teens I guess

I use ms if I have too, DD is a miss

I'm a Ms but I refer to my dd as Miss as she's still a child. I don't think you register a title when you register a birth

You don't register a title.

If you are buying something like a plane ticket for children you will be given the option of Miss or Master.

Sorry, should have mentioned it’s the GP registration form I’m talking about, not the birth registration.

Her hospital paperwork says ‘Miss’ which was either automatic, or selected by a midwife as I wasn’t asked to choose at the time.

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Ms. I've been Ms for as long as I can remember - my parents used to use it when I was tiny.

I find it ridiculous that they still have those options -should just be Mr or Ms.

Miss is fine and appropriate for a girl, she can choose herself to say as miss or call herself ms or mrs if she marries herself when she is an adult

I'm a Ms but I would tick Miss for infant daughter.

Mine were both Miss.
Mrs/Miss isn’t patriarchal. All of them: Miss, Ms and Mrs are simply different abbreviations of Mistress. How they are used is largely up to what’s in fashion.

I honestly despair at the world some times!

1st world problems.

what on earth is wrong with Miss?

It's a GP registration, does it really matter? You could probably leave it blank and just put her name if you prefer.

I'm pretty sure I selected Ms when registering DD at the GP surgery. I'm Ms myself and I don't think a girl/woman's title should be dictated by her age or marital status.

There was no option for "Master" when registering DS so he's been Mr since birth.

These different titles for women are totally patriarchal - especially when you consider there is really only one for males and that's used irrespective of their marital status. The same cannot be said for the female titles. Hence women not always liking that fact and wanting to adhere to it. I find it archaic and patronising to be asked what is my title. Would they ask a man that? No. Since it's always Mr when an adult. So don't ask me. I actually say, when asked, how is my marital status relevant here?

FRO with your patriarchy

This is posted in feminism chat and directed at women who already use the title themselves.

A young boy is called Master if your being formal.

No on the GP registration form he's not.

I think titles for children are utterly pointless. I've always put my boys down as Rev and Lord if I have to give a title. But I'd go with Ms over Miss every time.