Ok this is just my perspective.
I'm not white. I have two family members who are now dead because of violent racist attacks. I've suffered appalling racism and so does my daughter at school now because she is mixed race.
But I don't see all white women as the problem just like I don't see all white people as the problem. For me, I was accepted amongst a lot of friends with Irish families at a time in UK history when as a young girl in the 80's I would be harassed on the street for walking with a white boyfriend. What I found with Irish people in particular in London is that there was a keen recognition that racism had affected groups of people who weren't just black. "No Blacks, No Irish, No dogs etc"
I was beaten in the street by a Muslim man who said I was a whore for wearing a short skirt. I was dragged into an alleyway by a black man and his mate who put their hands up my skirt. A group of black men constantly cat called me and made me feel unsafe whilst I had my baby with me. I was raped by a white man who called me a black bitch to his friends after.
For me, misogyny is far worse than racism. I'm not interested in pointing my finger at white people for all the issues I have faced. It was men who perpetrated most of the violent or sexual abuse in my life. Sure some white women have been snide and bitchy to me over the years. But walking home from school it was a black girl who used to laugh at me and bully me for example. At the same time my best friend was a different black girl. Bullying crosses cultures and colours. It literally isn't black and white and it's simplistic and tribal to point fingers only at white women for doing it or at black women for receiving it etc. There is also a perception amongst black women I know that only they get the racism from whites. I have to sometimes remind them that I have dead family members - that all shades of brown receive racism.
When I'm walking home late at night I'm not worried about racist white women calling me names. That never happens. The racism I get from those kinds of women is more subtle and snide for sure but it's not a physical threat to my body.
However I do get followed by men of all colours. And I've been assaulted by men of all colours. To me male violence towards women and girls is my priority because by rights if they men who had assaulted me had their way I wouldn't be here.
Just my perspective as I said before. I don't find anyone on this board racist - I've seen that the Black Mumsnetters board has been featuring recently so had a look to see what it was like. It's not for me.
If I was a white Mumsnetter I would leave it well alone.
Accusations of racism to this group here suit the transactivist narrative. It also suits the white people who have hijacked BLM.