Singing a card - husbands name first

[MrsPumpkinSeed]

Of course very grateful but dh sister (aunt to our child) sent Dd a lovely card with her husbands name first even though she is a blood relative. Dh family are very traditional but this is outdated practise surely?

If it's DH's relative I usually put him first but if it's mine I put me first, if it's a joint acquaintance I put me first.

MIL puts FIL first when using names but always Mum and Dad or Nana and Taid for DH and the DC.

With my parent's friends for some reason there is a standing joke that they are Her name, His name. If anyone uses His name, Her name they all pretend not to know who they're talking about

@MrsPumpkinSeed

I don't organise cards for dh side. His sister wrote the card and she is the closest relative so I would have wrote her name first. Small issue but very telling on how women are perceived.

When I'm talking about couples I make a conscious effort to vary whose name I say first.

A one-off case like this is not necessarily anything to do with how women are perceived, though.

Some people put the other person's name first out of politeness. Others just don't think about it.

I would try not to overthink it tbh.

I generally put my husband's name first because I feel more comfortable when names are in alphabetical order.

Sometimes I'd like my brain to not notice crap like this.

I think it's polite to put other people's names before your own so I sign cards X and Rebecca and my husband signs cards Rebecca and X

I tend to go with the person closest to me. But also some names sound better in certain orders. So John and Susan, not Susan and John. With the latter you have two 'un' sounds to close and it's clunky. I bet once you strip that out there's a bit of a male first bias too...