Feminism: chat
The tiger that came to tea
Mango1982 · 25/08/2021 08:22
www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-9920825/Tiger-Came-Tea-lead-rape-harassment-campaigner-claims.html
This kind of nonsense is why I am not a feminist and it really hurts your cause it’s exactly in the same vain as company’s saying pregnant people
It’s bat shit
Some feminists were saying it promotes sexist stereotypes
Iam a stay at home mother their is nothing wrong with that and I do get the feeling that feminists hate the traditional family set up and I don’t understand why
I am not being made to stay at home if anything I felt pressure to work in the past witch ended up being harmful to my mental health and my family
Why shouldn’t girls be able to feel ok with wanting to be a stay at home and raise their children if that’s something they think they would like to do
TheCountessofFitzdotterel · 25/08/2021 08:28
I think you are taking the Daily Mail too seriously.
A feminist has pointed out that the relationships in the book are very old fashioned, which they are. A DM journalist has picked this up for click bait. There is not a feminist campaign against The Tiger Who Came To Tea.
CaptainMyCaptain · 25/08/2021 08:29
This is not new. The issue was raised on a course I went on in the early 90s (I was an Early Years teacher). I still read the story but always asked the children at different points in the story what their Mum would do. Their mums were always more proactive than the mum in the story but it made them think about it. When the Dad turned up I asked where they think he had been and, in my area, they usually said 'the pub'. When asked where they would go for tea if there was no food in the house the best suggestion I got was 'go to your nan's then you won't have to pay'. I think the women were the reliable, resourceful parents in their world and they loved the story.
RufustheBadgeringReindeer · 25/08/2021 08:29
@TheCountessofFitzdotterel
A feminist has pointed out that the relationships in the book are very old fashioned, which they are. A DM journalist has picked this up for click bait. There is not a feminist campaign against The Tiger Who Came To Tea.
This basically
Its one woman’s comment, not a manifesto
lanadelgrey · 25/08/2021 08:33
Well the Dad does descend as a feud ex machina to sort it all out at the end, so it’s v much a story that reflects when it was written BUT you can read with jokey commentary or slightly change the ending. DD turned out strongly GC despite many readings and was well aware of the context.we talked about the kitchen design and her grandparents kind of life as we went along.
Mango1982 · 25/08/2021 08:33
TheCountessofFitzdotterel
It’s not old fashioned ay 🧐loads of women stay at home to look after their children either for the first 5 years or till secondary
Also those deriding the daily Mail just remember they are the ones currently standing up for women’s sex based rights it’s symptomatic of the woke times we live in you judge what’s being said by who’s saying it father than if it’s true thought many of the women on here would of learned by now about the false guardian/vs daily Mail narrative
Frogsonglue · 25/08/2021 08:37
It annoys me because it says "daddy's beer", I always changed it to "mummy's beer" when I read it to my kids 
OP, however much you love being a stay-at-home mum (I was also primary carer when my kids were small), it's undeniable that most children's books perpetuate the stereotype of mums at home providing food and childcare while dads are put in the world working and earning, and generally doing all the other human activities apart from cooking and caring. And when there are problems to be overcome, it's generally the dads who swoop in and fix everything (I'm also looking at you, Fantastic Mr Fox). I try really hard to present my children with narratives that show women in a whole range of roles and jobs, and it's an uphill battle, especially with early years literature. I'm by no means a snowflake.
Mango1982 · 25/08/2021 08:37
www.joe.co.uk/news/the-tiger-who-came-to-tea-could-lead-to-rape-and-harassment-campaigner-claims-285997
Here we go for those who can only feel pure if there getting the same story from a woke new outlet
MrsOvertonsWindow · 25/08/2021 08:39
The Times are reporting this today and I agree OP. I'm very uneasy about dismissing all literature (for children and adults) that fails to conform to someone's ideas of acceptability.
The book is a charming fantasy - lovely to read aloud with a child and it's a massive leap to suggest that because of the family roles this is the precursor to boys growing up to be rapists.
VashtaNerada · 25/08/2021 08:40
Yep, you fell for it alright! Someone has sensibly pointed out that if children only have access to books with stereotypical gender roles it can perpetuate those stereotypes. Nobody has called for any books to be banned, they’ve just spoken about the context in which they are shared. If you read the article properly it’s very clear that the DM is just being sensational to get people to read the article.
RoyalCorgi · 25/08/2021 08:40
Zero Tolerance has drunk the Kool Aid, so I am not inclined to take any statements from them seriously.
It's not feminist to object to The Tiger Who Came to Tea, a brilliant, much-loved book that was created by a woman who fled the Nazis with her family in 1930s. If anything, Judith Kerr is a fantastic role model for girls, demonstrating that it's possible to have a happy marriage, raise two children and sustain a stellar career over 50 years.
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