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Who did you walk down the aisle with at your wedding?

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Iecydda · 13/06/2021 22:36

Don't want my dad to "give me away" - bleurgh!!

But not sure I fancy the walk on my own?

Not that we are having an aisle as such, it will be into the centre of a circle as we've chosen to have all of our guests form a circle around us (small wedding, just family and a few close friends).

We have a gorgeous little girl together who will be flower girl Smile and one much older bridesmaid.

I'd love to hear suggestions/about what others have done.

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EmmaGrundyForPM · 13/06/2021 22:37

Registry office - walked in with my husband-to-be

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elenacampana · 13/06/2021 22:38

I never considered my dad to have given me away, but I did want him to walk down the aisle with me because I trust him, love him, have known him all my life and didn’t want to do it on my own!

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RhinestoneCowgirl · 13/06/2021 22:39

I just walked on my own, no aisle as wasn't a church wedding, I just walked into the room followed by one of my oldest friends (I hesitate to call her a bridesmaid) who was one of our witnesses.

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Iecydda · 13/06/2021 22:39

@EmmaGrundyForPM Aw lovely! Yes I wondered whether to do that, with our little girl in between us? Smile

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Chasingsquirrels · 13/06/2021 22:39

1st: dad
2nd: DH & I walked in together

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TheLeadbetterLife · 13/06/2021 22:40

Walked down with my partner - registry office wedding.

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RhinestoneCowgirl · 13/06/2021 22:40

My mum walked down the aisle with my dad, her DH to be. Her own dad died when she was 13 and she didn't want anyone else to take his place.

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MsAwesomeDragon · 13/06/2021 22:40

We walked in together, with 15 yo dd1 in front of us, and 5yo dd2 in between us. It was a very small registry office wedding, but I still managed to have 5 bridesmaids Hmm.

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Iecydda · 13/06/2021 22:40

@elenacampana I totally understand. My dad wouldn't want to do it anyway as he's totally old school and it's my second marriage!! Confused

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AnneLovesGilbert · 13/06/2021 22:41

We walked in together with my DSC.

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Slayduggee · 13/06/2021 22:42

I walked by myself down the aisle. Both my parents are dead. There no way I would have let my dad as he was a violent controlling alcoholic and the same for my brother who saw it as ‘his right’ and apparently it was extremely disrespectful of me (controlling twat). I then had various male relatives offer to walk me down the aisle (as I was meant to be terribly sad that I was walking alone).

I told them that I was an adult in my 30’s and I was quite able to put one foot in front the other.

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NowtSalamander · 13/06/2021 22:42

My 8 month old baby - obvs I carried her but she was the person I walked with!

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Iecydda · 13/06/2021 22:42

Also, if you walk in together, is the best man still at the "front" as it were?

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Slayduggee · 13/06/2021 22:43

It’s was a church wedding as well.

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Saisong · 13/06/2021 22:43

DH walked in with DS and then I walked in with DD.

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Lnix · 13/06/2021 22:43

My dad passed away a couple of years before I got married. I would have loved him to walk me down the aisle, not so much to 'give me away' but just to be with me at a huge moment in my life. My brother did it instead, I didn't fancy it on my own. We took out the 'who gives this woman?' line. Whatever you feel most comfortable with on your big day is what is right for you!

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Iecydda · 13/06/2021 22:43

@Slayduggee Fair play to you Grin

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katy1213 · 13/06/2021 22:44

It's a bit late in the day for giving away if you've already got a child; just walk in together.

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Sweetpeasaremadeofcheese · 13/06/2021 22:45

I regret having my dad do it!
If I could do it again I would have my husband meet me at the bridal car and walk down together.

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RufustheBadgeringReindeer · 13/06/2021 22:46

Wedding abroad, walked with dh (obvs wasn’t quite dh at that point)

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Iecydda · 13/06/2021 22:46

@Lnix I do have an older brother but he is autistic so wouldn't cope bless him. My dad doesn't want to do it anyway as it's my second marriage and he's still in shock that I divorced (almost eight years ago now!)

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Ghislainedefeligonde · 13/06/2021 22:47

My lovely dad walked me down the aisle. He didn’t ‘give me away’ and I’m most definitely still my own person. Dh and I didn’t do the traditional vows, they were more based on partnership - start as you mean to go on!

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Iecydda · 13/06/2021 22:47

@katy1213 That's the point - I don't agree with the "giving away" part. My dad doesn't own me!! Never has, never will!

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LizziesTwin · 13/06/2021 22:47

Walked in on my own. Drove myself there & back. I gave the only speech at the reception. It didn’t occur to me to be walked anywhere by anyone. I think weddings were less fussy in the 90s.

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wheresmymojo · 13/06/2021 22:47

I had my Mum & Dad walk down the aisle in front of me and then I walked behind them on my own.

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